Pregnancy test threads

[Wouldloveanother]

Now don’t think I’m one of those cool, logical women who can wait for late period before testing because I’m not! But I know if I test and I can’t say definitively that it’s positive, to try again the next day and the next but to remain realistic.

I’ve seen quite a few threads now with clearly negative tests where the responses are all ‘I can see something!’ And egging the OP on to buy more tests. So they test again, another vague shadow line, responses are the same. Days later, no real change and it’s clear it’s either a chemical pregnancy or the tests were a bit rubbish, but the OP has been convinced the tests are positive at this point and is devastated when her period turns up.

AIBU to think there needs to be a bit more honesty on such threads, to manage expectations?

There's either no line or a blazingly obvious line and either way the OP acts oblivious

Those threads drive me mad.
Obviously I should ignore them but I can't help myself as I really want to see a line and congratulate.
I never see a line and I'm absolutely perplexed at all the 'congratulations' messages.

Don't get it at all. Wish we could get follow up threads saying whether they're pregnant/not pregnant.

Are these common threads? I dread to think the anxiety the OP in those threads must be feeling. Especially if we're talking 3 men the same month.

Yeah I HATE THIS TOO. It makes me PMSL though. 'I had a very faint line and people said it wasn't there. The faint line is now a happy healthy 3 month old, 3 year old etc etc.'

This tedious and predictable trope comes along on EVERY SINGLE ONE of the 'line eyes' threads. 😂

OMFG it's started with covid tests now ... 😂 'I see a second line OP!!!'

There is NO SECOND LINE THERE!!!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4631541-to-ask-about-covid-test-result-is-it-positive

I dunno, I think if you’re in the desperate position of hoping and wishing and waiting and being so very desperate to see SOMETHING that you might post one of those. It’s quite nice when they come back and update to say that actually the faint line was something and now they’re 9 weeks or something.

I feel like those threads are started out of real hope and not just to be annoying. Now the ones which say “my neighbour is ringing on my doorbell at 11am what could they want?” Are actually annoying. Just answer the door you plank.

To be fair I have posted these before but we were ttc for 14 months and my actual positive was a squinter so I just needed another pair of eyes.
In my defence I didn't use a wedding ring 😂

Oh I can see that clear as day?!

Is it perpetually foggy where you live?

😂

No it's not a bleeping line, and if you can see a infinitesimal difference in the background shade of white, in the shape of a line, then it's the line of substrate, not activated, but now wet, because you just peed on it.

There was one thread full of line-sightings and congratulations until one brave soul pointed out the test clearly stated that a positive result required a cross!

Let's not get into a fainter line suggesting you're somehow less pregnant one day than a darker line another day. Pregnancy is a binary state. You either are or you aren't.

mutter mutter scientific literacy haver haver basic competence scunner scunner we really need to licence for parenthood hastily exits thread

Thank you OP for the opportunity to get all that off my chest!

YANBU OP, if you have to put 10 filters over a photo, rotate it and then squint at it to see any sort of line then there’s no line.

I could probably dip a test in water, post a photo and some people would be telling me it’s a positive.

Also hate the assumption on many of the threads where the OP doesn’t give any context that they want it to be a positive, and posters pile in congratulating OP on a “positive” test, with no clue if the OP even wants a positive.

There's a 'can you see the line' troll

Completely agree! There’s been so many where there is clearly no line, but all the responses say they can see something?!

Its got to the point if I have a negative test I doubt it as what if I don’t have these ‘line seeing eyes’

I agree!

If the person is late/due on, and posts a squinter, I've got some sympathy, but not the ones where they barely had sex 2 days ago.

Though maybe it's easy for me to say as my tests were both instant appearing bright red lines (and the same from Covid).

Where is a squinter that requires a filter etc, can we please stop calling them big fat positives. Hopeful cautious positive, tiny skinny positive maybe, but big fat positives should be reserved for die stealers etc IMO.

Also hate the assumption on many of the threads where the OP doesn’t give any context that they want it to be a positive, and posters pile in congratulating OP on a “positive” test, with no clue if the OP even wants a positive.
Indeed. I suspect you could post exactly the same photo on another thread where it is clear a pregnancy would be unwelcome and get most posters saying they can't see anything. People want to be able to see a line or the absence of a line as the OP is hoping for. Which is nice people want to be supportive but ultimately massively unhelpful given it is all guesswork.

Yabu. First thing I did was send my friend a pic of the test when I saw a very, very faint line on a test that was so faint you’d almost need a magnifying glass. Each day the line got slightly darker.

In my experience of pregnancy any tiny faint second line is a positive result so u can’t blame people for wanting a second opinion. Waiting can be torture so it probably helps to discuss on here.

So did I!!!!

Is your very very faint line, that 99% of people in real life would not see in a million years, a bonny bouncy toddler of 3 now?

@tickticksnooze I did get an email from specsavers this weekend telling me my eye test is due

YANBU. I will probably get flamed for saying this. I know what it's like to be desperate for good news, but why do so many women on here test so early - well before they're even late? Surely they are creating more anxiety for themselves. Am I the only person who ever waited until they were late before testing?

Don't like it ... scroll on by!!

I agree with this. It's not worth getting your knickers in a twist over. Some people have been trying to get pregnant for a long time and are desperate to see that second line. They really aren't sure if they're imagining things. Sometimes I can see a second line in the photo, sometimes not. It's not something you can do in real life - show your pissy pregnancy test to people in the hope they will see a line. So coming on here is a form of release. I personally don't believe that posters are lying when they say they can see a line (well, maybe the odd shit stirrer). I think they are convinced they can see one. Sometimes they're right!

Quite often I can see a line!

I remember looking at the stark white ones though and feeling so sorry for the people posting them - until it was me getting BFNs and my desperation tricking me into thinking I could see one.

both times I’ve had a BFP, it was very obvious but when you want something so much, I swear your mind / eyes trick you!

@WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps to be fair - that’s exactly how my positive covid test started. I can see a line on that!

If I see I line I say so, if I don't see it I tell them.

I've been through infertility and I'm also a serial tester so I know which tests are more likely to give off evap lines. In my own experience of a squinter line I always have a back up to test to confirm the postive/negative result and I urge anyone posting squinter lines to do the same.

I'd never 'egg anyone on' I'd just give my honest opinion.