Pregnancy test threads

[Wouldloveanother]

Now don’t think I’m one of those cool, logical women who can wait for late period before testing because I’m not! But I know if I test and I can’t say definitively that it’s positive, to try again the next day and the next but to remain realistic.

I’ve seen quite a few threads now with clearly negative tests where the responses are all ‘I can see something!’ And egging the OP on to buy more tests. So they test again, another vague shadow line, responses are the same. Days later, no real change and it’s clear it’s either a chemical pregnancy or the tests were a bit rubbish, but the OP has been convinced the tests are positive at this point and is devastated when her period turns up.

AIBU to think there needs to be a bit more honesty on such threads, to manage expectations?

Yep the 'line eyes' threads really piss me off.

It's like the emperors new clothes. There is NEVER a second line. It's fucking bizarre.

Well said. I've rarely seen one with a second line yet the thread will be full of. congratulations etc. I dont understand why people say they can see a line when there's nothing there. Its so unkind on the OP

I agree. But people love the drama and feeling involved.

The only advice should be a) wait until you miss a period or b) see a doctor. Never "I can see something, take more tests!"

On the other hand, I’m of the six-pregnancies-one-baby-shine-torch-from-8dpo vintage, and I can usually see a line.

But since we’re in AIBU I have some pointers:

ZOOM THE FUCK IN

FOCUS YOUR FUCKING CAMERA

MOVE THE STUPID FUCKING WEDDING RING

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A FUCKING EVAP ITS A BABY OR A CHEMICAL

Christ that feels better

YANBU. The 'congratulations!' On a clearly negative test with a slight smudge mark from posters is utterly cruel.

I don't believe even half of them are 'chemical pregnancies' and are just the results of shit tests and strangers on the internet.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A FUCKING EVAP ITS A BABY OR A CHEMICAL

I disagree, they are also shit tests.

I don't mind those threads so much

The worst ones are the "am I pregnant" ones when they haven't taken a test

Closely followed by "is this positive" when there is a clear second line

And also the use of the phrase "I DONE a test"

It’s natural to want to bear good news and be part of that, but I really think expectations need to be managed on some of them. If a shadow hasn’t turned into a clear line within a few days, most likely it isn’t progressing.

Yes what’s with the wedding rings?!

I agree with you

They're very odd threads, and I agree most have 0 second line but one or two bats on there will post they've seen something

I’m not sure cos I usually see a second line and I have really good eyesight.

i never ever comment though

YANBU! Those threads are delusional, grotesquely so. I hold my tongue, but I'm usually thinking dark thoughts about the eyesight, sanity and scientific literacy of all those involved, and whether any of them should be raising the next generation.

I also get annoyed by the responses that say ‘oh I had a line even fainter than that when my period was 2 weeks late and now they’re a happy healthy 5 year old’. I don’t doubt that happened for them but given tests are 99% accurate from the day of your missed period, what are the odds? It just seems a bit cruel.

I love the threads...

When there is a positive and the poster is more in shock/disbelief so they're posting.

But I definitely agree, I hate all the false hope, "there's a line!" When there clearly isn't. It's cruel.

Can I ask...
What's the wedding rings? I stay off those threads so don't know what you mean?

I believe the rings help the camera to focus on the test window, making the photo clearer

When they upload a photo of the test they take off their wedding ring and use it to circle the bit of the test where the line is supposed to be. Don’t ask me why!

Ah, thanks.

YABU.

I posted a 15DPO very faint line test, I wasn't sure if I could see it after months of TTC and a MMC. At 15DPO you expect a stronger line.

She's now 3 months old.

YES. The “am I pregnant” threads that are a long winding tale of dates times weather conditions- JUST TAKE A FUCKING TEST

I've started a few of these in my time. I've also actually been pregnant 6 times. My best advice is, if a test is positive, you'll know. If you have to take it apart, shine a light at it, ask for opinions on it, pretend that you didn't look at it for hours and then remembered 7 hours later by which time an evap line has appeared - if you have to do any of these things, it's probably negative. Try again tomorrow.

Desperation - been there, done it. Wanting a baby so bad but months and months of BFNs ... then u get an evap or worst still a chemical.

Don't like it ... scroll on by!!

Nothing is as bad as the 'which one of these guys do you think is the dad' threads. I hate those with a passion.

For ages I thought that the ring was religious MNers proving that they were pregnant within wedlock 🤣

Not gonna lie, seeing this thread has cheered me up. I look at the pictures and think why is it I can’t see anything but every one else can! I was tempted to start testing post ovulation after seeing those threads but talked myself down due to the price of tests 😂