AIBU?
To cry re HM the Queen?
Wife2b · 08/09/2022 23:23
I’ve shed a tear privately this evening after feeling sadness most of the day following the news regarding her majesty.
Part of me feels ridiculous, I didn’t know her personally but the sadness is real.
Did you have a little cry? I feel silly
Am I being unreasonable?
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Daisymae55 · 08/09/2022 23:24
I get you. I’m not really pro monarchy or anything but always quite liked the Queen. I’m surprised I felt sad about this. A lot will change now
DixonD · 08/09/2022 23:25
Of course - it’s a huge deal. You’re not the only one, by far.
Coffeeisnecessary · 08/09/2022 23:26
I cried a lot, which surprised me massively as I'm not particularly keen on the royal family! But she just seemed like an incredible woman and it's all I've ever known. I think it's affecting a lot of people.
WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 08/09/2022 23:26
Not silly. This has hit me quite badly. I have not been crying and sobbing all afternoon, but have had a really empty and dark feeling all afternoon. Such a sad sad day. 
I can't snap out of this gloomy mood. So shocked.
GobbolinoTheWitchesCat · 08/09/2022 23:26
I've not cried but I feel a do feel a certain grief. She's always been there.
charabang · 08/09/2022 23:29
Didn't cry but I do feel very moved by the enormity of the end of an era. The Queen had a long and relatively peaceful reign. She will be a hard act to follow.
Tania64 · 08/09/2022 23:30
No I don't know the woman. I hate what she represents & am resentful & angry that she has lived a life of luxury at poor peoples expense. If I cried it would be with anger & frustration. All of this crying people do over these 'royals' is an absolute joke. What will you do if someone you love dies? Cry? So the Queen means as much to you as your children, your spouse or your extended family?
TheClockEnd · 08/09/2022 23:30
I will feel silly alongside you then OP. I have shed a quiet tear, too, and I feel discombobulated since I heard. Even my non-Royalist DS (37) sounded a little ‘out of sorts’ when I told him, and said “so what happens to us now, then?” which I think sums up how some of us feel tonight.
WhatsitWiggle · 08/09/2022 23:31
I've cried this evening. Not full on weeping, but tears all the same. I know she was old, and increasingly frail since Philip died, but it felt so sudden. I hope she passed peacefully and that her family got to say goodbye.
Teacupsandtoast · 08/09/2022 23:31
The 'Hello again Lilibet' image doing the rounds had me ugly crying
CandyLeBonBon · 08/09/2022 23:32
Tania64 · 08/09/2022 23:30
No I don't know the woman. I hate what she represents & am resentful & angry that she has lived a life of luxury at poor peoples expense. If I cried it would be with anger & frustration. All of this crying people do over these 'royals' is an absolute joke. What will you do if someone you love dies? Cry? So the Queen means as much to you as your children, your spouse or your extended family?
I understand what you mean, but by that token, no one should ever be moved to tears by music, or theatre or a film because it's not rooted in reality? I think people don't like change - you can dislike the institution whilst simultaneously recognising that this is an historical and cultural change that feels uncomfortable.
Always4Brenner · 08/09/2022 23:33
Going through bad time at the moment so this just tipped it yes I’ve cried.
minticecreamisjustok · 08/09/2022 23:34
No but felt depressed, especially more so just before it was announced, like you knew it was going to/had happened.
BeetrootBeetrootGhali · 08/09/2022 23:34
I haven’t.
I think that a 96 year old dying at home with a roof over her head, warm bedding, a full belly, and the privilege of full faculties and reasonable health pretty much until her final day isn’t a cause for sorrow.
Chouetted · 08/09/2022 23:35
I had a little cry. It's yet another step change in a succession of turbulent years, and a reminder that the things I used to take for granted are going away with time.
And it reminded me of my gran, who died at a similar age, and who I still miss.
ShhDoNotTell · 08/09/2022 23:35
Yes, I cried. Why are people so scared of emotions? It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to not feel. We don’t have to justify this. It’s life, isn’t it? Messy and lovely.
Sparklingbrook · 08/09/2022 23:35
I have cried tears over famous people I didn't know personally when they have died but no tears over the Queen. If you want to cry, cry if that's how you feel. It's sad as in end of an era etc. I won't be crying or rushing down to Buckingham Palace with my garage flowers or signing any books of condolence either.
Purplestorm83 · 08/09/2022 23:36
That Paddington Bear sketch sets me off every time they show it, I have to change the channel when it starts
Cheeselog · 08/09/2022 23:36
I cried. I think it’s normal, she has been such a pillar of stability - always there in the backdrop of our lives and it’s normal to feel a bit discombobulated. Even DP said he was feeling much sadder about it than he expected.
@Tania64 there aren’t just two levels of caring, crying and not crying. DP didn’t cry when his GM died and I did, but he obviously cared more. When people cry at a sad film it’s not because they care about the character as much as their own family. You can be sad about things that don’t affect you directly.
JubileeTissues · 08/09/2022 23:37
"The 'Hello again Lilibet' image doing the rounds had me ugly crying"
The one where she's sitting with a man with white hair? Who is it meant to be? @Teacupsandtoast
canteatlovefood · 08/09/2022 23:37
I find crying over the queens death very odd, personally.
Sparklingbrook · 08/09/2022 23:39
I really cringe at the expression 'ugly crying' it's up there with the sobbing and shaking.
Mamai90 · 08/09/2022 23:39
No, I didn't cry. I don't agree with the monarchy, they are a very (privileged) dodgy bunch.
That said though I do think the Queen was quite a remarkable woman. But she was the last of the royals with any integrity. I think this is the beginning of the end for the monarchy.
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