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To cry re HM the Queen?

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Wife2b · 08/09/2022 23:23

I’ve shed a tear privately this evening after feeling sadness most of the day following the news regarding her majesty.

Part of me feels ridiculous, I didn’t know her personally but the sadness is real.

Did you have a little cry? I feel silly

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Drywhitefruitycidergin · 09/09/2022 00:45

I was surprisingly moved by the news. Goosebumps when they announced it on LBC & then shed a few tears when i told dd1 followed by a proper cry when they played the national anthem.
Not a huge royalist but 70 years is an incredible reign.

2pinkginsplease · 09/09/2022 00:47

I cried, my gran died a few months ago and loved the queen. Watching all the clips brought back happy memories about my gran .

HappydaysArehere · 09/09/2022 00:48

I cried and am really upset. I remember her as a young woman. Her wedding day. Her coronation, watching it on a friend’s 9 inch b/w tv. Then taken by the school to see the full colour film showing at local cinemas. She has been always there and now she isn’t. It is very unsettling and upsetting.

Deidretheelf · 09/09/2022 00:49

My kids cried because it reminded them of the death of their grandad and great-gran. That made me cry.

Also later on they showed a montage of pictures of her being a young girl and a young woman. That made me cry because it reminded me of my own mortality and that of those I love.

My husband is Irish and not a monarchist but he cried because her family going up to Balmoral reminded him of when his mother died and all her children flying across the world to say goodbye.

It’s complicated when high profile deaths happen, especially in ‘real time’ like this. It brings up all sorts of emotions that are related to our own lives rather than the person who has died. It’s often cathartic, especially if done in public when we British usually hide issues related to emotions in our own personal lives. I think Diana’s death was much the same.

bettbburg · 09/09/2022 00:50

I cried but not because of the Queen but because it reminded me of a personal bereavement

whatwhhat · 09/09/2022 00:51

I haven't cried and tbh not usually to bothered with the royal family but do have respect for the queen.

It did make me reflect a lot. Like if you spoke to someone who died four or five years ago they wouldn't believe the major events that just seem to keep hitting. I wouldn't have anyway. My son asked me yesterday if the queen would have to send herself a birthday card if she turns 100 which I think was a believable question you might need an answer to yesterday. So it does add to the world feeling uncertain and sudden changes everywhere.

I thought of my mum and how the world has changed so much since she passed and that made me sad.

InTheFreezer · 09/09/2022 00:53

My DDad died of Covid in 2020. The Queen, however was at her end of life.

I'd rather have my dad alive.

esteemsports · 09/09/2022 00:54

Yes, I cried. I wouldn't say I'm a royalist but I admire the Queen and think she has done a fantastic job. She has been an excellent role model and I've loved watching her smiling face a brilliant expressions. I'm not really a cryer but this has made me sad.

ToGanymedeAndTitan · 09/09/2022 00:57

I wouldn't call myself a Royalist, but I cried a bit earlier too.
I think it's because she has been a constant in our lives for so long.
Unless you're around 80 or older, you won't really remember a time without her being Queen.

Thatswhyimacat · 09/09/2022 01:01

I was surprised that I cried at the announcement, especially as I'd been sitting there for hours waiting for it! Whether you liked her or not, she's a part of all of our lives in a way that's incomparable to anyone else. She was possibly the most well-known person alive on earth and so the idea of her being gone is very strange but also the oddly moving aspect of being right there for a moment that could potentially live in history for thousands of years, if humans have that long.

CatAndHisKit · 09/09/2022 01:02

Same here (though I don't think it's ridiculous).
Couldn't be any more 'end of an era' even though I like Charles. I think I'd be less sad if the country wasn't in turmoil at the same time as she did have an ability to comfort and uplift with her presence, funnily enough as Boris said. And it will just be a shame never to see her again- I thoght she looked so well earlier this spring/summer - much smilier and kinder than in her middle age.

Canthave2manycats · 09/09/2022 01:27

I have unashamedly cried my eyes out since the news broke. She was an incredible woman. How on earth she put up with all the shyte people talked to her but still seemed interested and engaged!! How many people get to 96 without retiring??? God bless her, she got her makeup on and her hair done and dressed up to meet Johnson and Truss 48 hours before she died!! I think that's why it's come as such a shock to the nation, as while she looked frail in the photos there was no suggestion that she was actually dying!!

There never has been and never will be another monarch who took her duty to such a level. I am heartbroken at her loss!

been and done it. · 09/09/2022 01:30

Wife2b · 08/09/2022 23:23

I’ve shed a tear privately this evening after feeling sadness most of the day following the news regarding her majesty.

Part of me feels ridiculous, I didn’t know her personally but the sadness is real.

Did you have a little cry? I feel silly

I cried buckets at the news and broke down during the evening at various times.
She's always been part of my life, my world I suppose.
Strange that she's gone, kind of seems like the world order has changed but of course it hasn't.

JubileeTissues · 09/09/2022 01:32

"My DDad died of Covid in 2020. The Queen, however was at her end of life.

I'd rather have my dad alive."

@InTheFreezer sorry for your loss. It's not an either/or situation though. The Queen took covid restrictions very seriously.

ofwarren · 09/09/2022 01:34

I cried when I saw the news at lunch time and how serious they were taking it because it was clear that she really might die and then I did a big cry when it was announced.
Such a shock.
I've tried to sleep but I've just woken up after a weird dream with her in it.

It all feels so odd. I'm autistic and hate change and it feels like everything is changing at the moment.

Hearing people say King Charles is really strange and I don't like it.

moneybeingwasted · 09/09/2022 01:37

Weirdly my super cool 22year old text me immediately at 632 to tell me ! I got home about 8pm and he said that Huw Edwards announcement made him want to cry!!

ohsuzannah · 09/09/2022 01:40

I was born on the day of her coronation. So my whole life she has been our queen. Yes I shed a few tears, to me it seems like the end of an era 😢

PACKWATCH · 09/09/2022 01:45

Bye bye!!!

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Wife2b · 09/09/2022 01:46

I can’t believe how quickly she deteriorated from meeting the new PM. Reminds me of my grandmother and how she looks more fit as a fiddle with each passing year but someday…my heart breaks at the thought. Seeing her majesty weaken has hit hard as a reminder that circumstances for our loved ones can change just as quickly and no one really know how long.

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sandgrown · 09/09/2022 01:50

@Unicorn2022 I feel exactly the same . The Queen had been around all my life and reminds me of growing up with my family .

XenoBitch · 09/09/2022 01:59

I had a cry too. I have no interest in the royals at all. Never even watched the Queen's speech at Christmas.
Like other posters have said, she has always been there. Even if you don't follow any royal news etc, she was there on your money and on your stamps.
It feels weird, and yes I do feel silly for having a little cry.

I also find it silly to wonder why anyone would cry, just because the Queen was someone they had never met. No one chooses what to cry over. If we could choose what to be upset about, life would be so much better.

TiddyTidTwo · 09/09/2022 02:26

I have cried.

I swore an oath of allegiance to HM in 2003 and it stands today.

She was an amazing women who until 2 days ago, aged 96, still served her country as she promised.

I have nothing but respect for her. This country has lost a great woman. End of an era

RafatYasmeen12 · 09/09/2022 14:18

The World changed but HRH Queen Elizabeth II was the same. She was kind, generous and giving and I cried for what she was to UK and Commonwealth. For now the Commonwealth may be broken with change

InTheFreezer · 09/09/2022 14:23

JubileeTissues · 09/09/2022 01:32

"My DDad died of Covid in 2020. The Queen, however was at her end of life.

I'd rather have my dad alive."

@InTheFreezer sorry for your loss. It's not an either/or situation though. The Queen took covid restrictions very seriously.

Thanks. He took them seriously too. A paramedic who came after a fall at home infected him. He didn't go out.

mamabear715 · 09/09/2022 15:03

Hell yes, it's hugely upsetting, my grown up children (27, 27 & 21) are very sad, too. The Queen is all we've ever known.. that 'we WILL meet again' in the pandemic.. the Paddington sketch.. such a warm hearted, funny, steadfast lady.

Mind, I cried buckets when Hong Kong was handed back, too, as my late grandparents lived there for years & my beloved late Dad grew up there.. I might not show emotion to anyone, but I feel it.