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What you and partner do that others would find gross

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VegMam · 25/09/2022 21:44

Inspired by the peeing in the shower thread, where apparently it’s gross to share a towel (I disagree). Are there things you and your partner do that might be considered gross?

In my house we have multiple toothbrushes and my husband and I just use whichever one (ie we share toothbrushes).

However, we’d never wear outdoor shoes in the house, nor would outdoor clothes be allowed on or in our bed.

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cookiecreammmpie · 25/09/2022 23:28

Done a poo while he was in the bath. Not through choice though, I wasn't well and he didn't have time to get out.

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bookworm1982 · 25/09/2022 23:28

I have don't understand this showering before or after sex thing that keeps coming up? My husband and I have never done that. I'm pretty sure none of my friends do either. I'm guessing most couples - especially with kids - have sex when they get into bed before going to sleep - are you saying we should then get back of bed after and have a shower?? Why??

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SocksAndTheCity · 25/09/2022 23:29

Shag on the dining chairs and kitchen surfaces. I do clean the surfaces afterwards though Smile

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bookworm1982 · 25/09/2022 23:29

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 25/09/2022 23:26

DH has a cyst on his back which keeps coming back. It's the gift that keeps on giving. He knows to offer me it when I've had a bad day and it looks fit for bursting. I'm so grim but I'm a sporner 😂

This is gross but so funny.

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honeylulu · 25/09/2022 23:33

17 years without farting. Did you have to stick a cork in your arse?

Didn't you get more and more bloated? I'm imagining you start to look like Augustus Gloop after a while.

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Pineappleamy · 25/09/2022 23:34

Dcat loves licking dhs armpit. I find it revolting. Armpit is best the morning after a shower. She loves catching him after he's worked out and hates it if he's just had a bath.

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MomwasCasual · 25/09/2022 23:34

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 25/09/2022 23:26

DH has a cyst on his back which keeps coming back. It's the gift that keeps on giving. He knows to offer me it when I've had a bad day and it looks fit for bursting. I'm so grim but I'm a sporner 😂

My DH is a sporner. Sometimes I'll accidentally log onto our Smart TV in his account, and be 'oh dear God 🤢' at his recently viewed items. Like, seriously, can't you search for porn or something, something less offensive for me to stumble upon.

Similarly, if I happen to have a zit on my forehead etc. The bastard just talks to my forehead the whole time, with a glazed look in his eyes.

He's quite gross now I think about it

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YellowMeeple · 25/09/2022 23:34

pinok · 25/09/2022 23:01

Surely EVERYONE farts openly around their partner once the relationship is long-term?

One reason I’d hate to find myself single and dating again is the initial not-farting stage of a relationships which is hard work. Nobody can keep that up for years! No one.

Been with DH for over 20 years. Neither of us has ever farted intentionally in front of the other. I can think of a couple of instances each where one has popped out accidentally. I’m sure we both do in our sleep occasionally but I think I generally hold them in overnight too. I usually wake up pretty gassy!

Happily wear outdoor clothes on and in the bed though, currently lying in bed fully clothed trying to summon the energy to get up and get ready for bed properly!

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Somethingneedstochange · 25/09/2022 23:35

I've kissed all my pet's even when I was growing up. Who doesn't I thought it was normal. My daughter hugged and kissed a sea lion at a waterpark in Spain. Was when we did a meet and greet and photos.😂😂😂

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Confusion101 · 25/09/2022 23:35

YellowMeeple · 25/09/2022 23:34

Been with DH for over 20 years. Neither of us has ever farted intentionally in front of the other. I can think of a couple of instances each where one has popped out accidentally. I’m sure we both do in our sleep occasionally but I think I generally hold them in overnight too. I usually wake up pretty gassy!

Happily wear outdoor clothes on and in the bed though, currently lying in bed fully clothed trying to summon the energy to get up and get ready for bed properly!

Why?

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BadNomad · 25/09/2022 23:36

We sometimes poop in front of each other (not at the same time, that would be weird). If he's on the loo, I will sit in the empty bath to chat to him. If it's me who is releasing the demons, he will sit on the floor. We've both worked in healthcare, so nothing bothers us.

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Mydogatemypurse · 25/09/2022 23:36

We are both quite into cleanliness and hygiene. We both shower or bath 1 or 2 times a day as both work physical. We will share towels. But they are washed after we have both used them. The worst other thing would be not changing sex sheets the next morning. Most of the time we do. But we have forgot.

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MomwasCasual · 25/09/2022 23:38

Mydogatemypurse · 25/09/2022 23:36

We are both quite into cleanliness and hygiene. We both shower or bath 1 or 2 times a day as both work physical. We will share towels. But they are washed after we have both used them. The worst other thing would be not changing sex sheets the next morning. Most of the time we do. But we have forgot.

You need the Crispy Sex Towel

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LunaLoveLemon · 25/09/2022 23:40

Mydogatemypurse · 25/09/2022 23:36

We are both quite into cleanliness and hygiene. We both shower or bath 1 or 2 times a day as both work physical. We will share towels. But they are washed after we have both used them. The worst other thing would be not changing sex sheets the next morning. Most of the time we do. But we have forgot.

Sex sheets 😂😂😂

Dear lord I am not about to start changing my sheets three or four times per week! Who has the energy for that?!

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Mydogatemypurse · 25/09/2022 23:41

MomwasCasual · 25/09/2022 23:38

You need the Crispy Sex Towel

Sound lush ha

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Somethingneedstochange · 25/09/2022 23:42

So he's a pimple popper binger? I've got a few family members and friends that are into watching them.😂😂😂 Notice most are Americans where they have to pay through the nose for healthcare.

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Mydogatemypurse · 25/09/2022 23:43

LunaLoveLemon · 25/09/2022 23:40

Sex sheets 😂😂😂

Dear lord I am not about to start changing my sheets three or four times per week! Who has the energy for that?!

No they really erm need it

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tyyger · 25/09/2022 23:44

explain the outdoor clothes thing please? I have some bug that's going around & was in joggers & hoody & spent most of the day lying on the bed. I popped out to the shop to get some lemsip & honey. Should I have got changed into different clothes to go to the shop or should I have changed upon my return from the shop?

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ExtraOnions · 25/09/2022 23:53

I’ve just been doing some “home surgery” on my husbands Ingrowing toenail …

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YellowMeeple · 25/09/2022 23:58

Confusion101 · 25/09/2022 23:35

Why?

I assume you mean why no farting…. I was brought up in a non-farting household so that has always seemed normal- it never occurred to me to suddenly start farting around other people and it would seem very odd now as it’s been 20 years! I think he was too, although we have never discussed it. Fundamentally though it’s not very pleasant for other people, so we generally discourage the DCs from doing it too, although they don’t get told off like I was as a kid. Nobody has exploded yet!

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blackpearwhitelilies · 25/09/2022 23:58

Fimilo · 25/09/2022 23:03

My friend has been with her husband nearly 17 years and neither have farted in front of each other

I’ve been with my husband for 27 years and, though we’ve both accidentally let one out now and again, this is v infrequent and we try not to fart in front of each other. It’s happened only a handful of times ( in waking hours. I expect we fart in our sleep).

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StillMedusa · 26/09/2022 00:01

The dog and cat bowls go in the dishwasher... and I often use our pasta bowls to feed the dog... it's just kibble and beef slices on top and the bowls are a good size.
My Grandson's reuseable nappies get bunged in the wash with everything else. (pooed one get soaked first)
The cat and dog sleep on the sofa and beds as they please.
I'll use Dh's toothbrush if I'm downstairs and feeling lazy as he keeps his in the wetroom.

We are older so farting...happens. But I would NEVER wee or poo in front of dh. He once had to help clean me up after food poisoning left me ejecting uncontrollably from both ends and that was awful!

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JudgeJ · 26/09/2022 00:06

pinok · 25/09/2022 23:01

Surely EVERYONE farts openly around their partner once the relationship is long-term?

One reason I’d hate to find myself single and dating again is the initial not-farting stage of a relationships which is hard work. Nobody can keep that up for years! No one.

I remember many many years ago a female comedian, Victoria Wood(?), saying that when in a new relationship the first fart is always a relief, in more ways than one probably, politely trying to hold it in gets to be hard work.

I recall when my now late OH had piles I actually squeezed one he was in so much pain.

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marvellousmaple · 26/09/2022 00:08

WTF are "sex sheets"?

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Abouttoblow · 26/09/2022 00:09

Sharing toothbrushes 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

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