To leave my daughters

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Hi! I have 2DD (5yo and 5months) and my partner and I have been wanting to go for a weekend trip to London. We went in the summer last year but I was very early pregnant and super tired and sick so we planned to return.
My partner and I have been talking about it in a casual way to go in November. We both have birthdays in nov and would love to do some Christmas markets and do some shopping. It’s now getting to the time to start to book trains and hotels but I’m worried about leaving DD2 in particular.
Both girls would stay with my partners parents and I know DD1 would be completely fine it’s just the baby I’m worried about. I’d love to know peoples opinions and WWYD? She would be 7 and a half months when we are planning to go, she sleeps through the night well but is very clingy with me. We see their grandparents regularly - at least once a week. I don’t know I guess I feel guilty for wanting to go away as she is so young and I don’t think DD1 slept out until she about 2. Opinions are welcome, I just want to know what others would do/have done.
Thank you x

I'd take the baby with me, but I see I'm in the minority.

My DP and I have decided against the trip. I know if I’d of gone I’d of been fine when there but I just don’t think DD2 is ready yet. She’s too small and needs us. My DDs are the most important people in this situation, not us, so their needs are coming first. Also we live up north so it’s not like its few hours away and can return easily if baby was inconsolable so we’re thinking to maybe do a trial night with GPs and then look at something a bit close to home, York Christmas markets maybe, we wouldn’t even have to stay over. I think us talking about going was more of a very small fantasy to keep us going when we were feeling a bit burnt out and not something we were 100% comfort doing yet 🤪.
For those suggesting to take the children I just don’t think this is really what we were after, we do loads of fun family events at Christmas time like the Santa train, grottos and shows. It wasn’t for them it was for us.
Thank you all for your great advice!

It's not wrong to go away but personally i wouldn't leave a baby as I would be uncomfortable with it and just worry. I trust my mum but like my kids home.

Though my kids rarely go away overnight from us anyway. My 10 year old has been away a handful of times, my nearly 6 year old and 3 year old twice overnight since they were born. You really need to do what's right for you not what other people are comfortable with.

Well, I would do as you are so to me, you are doing the right thing. Babies do need us and want us.
I do hope you get a night in the not too distant future though x

Sorry I couldn’t be much help @Hungrycaterpillarsmummy as I’m not breastfeeding. How old is your youngest son? Is he old enough to go without for the evening/night/morning and you pump so your supply isn’t affected?

I never left my dd1 overnight until I went in to have ds. I left my son at 8 weeks for 2 nights to ho yo a wedding in London, I regretted it and barely slept. Current baby has just turned 1 and I haven't left her overnight and wouldn't unless in an emergency. Do whatever you think is best, there shouldn't be any judgement from anyone.

*go to even!

I went abroad for 4 nights for a friend's birthday when DD1 was 7 months old. I missed her, but I had a wonderful time, and so did she (my husband looked after her, so a bit different, but he couldn't get time off work so she was with her grandparents a lot in the day). I say go for it!

I think it's a very personal decision that can only be made by the parents and carers, there is no right or wrong.

For me it was too early, DH booked a birthday night away, and arranged his DP's to look after DS. I was very upset and hated it. It felt more like a gift to his DP's who were desperate to babysit overnight without me. I was still combination feeding.

If you're ready, you trust the grandparents and baby is fed and looked after, then it's the right decision for you.