AIBU to think you shouldn’t take a newborn baby on a holiday abroad

[chardie87]

Ive recently just came back from a holiday to barcelona and it was the worst plane ride of my life! A poor newborn baby was screaming at the top of its lungs the whole flight. I have kids myself a Daughter who is 20 and a son who is 16 so i know how stressful i can be in a public place when your baby starts crying but i would never take a tiny baby on a 4 hour flight. It’s not fair for the baby and it affects all the other passengers on the plane. I think it’s quite irresponsible to bring a freshly born baby on a plane, i’m sure this will be an unpopular opinion but a lot of the people on the plane were being affected by it. From what i seen on the baby it was only about a month old, atleast wait a few more months until your baby is old enough to play with toys and be occupied!

AIBU to think it’s selfish to bring a tiny baby on a 4 hour flight abroad?

[Nsky62]

It’s unpleasant, no fun for anyone, nor an overweight person spilling into their space, annoying toddler or someone taking I’ll, these things happen

[Paigeycakey]

Have you actually experience yourself OP of taking your own kids on a plane?

My Goodness it is not easier taking a toddler rather than a smaller baby on a plane. I wouldn't do literally newborn no but 4 months onwards ahhhh DS was a dream a sleeping when we were out. I did an 11 hour flight when DS was around 20 months it was herendous!

[LittleBearPad]

Take headphones and get a grip

[Aconitum]

I would happily pay a premium for a child free flight. I always upgrade - premium economy - can't afford first class - which used to pretty much guarantee that there wouldn't be any small children there (been there, done that) but sadly it doesn't seem to work any more.

[MargotChateau]

The drunk brits in their 60’s drinking and swearing and shouting in the aisles of my recent holiday were far more bloody annoying than any crying baby on a flight. Stop judging, should babies not go on public transport either? 🙄

[Quitelikeit]

Seriously?!?!

[Somuchgoo]

My flight (for holiday!) with my 6w old was the easiest flight I've done with children. She slept the entire flight!

[Ladybyrd]

Yes. YABU.

Not everyone is going on holidays. Some (many) people have family abroad. You prioritise yourself above a family wanting their child to meet their grandparents? Or a mother returning with her baby to her home country? Or (perish the thought) a family daring to take a holiday too?

Pay entra and fly in business class next time. I'm sure crying babies are sacrificed to the gods there.

[rainylake]

Small children of all ages have just as much right to be on a flight, bus, train, or any form of transport, as any other passenger. But for some reason some adults deeply resent their presence in public spaces.

Babues might cry, toddlers might have a tantrum, adults might talk loudly or tip their seats back or have their music so loud you can hear the hiss through the headphones. Should we ban middle aged men because I was next to someone on a flight who manspread into my seat or ban young women because I was behind someone with an annoying laugh? It is a form of public transport and so open to the public, and the public can be irritating. If you don't like that, maybe don't travel.

[TheGoodFighter]

Are people so dim they think the only reason someone might be on a plane is to go on holiday?
I travelled with newborns..because I live in a different country to my family.

[Grumpybutfunny]

Noise cancelling head phones OP. You will always get someone you don't like on flights, I prefer a crying baby I can blockout vs the drunk who gets us diverted to off load them.

[Mamiamamia]

I took a 12hr flight with my tiny newborn, we were lucky enough to upgrade to business class with air miles. He didn’t make a peep the whole flight, either breastfed or slept. Other passengers were surprised to discover he had been on the flight when we arrived at the destination.

[Underwater11]

A flight is public transport, don’t want to be around the general public? Fly private. Otherwise stop dictating which humans can use public transport and which can’t. Also its a flight to Barcelona not Australia.

[Eminybob]

I took DS1 on holiday when he was very very little and he didn't make a fuss at all on the plane. Never has done since actually.
Took Ds2, age 3, away for the first time this summer and he screamed and cried the whole time.

Nothing to do with age.

[User0610134057]

Wait until they’re beyond toddler age

really? You’d do that and not see your parents/in laws/visit your home country until your child is 3 plus? By which time you may have a 2nd so hang on better wait until they’re 4 and 7?

[UndertheCedartree]

I think that's a massive generalisation. I took my 4 week old (at the time) on a plane to meet his grandparents and I just stuck him on the boob if he cried. Mine travelled a fair bit when young as so much of our family are abroad. I had the things I brought to keep them entertained down to a fine art. The only issue was passengers in front putting their seats back and almost hitting my babies on the forehead!

[DariaMorgendorffer]

YABU

[shrunkenhead]

Why didn't she just feed it or put a dummy in??

[sageandrosemary]

YABU.

[luxxlisbon]

I doubt the baby got registered and had a passport approved at 4 weeks old. It was likely older and you’re hurt bad at gauging the age of a baby from a distance.
I took my baby on a plane at 2 months old.
Apparently my baby isn’t allowed to meet its grandparents and I’m not allowed time with my family after giving birth, then at 3 months it was to visit my mother in hospital and at 4 months a funeral.
I also had a woman tut at me travelling solo with a baby and ask to move.
Seriously fuck people like that.

The reality is younger babies sleep a lot and are significantly less annoying than a wailing toddler, cocomelon out loud, a 7 year old kicking your seat and a drunk stag do.

People travel on planes for all sorts of reasons. Yours is just a holiday so lighten up.

[PAFMO]

@AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair

Why do posters on here jump to the most unlikely reasons for things?

Despite Barcelona being a top holiday destination for Brits the couple with a baby might be repatriaing a body, wtaf?

In fairness, as you can see, most of the posters who've answered the OP travelled with tiny babies NOT to go on holiday.

[Luredbyapomegranate]

Could have been visiting sick family, lots of oldies living in Spain.

But you are as entitled to have a sunny holiday as the parent of a young child as anyone else. Generally babies and toddlers are alright on flights (I fly a lot) so you just caught a bad one. On long flights I always take earplugs, although that’s more to drown out annoying people than babies.

[OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea]

I took rack of my dc abroad when tiny. I think 2 of them on a plane and the other we drove. That was fun stopping every couple of hours to break from the car seat and feed. I spent a lot of time dangling a boob over the carseat too.

Anyway, it was to take them to see their very elderly great grandmother who would not have been able to travel to see them and I would do it again in a heartbeat.

[OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea]

I would be impressed if the baby were only a month old too, a couple of weeks to register the birth if they are lucky and then the actual passport application!

[Mariposista]

People have families abroad you know. Not everyone is traveling for pleasure.