What you and partner do that others would find gross

[VegMam]

Inspired by the peeing in the shower thread, where apparently it’s gross to share a towel (I disagree). Are there things you and your partner do that might be considered gross?

In my house we have multiple toothbrushes and my husband and I just use whichever one (ie we share toothbrushes).

However, we’d never wear outdoor shoes in the house, nor would outdoor clothes be allowed on or in our bed.

Well no, dear @tyyger . That's rather the point isn't it? Humour?

Or rather, highlighting most people's participation in a pastime that on the surface, does seem quite gross......but is enjoyable!

We share a toothbrush - we have one each but just completely incapable of keeping two toothbrushes charged at the same time. We also share bathwater, towels, drinks etc.

Blowing your nose on a towel is one of the worst things I’ve ever read. I want to believe that is a joke. How could anyone move on with their day knowing their is snot on a towel in their house..? And then putting the snot in the washing machine? Horrific.

Surely EVERYONE farts openly around their partner once the relationship is long-term?

One reason I’d hate to find myself single and dating again is the initial not-farting stage of a relationships which is hard work. Nobody can keep that up for years! No one.

My friend has been with her husband nearly 17 years and neither have farted in front of each other

We do the toilet in front of each other. Sometimes the conversation is too good to be interrupted imo.

I have fairly low standards, but even I think never washing your hands is grim.

Our sheets aren't changed fortnightly. I wipe my face on hand towels on occasion. Sex often happens without a shower on either end. The kitchen doesn't get cleaned every day. The dog bowl gets washed in the dishwasher. Jeans are worn for about a week before being washed. Vacuuming only happens when the floor is noticeably full of crumbs and dog hair. The toddler helps with cooking, so there is the odd sneeze in the bolognese.

My XH and I used to live in a one room cabin in the woods. There was nothing private. All sites, smells and sounds were right there. There was teasing etc. but mostly it was just normal and we looked after each other in sickness (he helped me toilet and shower when injured) and in health.

My next relationship was very different...no burps or farts allowed I soon learned and he was disgusted at the thought of female body hair and over or under- done make up. We were together for 4 years and I have no idea how I coped.

Gimme a man who understands women shit and stink and have hair and spots and bad skin etc

We also rarely wash our jeans. Not sure why, as we wash all our other trousers after 1 or 2 wears.

My friend has been with her husband nearly 17 years and neither have farted in front of each other

When you get to certain age though don't they start popping out?

17 years! Howww

And then putting the snot in the washing machine? Horrific.

Surely worse things go in the washing machine?

@EarthSight must try harder next time 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why is the idea of snot in the washing machine so bad?

What about drool, sweat, cum, skin oils, period blood, urine etc? Do you just throw away anything touched by humans 😆

Shhh no one tell her about cloth nappies!!

Kids wipe their noses on their clothes lo the time. I have two preschoolers, my washing machine is always full of snot.

Someone was grossed out by a pp washing a towel with snot on it in the washing machine ? Why ? How many of us have washed tissues by mistake ? And when I was growing up we all used proper hankies (Mum even ironed them) I really don't understand why snot would be more disgusting than any of the other bodily secretions the laundry contains

It's a mystery 😆

Not washing hands before eating

do labour poos and wees count? I had my fh and a midwife helping me on and off the loo!
"don't forget the toilet cardboard bowl!" is permanently etched in my mind!

-Used cloth nappies with our DCs
-Use cloth wipes on our own bums (not just DCs) frequently
-Bathe with the kids and/or share bath water
-Pee in the shower and bath
-Use handkerchiefs (apparently snot is controversial?)
-Share toothbrushes if we forget to take both when traveling
-Don’t always shower immediately after exercise (both train a lot so on a double day it’s not always practical)
-Definitely don’t shower before or after sex, the vast majority of the time
-Reuse sweaty running and cycling clothes
-Share towels

I don’t feel like any of those are exceptionally terrible tbh…

If I am doing the washing and have a runny nose then I will blow it on whatever is going in the machine (an item of my own clothing I should add) and then wash it dont see the problem.

I am finding it amusing though that 11 years ago I was having a home birth with DD and had a sweep the day before I had her. The midwife, for reasons best known to herself, put the used gloves on the top shelf of my half emptied dishwasher. The bin was next to it.

I asked if AWBU to find this weird and not OK and got a proper roasting because (and I am quoting) "Do you really think that your vagina contains toxic waste?!"

But not washing your hands or sharing a tooth brush is disgusting!

I'm more weirded out by the OP's 'no outdoor shoes in the house' and 'no outdoor clothes on or in the bed' than I am by her sharing a toothbrush with her husband.

I quite often wear long boots in bed while having a shag. These same boots sometimes go outside.

I also put snotty hankies in the washing machine, and the dog bowls in the dishwasher. However, I thought these things were all normal.

We always wash hands, don't routinely share toothbrushes but would in a pinch, don't intentionally fart in front of each other (22 years and I haven't exploded yet), don't need to shower before or after sex, and hell would freeze over before I sat on the loo making small talk.

We do share the bed with one of our dogs though (just one, the other is a proper dog who sleeps downstairs in a crate etc) and I do like to snuggle into his damp, sweaty right armpit in the morning before we get up.

DH has a cyst on his back which keeps coming back. It's the gift that keeps on giving. He knows to offer me it when I've had a bad day and it looks fit for bursting. I'm so grim but I'm a sporner 😂

Share the bed with dog and cat.

We def don’t shower before sex…I never knew this was a required thing?!

We wear outside clothes on my bed, I also didn’t know people find that weird!

This thread has been educational! 🤣