Does everyone have someone they secretly fancy?

[dottypotter]

In real life I mean not people in the media/spotlight.
If so have you kept it to yourself or told anyone?
Does everyone have someone they secretly fancy.
I do.

Not me.

Not these days

No I can’t be bothered nowadays. But you can tell us about your crush if you want to talk about him/her op.
(Should I also put they to cover all bases?)

I've been with my new man 8 months. Since I met him absolutely nothing for anyone else. I can still appreciate a good looking person but but definitely not a crush.

No.

Ha Ha no chance totally secret. All in my head.

Yes! He's just lovely, handsome and kind and really decent. However he has a lovely wife and beautiful child and is very happily married so I just admire from afar. I'd never ever let on you anybody except all of you 😆

Yep. I've got a stupid little crush on one of the customers. He must never find out.

Less so than I used to, but I reckon you’d have to be dead not to respond to people that way occasionally. We’re animals, after all.

Rarely, almost never celebrities, and I never look at someone and think phwoar - if it happens its usually someone I am working closely with who fits my 'type' but its fleeting and I might briefly enjoy the feeling but I don't feed it. More relaxed about it as I get older, its just a private life in my head, not affecting anyone else as long as I don't let it affect my actions irl.

Yes I do.

For years. It's really unhealthy

Yes, a much younger man at work.
I'm attached but he brightens up the work day.
I'm so shy that I can't even bring myself to speak to him really apart from hello, I'd certainly never act on it.

I thought this was quite commonplace, OP.

No, not me. Just my husband.

For the first time in my life NO

Fancy the shit out of DP, no one else could come close

No, because I’m in love with my partner

Yes definitely. I’m very happily married but it’s completely normal to have crushes as far as I’m concerned. They’re just fantasy for me, nice bit of daydreaming, if there was ever a hint of it being reciprocated I’d probably run a mile!

You can fancy people while you are in love with someone.

I fancy loads of people.

Oh I have someone I'd happily run to if he'd had me.
Which he won't.

Absolutely and I know she kind of knows which makes me blush

Nope, quite happy with my dp

Only have eyes for Mr Kira apparently.

Yes. And I'm quite happy with DH too.

Just because I fancy someone else doesn't mean I don't love my DH. I'd never act on it, that's all that matters.

@Underanothersky
just because that applies to you doesn’t mean it a universal truth.

@Underanothersky
And actually, for me, there’s a difference between noticing someone’s attractiveness, in a passing, fleeting unattached sort of way. However actively lusting after someone and coveting their attention, whilst apparently being in love with one’s partner, is contradictory. Most people wouldn’t like it if their partners were spending time thinking about someone else, think it’s called having an emotional affair these days