To think a breastfeeding chair shouldn't be too comfy?

[AliceAbsolum]

I may well be insane with this and pfb before they're even born. Do tell me if I am.

Baby due Dec. DH wants a big comfy chair in the nursery where he can put his feet up, lean back, etc. But I'm worried that makes it far to easy to fall asleep in, and that'll be a SIDs risk, and a more upright but comfortable one would be better.

What is/was your chair like? Any recommendations?

Jeshh... I'm sure I never used to worry about a frickin chair in this amount of detail.

Your baby won’t be sleeping in that room and the chair will become a clothes horse. Save your money.

Honestly I fed on my side in bed, it made it a millions times easier. We followed the safe sleeping 7.

www.llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven/

You are overcomplicating this
Stop making assumptions on what you are gonna do when the baby arrives
You have no idea about what birth youll have or what kinds baby youll have.

When the baby arrives you will do what feels comfortable and safe to you
But for now you need to stop googling things and stressing yourself out so much. You sound so on edge.

Stop googling
Googling sids and risks and all other scary things is never a good idea. Using your common sense is. .

You’re right to think that. Chairs / sofa’s are the most dangerous

The best preparation you can have is knowledge. It is easy to be so invested in not falling asleep, that you have no idea what to do if you literally cannot stay awake. By all means, prepare for success, if baby sleeping in a cot is important to you. But have a backup plan!

Watch this video on safe cosleeping: www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

If you are worried that you might fall asleep holding the baby: stand up, go to your bedroom. Kick husband out, throw all pillows and bedding on the floor. Lie down with baby. Keep feeding if you want. The baby won't fall out. Don't put any barriers up, those would be dangerous. Just a clear mattress with a fitted sheet. If you stay awake, great. If you fall asleep, it is the safest place it could have happened. And in the morning, you can reassess things with a clearer mind.

With my 3 DC, to start with I sat up in bed and fed them and, once in their own room, I’d sit on an armchair. In terms of not falling asleep, I found that having the radio on helped. I listened to the world service. Despite the crashing tiredness, I have fond memories of those nights when I was up breastfeeding in the wee small hours, darkness and stillness all around me, listening to the soothing voices of WS presenters and bonding with my baby.

OK but when DD was a newborn I once fell asleep on the toilet mid poo so I'm not sure it's going to matter how comfy the chair is.

You won’t use a breastfeeding chair in the nursery.

Baby will be in your room for the first 6 months at least, so you’ll be feeding sat up in bed mostly. Or on the sofa during the day.

OP I know you've had a lot of great advice on this thread

I both breastfed and bottle fed (2.5 year old and 8 month old). I absolutely rate this chair. It rocks, reclines, locks and has a stool

Don't just think about those first few months but also long term. This chair is in my youngest's room and we use it for naps, bedtimes, stories for older toddler, nightmares for toddler, feeling poorly cuddles, teething etc,

It's not just about feeding but somewhere comfortable to hold your child and wrap them in your arms

This one has been in use for nearly 3 years and probably has a couple more left in it

Obaby 7 Position Deluxe Reclining Glider Nursing Chair & Stool, White amzn.eu/d/6I1CbzD

I dont have a specific chair as such, I get baby out of cot and get back into bed.. but yes, far too cozy and I've been known to nod off 🤦‍♀️ so a dining room chair on the landing now 😆

I used my BF glider A LOT. That long long BF just before bed - I'd take DS up to my room where the chair was, make it all dark and read a book while gliding.
I didn't want to get into bed. I wanted him to associate that time with bed time. It was pretty upright, but very comfortable. Low arms so my elbows had room. With DS1 I didn't have a glider but a fairly upright chair in his room.

Ikea STRANDMON was great for me. When kids were little I mostly fed in bed at night, but when bfing a massive toddler a big comfy chair was great, and didn’t worry about falling asleep then. Babies are only little for a little while.

If you’re worried put other precautions in place, don’t I go the full Iron Throne.

Why not just sit on the sofa? Personally I couldn’t buy anything baby related until they’re arrived safe and well why not wait and see how you go once they’re born

I had the same experience as this. Also didn't have a chair - just sat up on bed to feed.

I had a rocking chair (old fashioned wooden type). It was comfortable but I never fell asleep in it. You want to avoid nursing the baby to sleep and put baby back in the crib while still awake.
You have to be able to get out of the chair holding the baby - too squishy and this might be tricky.

Meh, mine isn't either. I'm still exhausted nearly three years in. Sometimes it's just the kid(s) not the bloke

Get a cosy chair for when your baby is a bit bigger, and can be fed then popped down in the cot. You may have baby like that from early on. I was dead set against Co sleeping and worked and worked at getting my baby into their cot - until I fell asleep sitting up feeding, so gave in to lying down feeding as the least unsafe option.

That was my biggest fear too - my way of dealing with it was to get out of bed for every feed.. Up to the nursery - into the chair - Babylo Nested Soothe - super comfy but also upright and the rocker part kept me on my toes.. A fully stocked snack tray, gentle light on.. I found it easy to stay awake after the initial few weeks - my biggest problem ended up being not wanting to wake up too much so I'd get back to sleep!!

I used to lie on my side, latch DS on with my arms thrown above my head and pass out. No duvet on obviously!

Honestly OP, you need to go with your instincts, I was only dangerously tired in first couple of weeks and husband was up then making me tea and doing nappy changes..
Everyone's advice is going to differ e.g. I've already read here

• a chair won't be used (I used mine day and night)
• chairs/sofas are the most dangerous (I believe the bed was and would never Co sleep)
• don't feed to sleep (I did at every feed, it's nature's way and there were no problems with it)

You need to trust in yourself and do what you want - if that's buy a lovely chair do that :-)

You really need to see what kind of baby you get - I was so lucky mine loved their cot and happily fed to sleep, I was very blessed - you can't prepare for anything completely, just do your best xx

Just don't overthink it.. A next to me is still their own separate sleeping surface which is what's recommended, just make sure duvet doesn't go near it etc..

OP, I hope you're taking these comments with a pinch of salt:

"you will barely use the nursery for the first 6 months"

"Your baby won’t be sleeping in that room and the chair will become a clothes horse."

"You won’t use a breastfeeding chair in the nursery."

It does irritate me when people say "you will do xyz" "your baby won't do xyz" as if all mothers and babies are the same 🙄

Plenty of people posting on this thread (myself included) did use a breastfeeding chair in the nursery a lot from day one.

We never had a chair in the baby's room - they slept on our room til about 7/8months, so I fed sat on the edge of the bed.

When they went into their own room we didn't do night feeds any more.