My gran (99) is bedridden and lives on her own in a flat in a 55+ residential block with the help of carers (x4 a day). They did away with the warden a few years ago but a couple of residents volunteered to manage the block - letting in builders, carers etc. One of the volunteers (M) is in my opinion interfering and overstepping the mark. He’s been a neighbour for 12 years and more of an associate than good friend to my gran but recently he wanders into my nan’s place randomly to ‘check on her’ (uninvited as her door is left open for the carers).
However last week he took it upon himself without asking or being asked to move all her furniture (emptying cupboards and moving them and contents) from her lounge into her bedroom as we had arranged for a new bed to be delivered and placed in her lounge. My mum had only asked him to let in the delivery guys if they turned and we weren’t there and I had cleared my diary to spend the day Friday moving everything and get her room cosy for her in preparation. I don’t think it’s appropriate for someone to enter an elderly persons home and go through their things without their or their family’s consent especially when the elderly person is in a nightdress in bed. Also we don’t know what was on her cupboards so don’t know if everything is still there.
The neighbour also saw that I was at my gran’s on Friday as he was in the lobby when I arrived but came up later to see what we were doing at hers and then started to tell me what to do and where to move things!!! I was livid but for gran’s sake bit my tongue. I think he’s overstepping the mark but my mum disagrees.
Am I being unreasonable?