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To feed partner bagel that’s been on the floor?

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 16:35

So I was making some cream cheese and bacon bagels for me and my boyfriend today, and one accidentally dropped on the floor…

It was the last one so I couldn’t just toast another, and boyfriend had been looking forward to it so didn’t want to admit to being an idiot and dropping it on the floor as he would be really disappointed.

The floor is cleaned daily, and I thought what he doesn’t know can’t hurt him, so I quickly picked it up and put it on the plate and served him the bagel. But I did feel guilty watching him eat the floor bagel. 😖

Am I being unreasonable to serve boyfriend the floor bagel? Ease my guilt and tell me I’m not the only one to do something like this…

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EscapeRoomToTheSun · 29/09/2022 16:50

properdoughnut · 29/09/2022 16:45

Yes and tbh I'd leave him. He should be able to trust you to treat him as you'd want to be treated. I know it's "only a bagel" but you've decided it's not good enough for you but he can just eat it. You don't see him as equal.

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😂😂😂 You've really jumped the shark there

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 16:51

SpaghettiSquash · 29/09/2022 16:45

That makes it even worse! If you weren't prepared to eat the one that had been on the floor you should have told him what had happened and let him decide if he wanted to eat it or not.

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Yeah he wouldn’t have eaten it then, but he would have given me the sad puppy eyes and I would have felt really bad about disappointing him when he was looking forward to the bagel.

I have never done anything like this before so I’m feeling really bad now… Do you think I should own up and tell him and apologise?

In all fairness he seemed to enjoy the bagel so I don’t think the 2.5 seconds it was on the floor affected the flavour…🤔

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properdoughnut · 29/09/2022 16:51

BEL88 · 29/09/2022 16:49

@properdoughnut
"Yes and tbh I'd leave him. He should be able to trust you to treat him as you'd want to be treated. I know it's "only a bagel" but you've decided it's not good enough for you but he can just eat it. You don't see him as equal."

🤣Jesus Christ that's a bit harsh 🤣

It's not. It's a slippery slope. She is treating him like he's not as good as her and can just lump the floor bagel.

HappyHamsters · 29/09/2022 16:51

You should have told him so he had the choice to eat it or not. If you didnt want it then maybe he didnt either. I think its quite disrespectful.

properdoughnut · 29/09/2022 16:53

Yes tell him you don't respect him or care if he gets ill from floor bagel as long as its not you that has to eat it.

BarbaraofSeville · 29/09/2022 16:53

That's shocking.

You clean your kitchen floor every day Shock

Why?

spookyjupy · 29/09/2022 16:53

Whatsthestorytomorrow · 29/09/2022 16:39

I once saw a customer drop a French stick on the floor in front of the customer service desk in Tesco.
The staff told her to go and get herself another one.
she replied laughing “it’s alright, I’m just going to give it to my husband” 😳

Your own, regularly cleaned, floor (esp if you don’t wear shoes in the house) is fine. A store floor that lots of people have tramped all over is disgusting!

that might have been my aunt. He cheated on her 😱 😱 😱

properdoughnut · 29/09/2022 16:54

BarbaraofSeville · 29/09/2022 16:53

That's shocking.

You clean your kitchen floor every day Shock

Why?

Keeps dropping Bagels on it?

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 16:54

BarbaraofSeville · 29/09/2022 16:53

That's shocking.

You clean your kitchen floor every day Shock

Why?

I have one of those spray mop things so it’s literally like a 2 second job (best purchase of the year!)

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Pixiedust1234 · 29/09/2022 16:55

Did you brush off the imaginary bits of dust first and did you blow on it too for the finer bits of dust?

Personally I would have given him the choice...but I would have scarfed mine in the kitchen first 😅

WitchDancer · 29/09/2022 16:57

Don't tell him!!!

georgarina · 29/09/2022 16:59

You wouldn't eat food that spent a second on your own kitchen floor?

JFC

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Chloefairydust · 29/09/2022 17:05

Pixiedust1234 · 29/09/2022 16:55

Did you brush off the imaginary bits of dust first and did you blow on it too for the finer bits of dust?

Personally I would have given him the choice...but I would have scarfed mine in the kitchen first 😅

I totally forgot to brush off the imaginary dust, I just buttered it and slapped the cream cheese on… Does it make it worse that I have buttered imaginary dust into the bagel?

I almost told him, but I just couldn’t bring myself to… It might be one of those kind of secrets I have to take to the grave with me 👀

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Georgeskitchen · 29/09/2022 17:22

Course it's fine, I do it all the time 🤣 if it's been momentarily on a cleanish floor it will be fine.
Oh and I certainly don't clean my kitchen floor every day 🤣🤣

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 29/09/2022 17:25

I think it would have been fine if it was the only one.

But a bit mean to eat the non floor one yourself and give him the floor one!

Wafflesnsniffles · 29/09/2022 17:27

Our floor isnt anywhere near as clean and Id totally do this. A few germs wont hurt. I do this fairly often (clumsy clot!) never suffered any ill effects.

liveforsummer · 29/09/2022 17:40

BEL88 · 29/09/2022 16:49

@properdoughnut
"Yes and tbh I'd leave him. He should be able to trust you to treat him as you'd want to be treated. I know it's "only a bagel" but you've decided it's not good enough for you but he can just eat it. You don't see him as equal."

🤣Jesus Christ that's a bit harsh 🤣

Jeez 🤣. I'd have done the same OP. Yanbu.

wackamole · 29/09/2022 18:25

Well, the ethical argument for giving it to him:

Rationally, you both know the floor is clean and eating a bagel that touched it briefly probably won't do you any harm. But emotionally, you'd each be bothered by eating a bagel that you knew had touched the floor. You knew the floor bagel had fallen, he didn't. Therefore you each ate your bagel happily rather than one person being unhappy or without a bagel, or both of you having less bagel because you split the clean one.

Just wait until after he's out of the danger zone for botulism if you're going to confess.

Cascais · 29/09/2022 18:27

Give him yours?

ChelseaRobertsofMalibu · 29/09/2022 18:35

Personally I don't 'feed' anyone but my child.... I did however prepare food for my husband (when he was alive). Can’t say I have ever felt the need to 'feed' him.

SusanPerbCallMeSue · 29/09/2022 18:38

5 second rule. I'd have done it. I have done it - for me, my children, anyone else around. We haven't died yet. Or maybe this is the afterlife, doomed to eternal posting on Mumsnet for feeding people floor food.

Anonymous48 · 29/09/2022 18:40

ChelseaRobertsofMalibu · 29/09/2022 18:35

Personally I don't 'feed' anyone but my child.... I did however prepare food for my husband (when he was alive). Can’t say I have ever felt the need to 'feed' him.

Surely the definition of feeding someone is preparing food for them?

Meadowsalways · 29/09/2022 18:43

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ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 29/09/2022 19:17

I've done it before. DP is none the wiser (or sicker).

KazMa · 29/09/2022 19:20

I do things like this all the time and don’t see the problem. I cook/prepare all meals and snacks, so I give myself the nice bits and DH can have the stuff I don’t want - eg strawberries or blueberries that are turning mushy I’ll give to DH and I’ll take the good ones for my share