So, husband away all week with work. I'm home, 3 kids and dogs, work PT
with a lifelong disease, he gets home I was sounding off explaining my feelings and frustrations. He tells me can I now turn the hairdryer off. Meaning me, my voice, droning on. I've shut up, feelings hurt. Unheard and under appreciated.
AIBU?
Dh told be to turn hairdryer off now
Mumof3lads · 07/10/2022 18:54
missmamiecuddleduck · 07/10/2022 19:12
It sounds like you're fed up doing everything while he is away.
Is there a chance that it won't always be like that. as in him working away?
Mumof3lads · 07/10/2022 19:09
Gloriousglory this made me chuckle, nope. Hates football. Just selfish.
GloriousGlory · 07/10/2022 19:15
I'm glad it made you chuckle and you got my joke!
Go for a bath with a large glass of wine, let him
deal with kids.... and lock the door!
Mumof3lads · 07/10/2022 19:09
Gloriousglory this made me chuckle, nope. Hates football. Just selfish.
Fairislefandango · 07/10/2022 19:15
Why are posters assuming he'd just walked through the door? And assuming the OP would be feeling unheard and unappreciated if this were an isolated incident? And ignoring the dismissive language he used to shut the OP down? Do you think the OP would be posting about this 'trivial domestic argument ' if her dh were normally respectful and kind? I don't.
StopStartStop · 07/10/2022 19:17
Thread police out again, are they?
I'm sorry, OP. You needed support when your husband came home and he didn't give it. He might have been tired but you needed him.
DysmalRadius · 07/10/2022 19:24
Tbh, even if he had just walked through the door, you've obviously had a really tough week and he should at least be able to say 'that sounds shit - shall we talk about it once the kids are in bed?' rather than acting as though he has the right to ignore the difficult side of parenting just because he's been away.
The most generous interpretation is that maybe he feels guilty because presumably if he were not working away there would have been enough parents to go round? Not that that excuses his dismissive attitude, though.
NomeatNoveg · 07/10/2022 19:25
People don't post here for your entertainment. You do know that don't you.
SleepingStandingUp · 07/10/2022 19:35
You're passing out with a exhaustion, you need to get to THE GO and look at being signed off short term, and telling him if he doesn't start listening you'll be quitting permanently. That'll make him pay attention.
But I think you also need to think about how your life would be if he wasn't coming home to you every weekend
Mumwithbaggage · 07/10/2022 19:38
I had this for years - was at home with 3 then 4 children while he spent his weeks in 5 star hotels. Friday evenings were always tetchy. Worst one? He phoned up to tell me Robbie Williams was in the bar of his hotel so it was a lock in but with free drinks to make up for it. I hung up, He later phoned me to say Kiri te Kanawa had come in to give Robbie a kiss. I hung up again. Hadn't even managed to get dressed that day.
I absolutely get it.
MagnoliatheMagnificent · 07/10/2022 19:38
My ex used to say 'I'm not actually very interested' when I wanted to talk about things. Made me feel very angry!
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SpidersAreShitheads · 07/10/2022 19:44
What's your lifelong illness that you're suffering from? Not asking to be nosey, but it could be relevant. It's a bit of a vague term that could either mean there's a huge impact on your quality of life, or something that makes very little difference.
And is your DH away with work all week, every week?
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