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Child lost school item, school blaming me...?

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maiafawnly · 13/09/2022 17:12

Before the summer holiday, my 14 year old participated in an event for a competition where a group of student designed balloons which were sent into "space". On the balloons were recording devices logging the altitude the balloon reached and views from their balloon. The data was recorded onto a micro SD card. The data was to be analysed at the start of this term to then be submitted to the hosts of the competition.

The SD card was given to my 14 year old last day of term, and hes lost it. Micro sd cards are so small that finding it is a nigh on impossible task, and we've looked everywhere but cannot find it.

Obviously this is my childs fault, hes misplaced it, but school have called, 3 separate teachers infact have called, asking me what i intend to do about it...? What can i do? I didn't know he was being given the SD card or asked to bare any responsibility of keeping it safe for 7 weeks! And even if i had been asked, theres nothing i can do now its lost, i cant magically recreate data and images of the balloon. And tbh i think the school/teachers involved in the competition have been a bit irresponsible handing a micro sd card of data to a kid if thats the only place its stored and irretrievable if lost.

Aibu to simply ignore any further communication regarding this and have absolutely no consequences for my child at home? I dont think this is a punishable offence, my child made an accidental mistake over misplacing something he should never have been solely responsible for if it was that important?

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imissedabit · 14/09/2022 09:30

Would it be possible that he gave it to one of the other students who viewed the data on his laptop with him while at your house?

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maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 09:30

Ive just looked in recent files and i can see them all there but i cant open them as it says item is missing or cannot be found when i click them

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imissedabit · 14/09/2022 09:33

Try to jog his memory this evening. It was in a little case thing. Tell him to think back to plugging it into the laptop. Does he recall unplugging it from the laptop? Does he recall putting it back into its case? Tell him to think of where else he might have put it? In a coat pocket? Jeans pocket? Pencil case? Laptop case? Backpack? Wallet?

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imissedabit · 14/09/2022 09:34

I'd also carefully remove the drawer and empty everything out. I've looked for things in drawers with no success until I physically remove everything one by one and voila! There it is!

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ExDancer · 14/09/2022 09:35

(A bit off topic)
As a farmer's wife I find it very irresponsible of the school to attach anything to a balloon which is going to come to ground somewhere, possibly to be chewed or eaten my some animal which will die horribly.
I thought these things had been banned.
Apart from that, the teacher should have backed-up the work. It's not your responsibility - do they think you have a magic wand? A lesson learned for teacher!

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maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 09:39

ExDancer · 14/09/2022 09:35

(A bit off topic)
As a farmer's wife I find it very irresponsible of the school to attach anything to a balloon which is going to come to ground somewhere, possibly to be chewed or eaten my some animal which will die horribly.
I thought these things had been banned.
Apart from that, the teacher should have backed-up the work. It's not your responsibility - do they think you have a magic wand? A lesson learned for teacher!

Again, to reiterate, it wasnt a normal balloon, it was a high altitude balloon that was let go in specific weather conditions they could estimate the landing place of, which was then tracked and retrieved. No harm to animals wildlife the environment or anyone. They didnt just release plastic balloons into the atmosphere.

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imissedabit · 14/09/2022 09:46

maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 09:39

Again, to reiterate, it wasnt a normal balloon, it was a high altitude balloon that was let go in specific weather conditions they could estimate the landing place of, which was then tracked and retrieved. No harm to animals wildlife the environment or anyone. They didnt just release plastic balloons into the atmosphere.

Could you repeat that a little louder for those at the back of the room? I'm not sure some people heard it the first 10 times. 😁

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fUNNYfACE36 · 14/09/2022 09:53

You are so insistent that your ds shouldn't pay and that it is the teacher's fault .Not a good message to send and bad parenting

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MelodyPondsMum · 14/09/2022 09:56

maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 09:30

Ive just looked in recent files and i can see them all there but i cant open them as it says item is missing or cannot be found when i click them

Are there thumbnails or just titles? Sometimes mine shows little thumbnails and it's only when you click that it says the file is missing. If it's like that you might be able to photograph the thumbnails. It would be rubbish quality but may be better than nothing.

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PinkPencilCase · 14/09/2022 10:01

It's not still in the computer is it?

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maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 10:01

fUNNYfACE36 · 14/09/2022 09:53

You are so insistent that your ds shouldn't pay and that it is the teacher's fault .Not a good message to send and bad parenting

Who should he pay? The comp was sponsored by an external company who probably bulk by SD cards for a much smaller cost than we could get one for. They wont need a replacement SD card. The value is the data, that he cant replace. I feel he has learned a lesson here in keeping important information backed up and safe. He is remorseful and has to face his friends and peers knowing he has let them down.

If you want to believe that bad parenting thats fine, my son is a happy intelligent social funny young man, who happened to make a mistake which he has acknowledged and apologised for. Im proud of him regardless.

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PinkPencilCase · 14/09/2022 10:02

PinkPencilCase · 14/09/2022 10:01

It's not still in the computer is it?

Sorry ignore me, you would have found it when you looked for the files if so.

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maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 10:03

@MelodyPondsMum no preview they are just blue icons unfortunately. I can just see that they are the right dates and from /D drive but that drive is no longer on the laptop

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Notanotherwindow · 14/09/2022 10:09

Has it got stuck in the side of his drawer? They are tiny and if there is a slight gap between the side if the drawer and the bottom, it might have slipped down there.

I really don't see what can be done about it other than searching again as replacing the card will not replace the data and it isn't as though he's not looking for it. He is.

You could see if its possible for a specialist to pull the data from his laptops free space but you would need to be quick before the data gets overwritten which, let's face it, in 7 weeks, may have already happened.

I'd not have given the only copy of something that important to a 14 year old. Why on earth wasn't it kept at school? Why didn't the teacher tell them to bloody back it up? Yeah he screwed up but it isn't just him, I think this whole clusterfuck is something of a team effort tbh.

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ProbablyNotMad · 14/09/2022 10:10

You are doing all you can by helping to search for the SD card and checking laptop for the data. I would double check all the desk drawers (a proper 'mum' look), the folder we he brought it home in, the laptop bag, any other equipment he has that can take an SD card, and his school bag. If after that you don't find it then that's it, it's gone, and I would not entertain any further haranguing about it.

We all lose things and this is a tiny item that is easily mislaid. I would not punish my son. He hasn't lost it on purpose and if the data was so important the a teacher should have kept it and not given it to a child. Your son will be getting a load of grief over this and will be feeling bad enough without an additional punishment. I feel sorry for him. I would use this as a learning opportunity for your son (and the teachers!) and discuss what to do in future so this situation can be avoided (store small items differently, back up data, etc).

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MelodyPondsMum · 14/09/2022 10:12

maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 10:03

@MelodyPondsMum no preview they are just blue icons unfortunately. I can just see that they are the right dates and from /D drive but that drive is no longer on the laptop

That's such a shame.

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PassMeThePineapple · 14/09/2022 10:13

I've twice found small lost items in a box where one of the kids stores school exercise books. Just in case that helps

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MelodyPondsMum · 14/09/2022 10:13

Have you checked the downloads folder too?

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MotherofTerriers · 14/09/2022 10:16

Check that one of his friends didn't accidentally take it

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threepointonefourone · 14/09/2022 10:17

There’s some goppingly shit comprehension skills on here today

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Hippee · 14/09/2022 10:20

maiafawnly · 13/09/2022 19:05

@carefullycourageous

I havent been asked to replace it ive been asked to locate it. Ive said if my son offered if support his choices but i dont see why i/we/he should. They should have saved the data to a school computer, cloud storage, or made a copy before handing it over to my son. Yes he shouldnt have lost it and should have been more careful. But i dont think he is 100% at fault here. The teachers bare the brunt of the responsibility here

You're not in Ivybridge are you? We bought a wooden card holder in a charity shop and it had an SD card in the bottom under the cards. I literally threw it away yesterday, but could fish the bin bag out and look for it!

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Mrsalwaysworried · 14/09/2022 10:22

I can't believe they made the comment about hoping it's found for your sons sake. It is threatening and very inappropriate.
I'd buy a new one and make some suggestions about where they can insert it for future safekeeping.
Massive long shot, but have you check the lining of washing machine? Or filter?

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fUNNYfACE36 · 14/09/2022 10:53

maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 10:01

Who should he pay? The comp was sponsored by an external company who probably bulk by SD cards for a much smaller cost than we could get one for. They wont need a replacement SD card. The value is the data, that he cant replace. I feel he has learned a lesson here in keeping important information backed up and safe. He is remorseful and has to face his friends and peers knowing he has let them down.

If you want to believe that bad parenting thats fine, my son is a happy intelligent social funny young man, who happened to make a mistake which he has acknowledged and apologised for. Im proud of him regardless.

He can sponsor the cost of repeating the experiment.Ok too late to enter rhe competition, but it would be a gesture.

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maiafawnly · 14/09/2022 11:00

@fUNNYfACE36 ok we will just magic up the money for a high altitude balloon, basket, camera that can record as is needed, sd card, what ever gadget you need to record altitude. The arrange a day off school, mini bus to the airfield, permission off the air field, the whatever they used to send in upwards, the tracking devices, the mini bus to drive the kids around to track and collect it, the teachers needed to supervise, and whatever other incidentals that are needed. All very easily done and achieved and im certain that is an appropriate punishment for the massive mistakes he has made.

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MelodyPondsMum · 14/09/2022 11:27

You can't redo the experiment and no-one would expect you to repeat it. The teacher leading the group would probably be better now spending time with the DCs finding out what they can remember from when they looked at the data on your DS' computer; and encouraging them to write up the rest of the report.

Yy the results section is important but it won't be the only component. They can describe their design, etc, and surely some of the DCs will have photos from different parts of the project that the school can use too. Plus they know where and when it landed. Then their conclusion can include a point about backing up data and sharing to the cloud so no one person has responsibility for keeping information safe. It's a hard lesson but the point of experiments and research is to record everything, even what doesn't work.

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