Friend gave me Covid!

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Looking for opinions about something as I really don’t know how to feel and could do with a bit of perspective please.
I met up with a friend last week and spent about five hours with her. I tested positive for covid yesterday and she told me she’d tested positive two days before meeting up with me. On the day we met up she told me she’d actually tested negative (I’m very careful as I have a 94 year old mother) but now just said she was actually positive two days before meeting up.
I’ve only been back at work for two days after the summer holidays and have had to phone in sick!
I just don’t know how to feel about the fact she met up with me knowing she had covid and about the fact she lied about testing negative.
I’d trust this friend with my life which is why I’m so shocked at her behaviour.
So, AIBU to feel annoyed at what she’s done or does life just have to go on as normal nowadays with no care about if we spread covid or not?

She knew all of that and still lied so she could meet up? Why aren't you angry?

I'd bin her and make sure she knew why. She's appalling.

I'd have to ask her why she said she'd tested negative and outright lied to you. I'd have to...

Having elderly, vulnerable parents as well, I really don’t think I could forgive this.

Really ? So you don't care if you pass it on to a vulnerable person ? Or if someone gets long covid because of you ?

I agree. I'd drop her from my life and tell her I have no time for liars.

She would no longer be my friend. Simple as that.

FFS.

You obviously can't trust this "friend" with your life.
Its great that lockdowns are over and we are getting on with things but covid can still be a VERY serious illness leaving people permanently disabled. If anyone tests positive they should still be a lot more careful than your friend.

The fact she lied would bother me , why test if not going to at least warn others and let them make the choice

I'm surprised anyone's still talking about whether they've tested or not or knows whether they have covid or not. So, I'd say its unreasonable to be annoyed that she 'gave you covid'
It is however very reasonable to be annoyed she lied.
I'm assuming she thinks you're over anxious but that's no excuse for lies.

What are you going to do, OP?

YANBU I’d be very pissed off with this, just like I would be if my partner lied about not having an STI.

Just because they’ve got it, it doesn’t mean it’s fair you should catch it too and it should be your choice whether to take that risk or not.

@Bubblegumpoppop a cold and covid are very different I have just spent over a month in hospital because of covid iv never been hospitalised from a cold. During my time in there several people on the ward died. Iv never known anyone die of a cold

It's the lying that would bother me.

Why test if you then ignore the result?

It’s certainly not “just a cold” for everyone.
My sister is vaccinated, fit, healthy and has just been made very seriously Ill by a Covid infection.
Its like Russian Roulette.

Even with a cold, I would let the person know I have it so that they can make the choice whether to expose themselves to it or not.

She was an idiot. Please tell her she shouldn’t have done that.

She really does sound like a horrible person

I certainly wouldn't be meeting up with someone with a 94 year old mother if I had a cold, secondary infections are no joke. Particularly if I knew they were being careful!

It's not like this wasn't a concern before Covid.

I would be absolutely furious with her and probably ditch her as a friend. 😔

Text her and explain you feel upset that she met you knowing she had covid. You worry about your mum and long covid had been hard going.

I'm so sorry OP. What an absolutely shitty betrayal of trust. That she knows what you've been through makes it worse.

I’m not sure how anyone could have lived through the last 2.5 years without knowing this, but on the off chance you’re just woefully ignorant and not a troll:
‘CEV’ stands for ‘clinically extremely vulnerable’, ie people likely to die or be severely ill for a long time (eg hospitalised) if they contract Covid, even now. There are several million of us in the UK. Many are not elderly. They have jobs, young families, and would otherwise expect to live for many decades, but not if catch Covid.

For her sheer lack of empathy and lack of consideration for you I’d be reversing from this friendship top speed. The biggie for me is that she lied to you. She’s not your friend. I’d be done, I’d never trust her again.

I'm assuming she thinks you're over anxious but that's no excuse for lies.

I can't believe anyone wouldn't be extremely anxious about passing on a virus to a 94 year old, who is unlikely to experience Covid as a bit of a cold
Tho it seems OP's friend and a few folk on this thread don't think that's an issue .

It should be treated as though you have D&V.

Which is debilitating for a healthy young-ish person but potentially serious for a more fragile one.

The lying would finish it for me. What kind of friend is that?