I have a friend who I have known for a long time, over 15 years. She is lovely but occasionally flakey. Seems terrible with money. Twice she's been broke and I have offered to lend her money which she was very slow to pay back. She has sold her house and told me she put the money in a ISA.
She has just asked me to loan her some more money. I have young kids, she doesn't and presumably has a pot of cash but prefers not to dip into it? When I ask her she tells me it's still in the isa. She keeps saying to me that she would help me out, but recently she offered to babysit ( I didn't ask) so I could go to to a family event. When I went to check the timings a few days before she told me she had made other plans. Leaving me with no child care last minute. She does things and invites say 3 friends but I'm never in that inner circle. I feel like I'm her plan b.
So all things considered I'm thinking she needs to ask her plan A friends or dip into her savings. I have been avoiding her since she asked. I just don't want to as I know she will pay me back slowly in dribs and drabs but most of all I don't want to be her default when cash runs out. Why not save up? Put money aside for emergencies? I feel like I'm going to lending her money forever. I initiallysaid yes but im regretting that now.
AIBU?
Friend asking me to lend her money
IncessantNameChanger · 22/09/2022 07:56
Am I being unreasonable?
667 votes. Final results.
POLLSeenYourArse · 22/09/2022 11:31
I guarantee she HASNT got a pot of money from the sale in an ISA and she in fact was in debt and has at best repaid that debt with any proceeds from the sale! No chance any sane and solvent person would be asking to borrow money from anyone if they had least of all a ‘plan B’ type friend!
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