To find that my ‘D’P has hacked away at two shrubs in our garden and it looks awful, beyond awful.
I do the majority of gardening and five years ago our new build garden was a completely blank canvas apart from a lawn and patio area. Since then I have planted trees, shrubs, plants and created a garden space that I am proud of, and a space we are complimented on. My phone camera roll is full of photos of the garden evolving over the past five years.
Today I receive a text to say that ‘D’P has hoovered, done some ironing and done some pruning, followed by a 😁 emoji.
He’s actually hacked away at two shrubs, which would have provided berries and shelter for the birds in winter, and reduced their size by a least 50%. They used to cover the plain wall of our carport, provided screening and allowed some privacy from our neighbours (and vice versa). No discussion took place, nothing.
AIBU to be so angry, to feel as upset as I do? Of course, they’ll hopefully grow back next spring. But they didn’t need to be reduced in size, I maintained them well and they looked really good! Now they are ugly, shapeless, and I simply don’t understand what possessed him!
AIBU? Any advice?
AIBU?
I have come home from work…
Itsokay2020 · 07/09/2022 17:34
Am I being unreasonable?
1768 votes. Final results.
POLLGymnopedie · 07/09/2022 18:49
I can see what you mean OP. The shrub itself looks much neater and more compact but it's exposed a glaring patch of bare wall - and that's the problem.
It doesn't help now, but maybe the answer is a trellis and something growing up it that sits flatter against the wall, and could actually cover it all without being too big for the garden?
Johnnysgirl · 07/09/2022 20:28
I'm with you, op, preferred it before. I don't do "neat" when it comes to gardens.
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Saynotothefishtank · 07/09/2022 20:30
Ugh that is such man-gardening. My DH does it too OP, he thinks plants are there to be terrified into submission.
He’s now only allowed to prune under supervision and preferably not at all 🤣
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