to ask daughters boyfriend why he's been kicked out.

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My mid teen has been with her boyfriend for 5 months and I've really taken to him, could tell from the start he'd come from a good home. Always very polite and mature & very supportive of her.
My daughter said early on that his parents were too strict. She says he won't tell her why (big red flag). She's either lying to us (so I don't think less of him) or he can't bring himself to tell her (unlikely in my eyes). He's obviously done something. And I want to know if he's not what he seems.
He's coming over later. (he's currently staying with a friend).
Aibu to ask him why?

I think when the boyfriend of your teenage daughter is kicked out of their home you do have a right to ask. What you don't have a right to is an answer.

He's at 6th form. Has a part time job, and I've never met his parents. The people that he is staying with are very respected by him.

He has video evidence of abuse though.

So sad, had hoped it wouldn't be the case. Glad he has support.

Oh god, so sorry, totally inappropriate wrong thread.

Imo kicking a teenager out of their family home is a pretty abusive act in itself, unless he was being violent to a family member.

OP I think you've done the exact right thing. You might have just given that boy just a bit of support and kindness that burns in his chest for years, regardless of what happens between him and your daughter. Speaking from experience.

@ItsDarkAlready you might be my sister.

Thank you for doing this. It could have saved him from violence, exploitation etc.

Thanks so much for being understanding and not jumping to conclusions about him. When I read your post I was convinced the situation was something like this. It's great that he has you he knows he can turn to now.

Depends on what you mean by a "good family". Anyone who threw their child out wouldn't be a good family in my book.

Thanks again
He's asked to go home and his dad has said no. Think it was a pretty short conversation by the sounds of it, so he doesn't know if he has to stay away for good.
My daughter has been in tears saying she feels so sorry for him and what he must have gone through a few years back.
I said that it must be very hard but he needs to just take each day at a time at the moment, and that he's got us and some other grown up people behind him.
She said that she thinks his dad controls him and his mum too.
I asked if she thought her boyfriend has done anything and she doesn't know.
It's all a bit hard to understand really.
Apparently if his dad says he can't do something, if he challenges it, his dad goes way over the top with his strictness.
It doesn't seem to add up... I don't know.. but it not my job to try and figure it out, just be a listening ear.

Tell her to get him to speak to his school support re this situation with his dad. They may be able to help sort accommodation/income for him.

👍Thank you

Yes definitely speak to school so they can get SS involved
You can't just kick a 16 year old out on the street