AIBU to think you shouldn’t take a newborn baby on a holiday abroad

[chardie87]

Ive recently just came back from a holiday to barcelona and it was the worst plane ride of my life! A poor newborn baby was screaming at the top of its lungs the whole flight. I have kids myself a Daughter who is 20 and a son who is 16 so i know how stressful i can be in a public place when your baby starts crying but i would never take a tiny baby on a 4 hour flight. It’s not fair for the baby and it affects all the other passengers on the plane. I think it’s quite irresponsible to bring a freshly born baby on a plane, i’m sure this will be an unpopular opinion but a lot of the people on the plane were being affected by it. From what i seen on the baby it was only about a month old, atleast wait a few more months until your baby is old enough to play with toys and be occupied!

AIBU to think it’s selfish to bring a tiny baby on a 4 hour flight abroad?

Where were you flying from that a flight to Barcelona took 4 hours? Sorry if you've answered this, I haven't had chance to rtft.

Pipe down you self entitled mare.

That is your opinion, which you are of course entitled to. I took my child on a long haul flight at 6 weeks old and she slept the whole way there and then again home, so you can’t assume all babies are the same.

4 hours you say? Whereabouts in the UK are you? 🤔
Also, yabu

Last I checked, first or business on most airlines doesn't have 'adults only' policy either, so it's still private or take the chance there might be a baby.

My son was 4 weeks old when I flew back to my home country for a close family members wedding. You have no idea the reason they were on a plane.

As you said, you’re a mum and know how it feels when babies cry. Try to think back and empathise, not judge. Life is hard enough for new parents without being made to feel bad for a child crying.

We just had to do a number of 4 hour train journeys, as my FIL died when our baby was 2 and a half weeks old. Should we have stayed at home, and not supported my MIL, or attended the funeral, just for other peoples comfort whilst travelling?

Why is it unfair on the baby?

Unless there’s some reason why babies shouldn’t fly then YABU.

YANBU. It’s the reason I don’t fly short-haul or economy and that I have noise cancelling headphones.

Friends of my DM took their DGD to Disney World when she was less than a year old (about 9 months IIRC). I’m sure she has lots of lovely memories 🙄.

I had to take 1y/o DD to BIL’s wedding overseas. The judgiest person over her crying was my MIL.

Divorced ex, and divorced his family too, what joy 😂

I also travelled with baby & toddler relatives moving back from overseas, long haul flight to UK (I was staying with them to help prepare to move). Absolute nightmare but the people on our flight were so lovely! Helped entertain the stroppy 2y/o. 6 month old was better behaved tbh.

@chardie87 - maybe you should take a private plane so that you can't be bothered.

Noise cancelling headphones sort this out. Unfortunately they won't help with the toddler sitting behind who kicks your seat for the whole flight and parents do nothing about it...

Personally I wouldn't take a very small baby on a flight but as other posters have said, they might not have a choice- might be visiting a sick relative or a family funeral.

YABU. The parents and baby have just as much right to travel as you do. The idea that children should stay at home and not take part in normal life activities so as not to inconvenience/bother other people is bizarre to me. If the parents were at home they'd probably just be holding the baby in their arms anyway, it's no different on a flight.

your own fault for not taking headphones and listening to something to drown out there noise 😆

YANBU.

I've not flown with a baby that young but I have flown with a young baby and children of various ages. The baby was by far the easiest - too young to get bored, fell asleep easily, could feed on take off and landing so didnt get sore ears...toddler was the worst age, wanting to run up and down the aisle, taking their seatbelt off, chucking stuff, etc.

Meh. If it was a literal newborn, they're not even that loud compared to a tantrumming toddler. Unless you want to ban all children from flying, new baby is no worse than older baby.

We shouldn’t judge. I spent a two hour flight holding a 7 week old baby that wasn’t mine!! The mum was also with a toddler and as she got on and was juggling with her bags I offered to hold her infant. He slept the whole way on me and we didn’t want to disturb him. She was so grateful as she concentrated on her toddler who was much more of a handful. Try helping next time if you can. We have all been there with a screaming baby.

There are worse people to be on a plane then a newborn.
The worst flight I was ever on was when a family were sitting behind me. The kids ranged from 2 up to 10ish. The parents were hammered and the kids ran riot. They kept trying to jump over our seats onto us. In the end the air hostesses refused the parents more alcohol and gave them free water bottles.

The next worse flight was a very very roudy stag do.
Personally I worry more when I see a drunk stag or hen do heading towards my plane then a young baby.

Highfivemum you sound amazing. Aroha nui! (Much love!)

I would think the memories were for them and not for the baby. Why can’t adults have a good time with a baby? Your life doesn’t just stop when you have a child. I know plenty of adults without children that love Disney. Not my cup of tea, but I’m sure where I like to go away isn’t their bag either.

Why don’t you admit you were just annoyed by the crying spoiling your flight and quit with the faux-concern about the baby??

You’ve no idea why they were flying, and to be honest it’s none of your business either

I’m curious where you flew to though - as flying to Barcelona from England is a 2 hour flight, not 4.

I’ll bet it was worse for the mother of the baby worrying about her child and the huffy other passengers.

be kind.