To ask parents in law not to use racist slurs around DC

[OneLittleLamb]

DC (twins) are only 6 months but have used slurs around them such as ch*nky (to describe someone from Asian decent) and sometimes discusses black people in casually racist ways.

DP says babies are too young to know right now but I feel it's setting a precedent. How do I address this? It makes me feel sick tbh

Lol, no that isn't just a Scottish thing!! My husbands family down South definitely still use that work for a takeaway. If they use it in front of us I'd pull them up on it, same as if my parents up here used it.

I do remember it being used when I was young, I've probably used it myself, but that was 30 years ago and I've learned why its not ok!

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It is beyond ridiculous to suggest OP leaves her husband because of his relatives

It's actually not clear if they're married since OP refers to parents in law but also "DP"

Either way they're his relatives so ideally it's up to him to deal with it - and if he won't I'd be reconsidering the relationship (actually I wouldn't have had DCs with him in the first place, but it's a bit late for that)

Fascinating.

My DH grew up in a small Midlands village. Heis the only one who left and came here, to a large, diverse city and has been here for 40 odd years.
All of his brothers find it hilarious to use racist words in front of me as they consider me a 'Posh southern bird'. I refuse to see them. There's also a bit of Tommy Robinson love from one of them, which I obviously can't tolerate; plus one of Dh nephews was in the army and revelled in rape jokes.
They genuinely think they're funny - I think they are foul and luckily have managed to keep our dc away as much as possible

Oh, and they love a bit of homophobia too. Pathetic bunch

I hate language like that so I would have a response ready to put them off using it in front of me tbh. And I agree I'd be very uncomfortable with them using it around or infront of my kids. I think you're perfectly within your rights to ask them to stop. At least when your little ones are up a bit you can debrief it with them if something is said and they overhear but better if it's not said at all in the first place.