Or anyone they perceive to be lower than themselves
Nothing repulses me more than hearing people patronise waiting staff and people who work in retail. Slow timing them, being ‘assertive’ with them, demanding the nominal service charge for the table to be removed for literally no reason than ‘they shouldn’t have put it on the bill without asking me’.
Just think all of it is gross. Even if your new jumper has a snag in it or your food was cold, the person you are speaking with is almost always not to blame and they are at the bottom of the ladder just trying to earn an honest living.
I’ve been told previously that this opinion means I am virtue signalling but I really admire those working for minimum wage as often it’s jobs that have little thanks in exchange for a lot of manual effort.
AIBU?
AIBU?
To think you can learn a lot about someone from the way they speak to waiters & shop assistants
chatterbug22 · 29/09/2022 19:45
Am I being unreasonable?
333 votes. Final results.
POLLchatterbug22 · 29/09/2022 19:51
@Bouledeneige well you’d hope but I was out with friends the other day and one friend of the group put her foot down and made a remark about the service charge, the poor staff were rushed off their feet. Someone else agreed with her. Luckily me and another friend were privately sickened and discussed it after. Poor lad only looked 17 and probably didn’t know how to even remove the service charge, just made things awkward
Bouledeneige · 29/09/2022 19:47
Doesn't everyone think that? Its not exactly an unusual point of view.
LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 14/12/2022 01:37
I’d normally agree with you but TBH I’m absolutely sick of piss poor service post-COVID. Sick of seeing sulky eye-rolling waiters and waitresses looking like it’s completely beneath them to do their job and being generally unhelpful. Also the service charge shouldn’t be going on at all unless asked.
I’m also sick of people (women) being called Karen’s for daring to not tolerate shit service. I went to Smyths a little while ago and had ordered Mario Kart hot wheels figures with the main characters because that was the picture on the website of the item. They gave me a pack of secondary characters I didn’t recognise. When I questioned it the 22yo sneery arsehole said “It does say on our website MADAM that packs may vary. There’s nothing I can do”. I went on the page and it was in tiny writing at the bottom. There was only one picture of the primary characters, and no picture of the pack he handed me. I said “just some feedback for Smyths, you should have a picture of this pack on there so it’s clear it’s pot luck in what you order”. He looked at me like I was scum on his shoe and said “What do you expect me to do about it madam?”. I told him not to call me madam and I said can you check there is the pack with Mario etc in it. He refused. I went to the aisle myself and found one. I complained about him and I’m not sorry, he was a patronising twat.
Im sure if someone was filming I’d have been called a Karen but I’m too long in the tooth to spend £20 on a toy to get given the wrong one and meekly say “OK that’s fine” and slink off kicking myself. I was like that when I was younger, not now.
I think we need to normalise speaking up against shit service. Not rudely of course, but I’m sorry I’m not going to sit and wonder if the waiter has anxiety or is having a bad day before I send back my incorrect food that I’m forking out money for.
Usernamen · 14/12/2022 09:14
Completely agree with this.
I would never be rude, but I am not going to tip-toe around young staff who may or may not get triggered by a less-than-satisfied customer voicing their concern.
And I too have noticed a huge drop in customer service standards since Covid. It’s depressing.
LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 14/12/2022 01:37
I’d normally agree with you but TBH I’m absolutely sick of piss poor service post-COVID. Sick of seeing sulky eye-rolling waiters and waitresses looking like it’s completely beneath them to do their job and being generally unhelpful. Also the service charge shouldn’t be going on at all unless asked.
I’m also sick of people (women) being called Karen’s for daring to not tolerate shit service. I went to Smyths a little while ago and had ordered Mario Kart hot wheels figures with the main characters because that was the picture on the website of the item. They gave me a pack of secondary characters I didn’t recognise. When I questioned it the 22yo sneery arsehole said “It does say on our website MADAM that packs may vary. There’s nothing I can do”. I went on the page and it was in tiny writing at the bottom. There was only one picture of the primary characters, and no picture of the pack he handed me. I said “just some feedback for Smyths, you should have a picture of this pack on there so it’s clear it’s pot luck in what you order”. He looked at me like I was scum on his shoe and said “What do you expect me to do about it madam?”. I told him not to call me madam and I said can you check there is the pack with Mario etc in it. He refused. I went to the aisle myself and found one. I complained about him and I’m not sorry, he was a patronising twat.
Im sure if someone was filming I’d have been called a Karen but I’m too long in the tooth to spend £20 on a toy to get given the wrong one and meekly say “OK that’s fine” and slink off kicking myself. I was like that when I was younger, not now.
I think we need to normalise speaking up against shit service. Not rudely of course, but I’m sorry I’m not going to sit and wonder if the waiter has anxiety or is having a bad day before I send back my incorrect food that I’m forking out money for.
Firecarrier · 14/12/2022 00:28
Service charges absolutely should not be added. I find it incredibly rude. The poor lad can ask someone how to remove it and then he'll know for next time.
SinnerBoy · 14/12/2022 13:57
You're not confusing him with Mike Tyson, are you?
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