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Queen Elizabeth. Rest in Peace?

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IWishIHadNotDoneIt · 13/09/2022 18:43

I understand that people across the country want to pay their respects to the late Queen but to send her body on a 2 day cross country journey from Scotland to London where she will be in a room for people to parade past 24/7 for a week doesn't seem to be very peaceful and a little undignified somehow. Her children are having to escort her on various legs of her journey. The Princess Royal. In particular, looks exhausted. King Charles is having to travel all around the country to meet and greet people.

AIBU to think that the whole country is allowed to mourn the loss of an great Queen except her own family. They have to carry on regardless 😪

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Andromachehadabadday · 13/09/2022 18:48

Well that’s part of the deal isn’t it? A lot of privilege but a lot of traditions and duties.

I am sure of either Queen Elizabeth or Charles want to stop to these things they could.

Though some would need to be done. Especially regarding his coronation.

Also don’t forget Charles is on your not just doing a lot because his mother died. Some of it is. But because he is King and trying to ensure the union backs him. It’s to get him more support.

The Queen loved Scotland. I think it was lovely she was there.

I f l very sorry for them, but also accept it’s part of the deal.

TBH, between my own mums funeral, the wake, her family letting people know, dealing with the coroner etc I felt like everyone was allowed to grieve but me. I had too much to do. Then when I finally could grieve, everyone else has moved on.

SoupDragon · 13/09/2022 18:49

I'm sure she won't mind.

it's her last duty really and she was big on fulfilling duty.

and I agree that this is part of the deal of being in the royal family.

jetadore · 13/09/2022 18:52

Small price to pay for all the privileges they enjoy. Small private funeral while living in a fuck off palace? Can’t have it both ways.

Popaholic · 13/09/2022 18:59

Any death is hard work alongside the grief. The RF have fleets of people organising everything. They aren't busy arranging the funeral and the wake putting the deceased's bins out and feeding their cat, freezing bank accounts and paying bills, emptying the fridge of perishable food, calling up and comforting distressed friends and relatives.

So their duties keep them busy in a different way I'm sure, but losing a loved one is exhausting no matter who you are, unfortunately.

Goldencarp · 13/09/2022 19:21

I was wondering how they keep everything cold inside the coffin. I mean surely in real life people stay in fridges at the undertakers until the funeral?

YourLipsMyLipsApocalypse · 13/09/2022 19:24

I don't think a corpse can have a last duty.

It's an absolute circus now, and needs to be over.

DickDarstedly · 13/09/2022 19:28

Charles is travelling all over the place doing his proclamations rather than mourning duties

MarshaMelrose · 13/09/2022 19:29

I'm absolutely loving it. I think Charles and Anne have done a great job - they're no spring chickens.
I think Charles, in particular, stopping to get out to meet the crowds and thank them is just a spot on thing to do. Well done him and Camilla.

StopStartStop · 13/09/2022 19:31

They're doing the 'royal' thing. This is how it's done.

lemonyanus · 13/09/2022 19:32

Is it worse than lying in a fridge for weeks 🤷🏻‍♀️

cptartapp · 13/09/2022 19:35

I've just said to DH I bet Charles doesn't know what country he's in or what day it is.
Their heads must be mashed.

BluebellsareBlue · 13/09/2022 19:37

The queen herself drew up the plans that should be followed and chose to die in Scotland so it's been her wishes

Stichintimesavesstapling · 13/09/2022 19:37

Charles is on a campaign tour, he needs people to see him as king and head of the commonwealth (which is going to be precarious at best). What he doesn't need is people questioning where the royal family have hidden themselves and who is head of state. Because if he's not around then...why not elect someone?

MarshaMelrose · 13/09/2022 19:38

I think what might make it easier is that he knows so many people in the countries he's gone to because of his work as Prince of Wales. At least he'll be seeing friendly and familiar faces.

CapMarvel · 13/09/2022 19:38

The whole thing is just stupid now. She's dead, let's just move on for fuck sake

MarshaMelrose · 13/09/2022 19:40

CapMarvel · 13/09/2022 19:38

The whole thing is just stupid now. She's dead, let's just move on for fuck sake

How about you do your thing with no criticism. And let the rest of us do ours, equally uncriticised.

Sally99 · 13/09/2022 19:40

MarshaMelrose · 13/09/2022 19:29

I'm absolutely loving it. I think Charles and Anne have done a great job - they're no spring chickens.
I think Charles, in particular, stopping to get out to meet the crowds and thank them is just a spot on thing to do. Well done him and Camilla.

Absolutely. This is history and they are doing a marvellous job

bellamountain · 13/09/2022 19:40

It's very much a circus now. Personally I don't see it as very dignified rotting away in a wooden box so hundreds of people can gawp and get their kicks.

Snowiscold · 13/09/2022 19:41

Goldencarp · 13/09/2022 19:21

I was wondering how they keep everything cold inside the coffin. I mean surely in real life people stay in fridges at the undertakers until the funeral?

The body doesn’t need to be kept cold. It’s in a lead-lined coffin and probably embalmed. It was always traditional for people keep a the body at home until the funeral, and still is in lots of places.

carefullycourageous · 13/09/2022 19:43

The Queen would have been heavily involved in planning all this. So YABU to think you know better what they wanted to do.

Also that is the job. Do you want to live in a palace and have someone cut up your food for you? Then you have to live your life a bit weirdly. Either they are just like us or they are royalty. Pick a side.

SkyLarkDescending · 13/09/2022 19:44

I was thinking exactly that when I flicked on the tv and saw crowds of people filming along the route. Why are people causing traffic hold ups by abandoning their cars in the road? Why are they wanting to catch a glimpse of a dead body in a car?

It's so uncomfortable to watch. I just don't get it.

YourUserNameMustBeAtLeast3Characters · 13/09/2022 19:44

The ‘children’ all have a strong sense of duty. This will have been planned for years and years. As older adults they are strong enough to say no if they don’t want to.

But if I was Prince William I’d be looking on in horror at the thought of doing all that perhaps in 10 years time while grieving for his father. With perhaps trauma from his mother’s funeral procession. And to know that his own son would also be expected to do the same for him. I think I’d be lining up a few changes if I was William.

heartbroken22 · 13/09/2022 19:44

The queens poor dead body. No peace even after death. People go on about them being royals. But they're more like slaves. Poor them.

LizzieSiddal · 13/09/2022 19:46

They are treating her like a piece of furniture! She should be allowed to RIP and her family should be allowed some privacy to grieve.

Etive · 13/09/2022 19:47

cptartapp · 13/09/2022 19:35

I've just said to DH I bet Charles doesn't know what country he's in or what day it is.
Their heads must be mashed.

He had to ask the date when he was in Ireland today. They must all be exhausted. Poor Charles, he’s not having a great time of it with pens at the moment.