To think one of each isn't that amazing?

[CarsonViolet]

So I recently had my first child, a son, and DH and I are likely going to start trying to conceive our next when he's 1 as we'd like them to be close in age (also to just get the baby/toddlers years over with quicker). Our families and some close friends know this and have been quick to make the standard "let's hope for a girl" "bet you want a girl" comments.

Anyone else honestly prefer the idea of having same sex siblings to a mixture? Anecdotally, based on my own experiences with my siblings and from what I've seen from my friend's children, I just feel that my kids will get on better/ be closer if they're same sex (in my case two boys). Not to mention there's more opportunity to reuse clothes, toys etc They also probably be more likely to have shared interests so no arguments on what we're doing/where we're going for family days out and stuff

I'm aware this absolutely wont be the case for everyone but I've just never seen the appeal on one of each. I always knew I wanted two kids and I always had a preference for either two boys or two girls.

Anyone else feel this way?

I didn't have a preference really but after my eldest was a girl I wanted our second to be a girl too because I thought that same sex siblings were closer. Our second's a boy and he and DD are so close 😍 Who knows what the future holds but it's lovely seeing them grow up together

Not necessarily!

My DH is one of three boys and his dad is one of five boys and I had a DS first and thought I was destined to be a boy mum but I'll be having my little girl in six weeks - his dad even said "how did you manage that" which felt a bit gross but hey ho!

I wanted another boy after having my little boy for the reasons above but over the moon to be having a little girl.

I have one of each, people were quite vocal about telling me how lovely it was "to have one of each".

Really pissed me off. I struggled with infertility for years and the fact I was somehow pregnant with another baby, any baby was amazing. Couldn't give a shit whether a boy or girl.

I have one of each, which is exactly what I wanted. They’re still young but very close. Relationships as adults vary so much, I know plenty of people who don’t get on with their siblings no matter their sex and others who are very close.

I agree with PP that it's just a conversational filler. All anyone really wants is to be able to conceive easily, and to have healthy babies. My own experience is that children with a small age gap are very easy to entertain as they're into the same things (namely running around, climbing, laughing, shouting, getting muddy) regardless of being boys or girls. I'd imagine it would be harder to occupy same-sex children with a big age gap.

Hopefully you'll give birth to another human. There is no way of knowing what their personality, or likes and dislikes will be whether they are male or female. It really doesn't make any significant difference.

Agree OP it's purely so the selfish parents can live out their dreams of having one of each gender whereas I think it's much more likely two sister willl have more in common and two brothers so for the kids I'd say two of the same is usually better

Before anyone starts of course there's exceptions to the above but generally speaking

I wanted one of each...thats what I got....then had another boy....would have wanted another girl if I had had a 4th

When I was pregnant with my first. I really wanted it to be a girl, it was a boy. Once I was pregnant with number 2 I decided I’d rather have another boy. As I thought two boys would be easier / get on better etc. DC2 was a girl 🤣

I had two dds, the number of people who asked me if I would "try again for a boy" gave me the rage. It was like they were saying there was something wrong with my two (perfect to me) babies.

While I'm fairly sure I'd have been delighted with whatever combination we got, having two the same has saved a load of money on hand-me-downs!

I like having both sexes. Silly things like DH loves watching the football and I love watching DD play netball!

Prince Albert and Queen Victoria were first cousins 😁

Pros and cons for both.
I know plenty of same sex siblings who were close in age but hated each other and fought all the time as kids/teens. (plenty who were close as well, to be fair!)
It's a bit of a lottery really either way.

I have a son and a daughter. I didn’t have a preference, all that gender stereotype shit isn’t for us. I just love them because they’re my children. They’re teenagers now and have quite different personalities but they are really close and share some interests. But family, having the same parents and our lives together bond them, fuck all to do with what sex they are. You don’t get to choose, just love them.

I have 2 DD's and they are amazing, I cannot describe my pride and love for them both! I probably would've said before we had children, I would've liked a son, but that was a mere fleeting thought when we started trying to have children, it's a ridiculous notion for me now.

I think my late DW was pleased having 2 DD's, however when it came down to it, we just wanted children and both set on having 2. I will never, ever forget either of their births and the feeling and the love within out family.

Best wishes to you and your family!

The fact that this was a reply to @KingaBee doesn't show up here for some reason 🤦‍♀️

*our

Before I had kids I had a vague idea that one of each would be nice because it makes it more likely you’d see a wider range parenting and family life. But I got same-sex twins and am relieved. I have quite a lot of twin mum friends and despite best efforts at not pushing gender conformity, society seems to do it’s thing from and early age and now I’m convinced it is, generally, quite a lot easier and more fun for them and the family as a whole having two of the same sex.

To had o E if each and someone said to me "Aren't you clever?" Like I had any choice or influence!

I have one of each. The only benefit to the later one being a different sex is that I can let him pee next to a tree if desparate without getting his shoes covered in wee.

It just doesn't really matter. All combinations have strengths and weaknesses.
I have one of each and it's awesome, wouldn't change a thing.

I (female) have 1 brother who I rarely speak to, so I was hoping for 2 of the same sex.

I did get 2 the same sex but they are both so different I feel I'm getting a one of each experience!

My siblings and I have the same sex. I’ve one of each. Their bond is nothing like the one I grew up in. We got along great but the relationship mine, has, is on a whole other level. I’ve seen that with many ‘one of each’ siblings. I’ve also seen some who are absolutely horrible to each other. I’ve seen sisters who hate each other.,

it doesn’t matter. What matters is the grounding and love you give them.

Ahh yes I hated this attitude and the 'well I'm lucky as I have own of each' oh somehow are others beneath you then? We had two sons 2 years apart in age and we were ecstatic but the amount of people who tried to force gender disappointment on me was unreal..I got a lot of 'oh what a shame' 'i feel sorry for you' and a so called friend who had found out she was pregnant with the opposite gender of her first telling me days after I gave birth how 'its a different kind of love you wouldn't understand (even though she hadn't even given birth at that point) and how it's not your fault that you had two of the same gender I'm just lucky' needless to say that ended that friendship. DH has a sister 2 years apart who none of us have contact with and he always wanted a brother. I am one of two of the same gender also and we are close though I'm also close to my half brother. We were so happy as our boys are so close but I couldn't ever say gender doesn't matter without being accused of jealousy...6 months ago we had DD (she was a surprise and I didn't even find out until second trimester so definitely not trying) and I still feel the same regarding gender. I think it's ridiculous and rude...we would have been thrilled with another boy as well ..I'm slightly annoyed I have to buy more new clothes though as some things just can't be passed on from boy to girl ( think such things as outfits with 'little brother' & and 'little man with lots of giggles' on) so she's costing more clothes wise at the moment 🤣🤦‍♀️

We had the same comments, and I honestly didn't mind what we had. We had a girl, after having had a boy first time round. Then we got comments saying "well you don't need any more now that you've got one of each". We'd like another at some point we think. But it upsets me that if we'd had a boy as a second child, people would assume we were having a third just to try for a girl. My girl plays with cars more than she does anything else. My boy carries his teddies and pushes his pram everywhere 🤷‍♀️.