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Residential trip

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lollipoprainbow · 22/09/2022 18:14

Autistic Dd has the year 6 residential trip coming up. It's three days and two nights away. It's to an activity centre in the new forest and I know she will hate it. Plus being away from home and friendship issues in the class. I'm not sending her, seems like she is the only one not going. She's upset today as everyone is the class is talking excitedly about it and she feels so left out but I know she will feel so miserable if she goes. Have I done the right thing?

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beachcitygirl · 23/09/2022 08:57

Literally no one has said you're a crap mum so stop with the hyperbole.

Lots of us (myself included, have kids with asn/autism etc

You have made an exceptionally bad decision, I understand you're doing it through love & worry.

Still doesn't make it right tho. Yes your daughter will feel safer at home with you. Yes, you will feel safer with her at home with you.

However

Ships are safe in harbour but that is NOT what they are built for.

It is your job as her mum to help her with hurdles like this & help her build coping strategies & resilience & independence where possible.

You are doing her ZERO favours.

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lollipoprainbow · 24/09/2022 12:16

I've spoken to teacher about it to reassure me and my dd really wants to go so she's going !! She's very very excited.

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Newuser82 · 24/09/2022 12:47

That's amazing news! Hope she has a brilliant time.

girlmom21 · 24/09/2022 13:07

lollipoprainbow · 24/09/2022 12:16

I've spoken to teacher about it to reassure me and my dd really wants to go so she's going !! She's very very excited.

I'm glad she's going OP. I'm sure she'll have a great time!

pickledeggnog · 24/09/2022 13:10

I'm glad you're finally letting her go op

You've posted before about your DD and I really feel for her considering...

Knickerthief1 · 24/09/2022 22:56

I hope it goes well. It may not but it's all part of your daughter learning for herself what she can and can't cope with. This will really aid her in later life x

AiryFairyLights · 24/09/2022 23:02

I had this with my son. He suffers with a number of things and the trip was a 4 night abroad - he didn’t want to go, then he did when he heard everyone talking about it, then he didn’t - so I said no. Kept him off while they were away and promised him a trip away just me and him (which we still haven’t had due to covid etc).
Trust your instinct, you more your child xx

AiryFairyLights · 24/09/2022 23:03

You KNOW your child better than anyone x

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