Adult dd told be to fuck myself, a.i.b.u to block her today?

[Summerloving22]

An hour ago my 23 yr old dd called me as she was having a bad day, could i do a small favour, and i said sure as ever. She described her chaos and i expressed sympathy and needed to advise her of doing one thing with her bank before her wages were swallowed up (and she would then ask be to rescue her with money).She believes she is A.D.H.D but in four years never deblt with. We get on fine 50% of the time but she takes everything out on me.

My sentences got interrupted with her second guessing ,wrongly and accusing me of not helping. I assured her I was not saying anything at all and tried to keep convo simple and listen, but she continued to take things out on me through hissing, resentful suddenly. I know that she is wanting to push back from which is fine if she wants but after one bit too far on her side i did assert that i was hardly talking and could she not talk to me in that way. It's not the first time and on the whole she is over prickly, rude, and i am ashamed to say a bit shallow, will not return messages to her family unless she has no one else around in her life.

So a.i.b.u to think at 23, telling your mother to go fuck herself deserves a block?

Clearly swearing at you is not ok.

But the op reads like it isn't the full story tbh - you really went from being totally calm and reasonable, while she was chaotic, mentioning "one tiny thing" which led her to swearing - but then you jump to wanting to block your own dc? My guess is that the difficulty in your relationship has a shared cause, and that looking at that might be more helpful than such overdramatic and childish actions.

Yes. She needs to grow up.

She sounds awful I'd block her too
Nobody swears at me least of all my family!

This.

Block her? How old are you, 12?

It sounds like she wanted money, not advice...and became aggressive when it didn't look like this was your first choice of resolution...I wouldn't block but I'd take a step back to cool off.
She's 23, her finances are her responsibility and she has to learn she can't just be a bully to get an easy fix.

Just be a doormat basically op is what so many posters are saying

she is your child therefore she should be able to ride roughshod all over your feeling and you don’t let out a peep

according to lots of poster on here anyway

You don't block her - you listen and you support her - you mother her.

If she thinks she has ADHD (if which she is showing classic signs) explore this with professionals, she clearly needs help.

Help her - she's reaching out. It might hurt, but this is her asking for help.

At 23 I would hope you know how to ask for help without swearing at your mum

She believes she is A.D.H.D but in four years never deblt with.

Do you believe she might have ADHD (or similar)? If so - what did you do to deal with it during the 18 years that she was a child in your care?

Blaming her for not dealing with ADHD since she's been an adult is a bit rich if you also did fuck all about it when she was a child.

I think that detail tells us a lot about the dynamic here.

I agree with this

No I wouldn't block her butt turn off the phone for a bit if she's being horrible. Sometimes it feels like mums just can't do enough,doesn't it? Daughters especially seem to expect us to have all the answers and drop everything even if we are trying hard to cope ourselves!