Are you blunt/do you tell it like it is

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I have always been quite a sensitive person. I can take some things to heart and I would never not consider people's feelings when I'm saying things to them.
However it seems almost celebrated and desirable to be this very blunt sort of person who has zero filter, has constant 'banter' and basically never uses any tact, just blurts out whatever they think.
My partner told me the other day he 'loves' blunt people. I have a friend who honesty seems to have no filter, she never used to be like that and my other friend was like, "I'm really loving this new Sarah!"
I feel like my personality is seen as some sort of weakness.
I'd never for instance comment on someone's weight negatively, unless they had told me themselves they were trying to lose weight, or if they were in a dangerous situation and there was cause for concern.
The other day I showed my partner a picture of a friend's baby and he just said "That baby's ugly and has a massive head."
I admit I was taken aback as I'd never say something so cruel about a baby.
I'd never openly talk about someone else as being ugly, but I've heard it happen so many times.
I just think there are ways of saying things. It's like my partner went for a promotion and the manager laughed at him and said "You've got no chance, you're far too XYZ". I just thought that was brutal, he could have said it in a more tactful way.
I also wouldn't feel comfortable telling someone their hair looked 'awful' or something to that effect. I might say, they really suit X style usually. But ultimately if they like their hair, who am I to make them feel bad?
Anyway I feel like my personality is weak and 'too nice' and that I should be more blunt and direct in general.

And I’ll fully admit that my own first baby wasn’t too pretty til he turned about 1 Hahahha. So I think he probably had a few behind the scenes comments.

Ugh, this is such an English thread...

Can’t bear people who say they ‘tell it like it is’ - they think they’re being funny but actually they’re twats. I’ve had it done to me and I called the person out on it who apologised, but I’ve never forgotten it.

There is a difference between being blunt and being rude. If I'm asked something, I will answer, but I don't always know when it's more appropriate to lie, so I have been told I'm rude or insensitive. Which isn't fair, imo. Sometimes I think it's the other person who is just being oversensitive because why ask something if you don't want a truthful answer?

That was a tangent. Basically, I think intent matters. If you go around knowing your "bluntness" will upset or offend people, then you are a dick. But for a lot of people, it isn't intentional.

I like blunt people (I think I generally am quite blunt) as you know what is what with them but I wouldn’t be horrible with it. I’d only be cut throat if someone was pissing me off not just in general. I think there is a difference between being blunt and being an arsehole isn’t there.

There's such a huge difference between rude and blunt and not making unwanted comments. They're all separate things though.

re the error in the spreadsheet, I would say "I think there might be a couple of errors here, what do others think" because I know someone might take it badly. But if someone found errors I'd made, I'd have no issue with them saying it the way the pp DH said it.

This is me. Just recently someone begged me to “tell it to me straight” about what they were doing wrong and I did. Bad move. They cried, I became the asshole.