I’m seeing a lot more of this attitude quite recently. Why do people have children if they can’t look after them or pay for their childcare? Why is it that grandparents are expected to do the childcare so the parents can work? I think it’s acceptable if the grandparents are offering to help out, but to feel like grandparents should be obliged to offer childcare is simply taking the biscuit.
AIBU?
Entitled attitude: grandparents must provide childcare
Hope54321 · 22/09/2022 14:11
Am I being unreasonable?
1527 votes. Final results.
POLLJudgeJ · 23/09/2022 21:41
It makes me laugh when people are all ‘oh my parents didn’t splash out money on iPhones/gym memberships back in their day’
no because they didn’t fucking exist 😂 they weren’t valiantly going without.
Wow, a social scientist in the making! Of course those examples of technology didn't exist but there has always been 'the latest' in every generation! My parents were the first in our avenue to get a fridge, I was talking to my grandchildren the other day about watching the '53 Coronation on a tiny 9 or 12 inch black and whote TV, a lot of the neighbours in there and the curtains drawn! We'd actually bought/rented it for the Cup Final the month before. People bought/rented what they could afford, a lot of second hand furniture changed hands when young people were setting up home.
I know it's the MN mode to sneer at such 'anecdotes', that doesn't distract from their veracity.
Bluestream · 24/09/2022 10:43
It is very reasonable of them to expect that ! Why have children otherwise? Also the world left behind for your grandchildren this is the least you can do !
Wouldloveanother · 23/09/2022 11:39
It makes me laugh when people are all ‘oh my parents didn’t splash out money on iPhones/gym memberships back in their day’
no because they didn’t fucking exist 😂 they weren’t valiantly going without.
SleeplessInEngland · 23/09/2022 11:33
I think people need to get real. In my parents 20s they didnt have their own cars, they didnt move out of the family home until they got married, they didnt have gym memberships, they didnt go abroad on holidays once a year etc. Nowdays, all my friends except me spent their 20s living it up and doing what they wanted, travelling the world etc.
All the anecdotes in the world don't change the fact that housing costs are on another planet now compared to what they were 40-50 years ago. Coupled with over a decade of wage stagnation and the most expensive childcare in Europe and new parents have a really shitty time of it, I'm sure most would agree.
Iseestupidpeople · 23/09/2022 21:29
Actually you are entitled if you think grandparents shouldn’t help out. They have done so for thousands of years. You know it takes a village and all. But the last generation where mum stayed at home with kids pretty much ended with the baby boomers. And yes they paid a lot less tax in comparison and had better benefits from the NHS being entirely free to going to Uni for free as well as ending their kids to Uni for free and not to mention being able to by a nice suburban 3-bed with garden for £3,000 and still paying a mortgage for this in 2000 20-30 years after buying it, when you couldn’t rent a bed sit for the tiny amounts they pay. Yes they were and are still a lot wealthier.
Iseestupidpeople · 23/09/2022 21:29
Actually you are entitled if you think grandparents shouldn’t help out. They have done so for thousands of years. You know it takes a village and all. But the last generation where mum stayed at home with kids pretty much ended with the baby boomers. And yes they paid a lot less tax in comparison and had better benefits from the NHS being entirely free to going to Uni for free as well as ending their kids to Uni for free and not to mention being able to by a nice suburban 3-bed with garden for £3,000 and still paying a mortgage for this in 2000 20-30 years after buying it, when you couldn’t rent a bed sit for the tiny amounts they pay. Yes they were and are still a lot wealthier.
AnnieSnap · 23/09/2022 20:12
WTF! Jesus self entitlement personified 🙄
tfresh · 22/09/2022 14:17
It's the world grandparents have created. Most families will require 2 working parents to have any chance of putting a roof over the kids head.
Grandparents could avoid this by giving back to the system that has given them so much. However, I don't see this happening anytime soon, so maybe chin up and help out.
MarieIVanArkleStinks · 24/09/2022 13:43
NB. All this 'I pay more tax than you pay' is tantamount to 'my mum's better than your mum'.
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Reveriesreverie · 23/09/2022 18:06
Yes. You voted a succession of @#£&)+)- into parliament. Your house prices were peanuts. You earnt enough to have the luxury to stay at home looking after your kids whilst your husband went to work a job that covered all the expenses. You chose to have children that are now suffering the consequences of your voting actions.
Roll up your sleeves and help them. Cause we're all struggling.
Romansolider2014 · 24/09/2022 14:41
All the posters on here waxing lyrical about how Gp don't need/shouldn't feel any obligation to help out at all/take an interest in their GC.
Can only assume such posters are not in situation with both parents working FT to make ends meet and zero help at all. Haven't given birth alone as DH with older child at home. Haven't passed out due to exhaustion.
come on trolls, I know you've been waiting....... 👹
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