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Palace requests mourners to stop leaving stuff like marmalade sandwiches
Sparklybutold · 12/09/2022 14:55
So the palace has now told people to stop leaving marmalade sarnies and such...
Those who thought it was ok the first time still think it's ok? Or now the palace acknowledges how ‘unsustainable’ it is change your opinion?
FWIW. It was idiotic the first time and still is.
Surtsey · 12/09/2022 14:57
As a one-off the first time, it was inspired.
But for other people to do it, then food left lying about will just encourage rats and urban foxes.
Tort · 12/09/2022 14:57
It’s obviously a stupid thing to do. I wish the palace had had the balls to make a more didactic statement about donating to a charity rather than buying stuff to rot in the street. Putting out food for the rats seems particularly absurd.
EscapeRoomToTheSun · 12/09/2022 14:59
Cheaper than bloody flowers! They should encourage people to bring Tins for foodbanks or charity donations.
JudgeJ · 12/09/2022 15:01
I wish that they had asked people leaving flowers to remove all wrappings, etc., we were up at Sandringham today and a Tesco (etc) plastic wrapping does rather detract.
Sparklybutold · 12/09/2022 15:01
@Tort
I'm actually not surprised that the palace didn't request this. It serves them very well in terms of demonstrating how loved and therefore needed the RF is. With billions being inherited by the family instead of donated to just causes or perhaps even remuneration owing to the source of the money in the first place, the whole thing is sickening. Instead people are still falling over themselves to show there ‘respect’.
Mercurial123 · 12/09/2022 15:01
It's a really stupid idea. It was obvious that once someone had started others would follow.
Sparklybutold · 12/09/2022 15:03
It continues to be so wasteful. In a time of great need and poverty to have such outpouring of money is completely out of touch - but then again I'm not surprised.
JoeyThePrawn · 12/09/2022 15:04
I thought it was inspired as a one off . People who leave flowers won't necessarily give to charities agree about the plastic though
Tort · 12/09/2022 15:07
JoeyThePrawn · 12/09/2022 15:04
I thought it was inspired as a one off . People who leave flowers won't necessarily give to charities agree about the plastic though
True but it would be better if those people were not donating to charity but also not littering.
Penguinfeather781 · 12/09/2022 15:07
The first person to do it was no doubt quite witty and poignant. Trouble is the number of people copying. Ditto balloons, kids drawings, photos etc. It’s just litter.
I can’t help thinking it would be far better to light a candle at home, make a charitable donation or just think something inside your head quietly yourself.
Aubriella · 12/09/2022 15:08
I was there yesterday, someone left a sandwich , but this time with a jar of Bonne Maman Bitter Orange marmalade.
Sparklingbrook · 12/09/2022 15:10
Aubriella · 12/09/2022 15:08
I was there yesterday, someone left a sandwich , but this time with a jar of Bonne Maman Bitter Orange marmalade.
That is just weird.
Sparklybutold · 12/09/2022 15:10
@Penguinfeather781
I think there is an element of group mentality going on here and I think it's pretty contagious. Someone on another thread spoke about how representative this grieving is and how acceptable it is. I also think there is an element of performative grief. Of course they'll also be some who are genuinely upset but there is a definite mix. Grief is complex and the reasons why and how people grief will be playing out here.
Sparklybutold · 12/09/2022 15:11
@Aubriella
Why? Why? You buy a jar of jam and leave it to then just be thrown away? It's absolutely ridiculous.
OhBackToTheIsland · 12/09/2022 15:15
They are asking people to remove all plastic wrapping. Big recycling bins available just at the entrance - or at least there were yesterday in Hyde Park.
Ineedwinenow · 12/09/2022 15:16
It’s the same as with soft toys, as they are outside open to the elements they cannot be gifted to hospitals or childrens charities , they will just end up in landfill which is really sad!
Maybe there needs to be some protocols put in place for future outpourings of emotion.
Sandwiches , plastic wrapped flowers or actually all flowers in general , toys, balloons and drawings are not suitable!
Maybe they should leave donations to food banks or charity boxes screwed into the railings to donate money to instead and be told they will be turned away if they bring flowers!
They money spent on useless gifts could make a major difference to several charities across the commonwealth
sevenbyseven · 12/09/2022 15:17
It's obscenely wasteful. I'm sure the RF could have launched a charitable fund instead, and asked for no flowers. Not everyone would have listened but they could have raised money for a good cause.
LatteCappucino · 12/09/2022 15:18
They should have a fund to donate to like dame Deborah James did - she asked people to ‘buy her a drink’ and donate that way maybe this could be ‘buy a bunch of flowers’ and the money goes to charity
Sparklybutold · 12/09/2022 15:18
It's still quiet on the “oh just let people ‘grieve’ front” maybe they see it now?
It all feels so empty and the easy thing to be seen to do. It's this inauthenticness that just angers me.
MLMsuperfan · 12/09/2022 15:21
It's weird and the people who do it are weird. Bizarre cult mentality.
Sparklybutold · 12/09/2022 15:21
@sevenbyseven @LatteCappucino
They should have done this but they won't because it wouldn't serve them the same. They want the outward show of affection as it supports their agenda. The RF continue to exist owing to peoples complete blind admiration of them.
justasking111 · 12/09/2022 15:21
A small animal charity suggested take the flower money and put it in a charity. I thought that was a better idea. Retired horses maybe.
tickticksnooze · 12/09/2022 15:21
I can understand wanting to place something tangible like flowers in mourning. I cannot understand leaving cellophane and plastic sandwich bags.
Not only is it litter, but it shows the gesture to be lazy and thoughtless that people can't even be arsed to remove the plastic rubbish. How is that respectful to anyone's memory to leave litter outside their home or in public parks?
It's upsetting.
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