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To feed partner bagel that’s been on the floor?

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 16:35

So I was making some cream cheese and bacon bagels for me and my boyfriend today, and one accidentally dropped on the floor…

It was the last one so I couldn’t just toast another, and boyfriend had been looking forward to it so didn’t want to admit to being an idiot and dropping it on the floor as he would be really disappointed.

The floor is cleaned daily, and I thought what he doesn’t know can’t hurt him, so I quickly picked it up and put it on the plate and served him the bagel. But I did feel guilty watching him eat the floor bagel. 😖

Am I being unreasonable to serve boyfriend the floor bagel? Ease my guilt and tell me I’m not the only one to do something like this…

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PinkStarAtNight · 29/09/2022 19:21

I don't think this is actually real, I think you're just having a laugh with people because no one would actually do this and then genuinely ask if they were BU...

But if by some chance you are real and you really did give him the bagel from the floor because you didn't want to eat it yourself, AND knowing that he wouldn't like to eat it if he knew, then you're awful really. If you were really that bothered about him looking forward to it, you should have given him yours. It was your mistake to drop it.

If you yourself didn't care about germs and thought your boyfriend was being silly by being a 'germaphobe' then your actions might be slightly understandable. Although, if you knew he wouldn't want to eat it and you weren't bothered, you should have had the germy one yourself.

It's the fact that you yourself wouldn't be comfortable eating it so gave it to him without telling him, knowing that he wouldn't eat it if he knew...AND it was his meal that HE had been really looking forward to...as a PP said, you don't see him as an equal. And now you're joking about it on MN

Please tell me this is not real and people like you don't really exist.

mamabear715 · 29/09/2022 19:21

Lol! I smiled to myself once when I gave my late DH the biggest slice of chocolate cake. I thought, I must really, REALLY love this guy!
So I'd have probably had the dusty bagel, but who cares? As PP's have said, 5 second rule!

KazMa · 29/09/2022 19:24

Everyone’s acting like she dropped the bagel on the toilet 🙄 It fell on the clean floor and DH is unaware so I see no issues at all. He doesn’t have to know it fell on the floor

LeakyTapTap · 29/09/2022 19:26

BarbaraofSeville · 29/09/2022 16:53

That's shocking.

You clean your kitchen floor every day Shock

Why?

I clean mine every day but live on a working farm and it gets filthy if I don't!

Redqueenheart · 29/09/2022 19:31

What? grim.

As for the 5 seconds or 10 seconds rules that people are quoting, it's nonsense. Bacteria can attach to the food as soon as it hits the floor.

Ragwort · 29/09/2022 19:35

Of course it's fine, but I can't get why anyone would wash their floor daily ...

Chesneyhawkes1 · 29/09/2022 19:38

I'd give my husband the floor bagel all day long.

I once put a slice of cake on the sofa arm for him and before he came into the room to eat it, the dog licked it. I said nothing 🤐

Lcb123 · 29/09/2022 19:59

No it’s fine! We’re too clean nowadays…

Maybebabyno2 · 29/09/2022 20:06

This is one of those things that i just wouldn't even think about. My son dropped a yogurt on the floor in the kitchen the other day and I wiped the splodge up with my finger and ate it. I have clean floors, we don't wear shoes in the house. Who cares?

None of us ever get ill. I think it's because of stuff like this, being exposed to a few germs is good for you!

properdoughnut · 29/09/2022 20:35

Chesneyhawkes1 · 29/09/2022 19:38

I'd give my husband the floor bagel all day long.

I once put a slice of cake on the sofa arm for him and before he came into the room to eat it, the dog licked it. I said nothing 🤐

That is vile

properdoughnut · 29/09/2022 20:37

KazMa · 29/09/2022 19:20

I do things like this all the time and don’t see the problem. I cook/prepare all meals and snacks, so I give myself the nice bits and DH can have the stuff I don’t want - eg strawberries or blueberries that are turning mushy I’ll give to DH and I’ll take the good ones for my share

Really?! You don't see a problem with this?

ilovepixie · 29/09/2022 20:56

My mum always says clean meat never fattened a pig!

Lalalolol · 29/09/2022 22:08

Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 16:51

Yeah he wouldn’t have eaten it then, but he would have given me the sad puppy eyes and I would have felt really bad about disappointing him when he was looking forward to the bagel.

I have never done anything like this before so I’m feeling really bad now… Do you think I should own up and tell him and apologise?

In all fairness he seemed to enjoy the bagel so I don’t think the 2.5 seconds it was on the floor affected the flavour…🤔

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You could have shared the non dropped one - 50:50 and discard the other one if you both wouldn't want to eat the dropped one. I would say not being honest to him and offering him something you wouldn't have was not very nice.

Lalalolol · 29/09/2022 22:12

Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 16:54

I have one of those spray mop things so it’s literally like a 2 second job (best purchase of the year!)

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Can you share the link of the mop? Sorry, I know that's not the point of this thread. But I hate wet wipes for floor cleaning, keep sliding and bad for environmental too.

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 29/09/2022 22:12

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 29/09/2022 16:50

😂😂😂 You've really jumped the shark there

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Some posters frequently live up to their name!

Lalalolol · 29/09/2022 22:17

KazMa · 29/09/2022 19:24

Everyone’s acting like she dropped the bagel on the toilet 🙄 It fell on the clean floor and DH is unaware so I see no issues at all. He doesn’t have to know it fell on the floor

Then why didn't she eat it?

OneTC · 29/09/2022 22:19

Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 16:41

I gave him the floor bagel as I couldn’t bring myself to eat a bagel I know has been on the floor…

Im a terrible girlfriend aren’t I? 🫣

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OneTC · 29/09/2022 22:21

Chesneyhawkes1 · 29/09/2022 19:38

I'd give my husband the floor bagel all day long.

I once put a slice of cake on the sofa arm for him and before he came into the room to eat it, the dog licked it. I said nothing 🤐

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 22:21

Lalalolol · 29/09/2022 22:12

Can you share the link of the mop? Sorry, I know that's not the point of this thread. But I hate wet wipes for floor cleaning, keep sliding and bad for environmental too.

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This is the mop I have from Amazon, I use either fabulousa or zoflora solution with it… it’s actually on offer at the moment lol don’t you hate when you buy something and then later see it’s on offer , typical 🙄

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 22:21

Sorry forgot to attach the screenshot 🤣

To feed partner bagel that’s been on the floor?
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justasmalltownmum · 29/09/2022 22:30

This happened in our house sort of. I picked it up to toss it away, and DH took it and ate it.

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 22:31

Just phoned my boyfriend while he’s at work to check he’s ok.

The floor bagel doesn’t appear to have made him unwell … I think he will live.

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KazMa · 30/09/2022 14:15

properdoughnut · 29/09/2022 20:37

Really?! You don't see a problem with this?

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Nope. What is the problem @properdoughnut

i don’t want to eat the mushy fruit, DH isn’t fussy so I give it to him. He doesn’t check what I’m having etc so not aware I’ve given him the bad stuff. He’s welcome to make his own snacks/dinners…

KazMa · 30/09/2022 14:15

Lalalolol · 29/09/2022 22:17

Then why didn't she eat it?

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@Lalalolol because she knows it fell on the floor. Her DH was unaware so it doesn’t effect him

DysmalRadius · 30/09/2022 14:22

wackamole · 29/09/2022 18:25

Well, the ethical argument for giving it to him:

Rationally, you both know the floor is clean and eating a bagel that touched it briefly probably won't do you any harm. But emotionally, you'd each be bothered by eating a bagel that you knew had touched the floor. You knew the floor bagel had fallen, he didn't. Therefore you each ate your bagel happily rather than one person being unhappy or without a bagel, or both of you having less bagel because you split the clean one.

Just wait until after he's out of the danger zone for botulism if you're going to confess.

This is the pragmatic approach - so long as you don't undermine the equilibrium with guilt!!

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