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Original poster

Friend gave me Covid!

113 replies

Mommypolls8 · 07/09/2022 17:16

Looking for opinions about something as I really don’t know how to feel and could do with a bit of perspective please.
I met up with a friend last week and spent about five hours with her. I tested positive for covid yesterday and she told me she’d tested positive two days before meeting up with me. On the day we met up she told me she’d actually tested negative (I’m very careful as I have a 94 year old mother) but now just said she was actually positive two days before meeting up.
I’ve only been back at work for two days after the summer holidays and have had to phone in sick!
I just don’t know how to feel about the fact she met up with me knowing she had covid and about the fact she lied about testing negative.
I’d trust this friend with my life which is why I’m so shocked at her behaviour.
So, AIBU to feel annoyed at what she’s done or does life just have to go on as normal nowadays with no care about if we spread covid or not?

OP posts:
mycatisannoying · 07/09/2022 17:47

YANBU!

Parrotpretty · 07/09/2022 17:48

She is absolutely no friend

Badger1970 · 07/09/2022 17:49

It was your choice to make, OP, not hers.

For that reason alone, she'd be an ex friend.

Raindancer411 · 07/09/2022 17:49

I wouldn't be happy with her knowing all the story, and she wouldn't be a friend of mine no more.

Spidey66 · 07/09/2022 17:49

Yes it was bad she didn’t give you the option to cancel, but covid is everywhere..you can’t be certain it came from her.

YellowTreeHouse · 07/09/2022 17:49

Very, very few people are testing. There’s no reason to.

Of course life needs to just carry on. You are continually coming into contact with covid positive people.

Original poster
Mommypolls8 · 07/09/2022 17:49

I double checked that it wasn’t a misunderstanding by asking what day she tested positive and by asking again what day of illness she was on. She definitely tested positive two days prior to meeting up with me.

OP posts:
LuckySantangelo35 · 07/09/2022 17:49

Your ‘friend’ is a twat

that’s all there is to it really

LynetteScavo · 07/09/2022 17:50

YABU to trust this friend with your life.

If she didn't know, or even felt a bit unwell and didn't test then fair enough, but she's lied to you. I wouldn't want to meet up with her again after she lied, whatever it was about.

declutteringmymind · 07/09/2022 17:55

I'd be seriously pissed off. I have friends and family smiley who have dealt with covid differently because of their own personal circumstances. She was being selfish by not telling you, and worse, putting your health at risk.

I would message her and tell her that you are upset that she lied about her covid test and has now given you covid.

It's up to you to forgive her but she needs to apologise, and you need reassuring that she won't be a dick again.

Mooloolabababy · 07/09/2022 17:57

Wow, what a shit 'friend' you have there op.
Don't think I could come back from that.
Hope you aren't feeling too ill and hope you make a quick recovery Flowers

Catch21 · 07/09/2022 17:57

Most people are back to normal I think, but in this case she was wrong to lie.

maddy68 · 07/09/2022 18:02

I would care that she lied to you. And didn't give the option of avoidng her so unfair that you could have given that to your mum unknowingly

Drunkencrow · 07/09/2022 18:03

YellowTreeHouse · 07/09/2022 17:49

Very, very few people are testing. There’s no reason to.

Of course life needs to just carry on. You are continually coming into contact with covid positive people.

Apart from all the reasons to. There's that. And the vulnerable contact as outlined. You are spot on otherwise well done!

Theala · 07/09/2022 18:10

I would be absolutely furious, at both the knowingly exposing you to Covid and especially about lying to you about it. Wtf was her reasoning for that?

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 07/09/2022 18:14

YellowTreeHouse · 07/09/2022 17:49

Very, very few people are testing. There’s no reason to.

Of course life needs to just carry on. You are continually coming into contact with covid positive people.

But this friend HAD tested. Positive. And lied about it to the OP, which is bad enough but knowing she has a 94 year old mother, it's unforgivable

janj2301 · 07/09/2022 18:15

Once I tested positive I staid in my bedroom for 10 days until I tested negative. Only left my room to use the bathroom. Husband brought me food and drink.

Original poster
Mommypolls8 · 07/09/2022 18:16

Theala · 07/09/2022 18:10

I would be absolutely furious, at both the knowingly exposing you to Covid and especially about lying to you about it. Wtf was her reasoning for that?

I didn’t ask her as I couldn’t quite believe she’d lied to me. I still can’t. I really would’ve trusted her with my life and would’ve done anything for her. She’s always been such a good friend, 100% reliable and trustworthy.

OP posts:
MaryHoldTheCandleSteadyWhileIShaveTheChickensLeg · 07/09/2022 18:20

Just ask her Confused

Pinkspottedbanana · 07/09/2022 18:21

This kind of behaviour beggars belief! Especially as she obviously knows about your mum. It’s becoming very common.

A friend of mine had plans to visit their ex NDN who had recently moved south to stay for 2 nights.
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They both tested positive so did let my friend know and the visit was cancelled.

However, they attended a jazz event the following day!.

They are both 80!

Obviously didn’t see a problem with it as they told my friend all about the jazz event, needless to say she was gobsmacked!

Mind you the husband is a notorious tightwad, so probably wanted his monies worth.

Bet there were quite a few jazz fans feeling pretty crap soon after!

Devo1818 · 07/09/2022 18:22

Why did she test? That's what I don't get. I am carrying on as normal now and so I get why other people are but then what the point in testing?

Bubblegumpoppop · 07/09/2022 18:23

Would u be as bothered if she gave u a cold ????

rookiemere · 07/09/2022 18:23

I think you have to ask her by messenger if it's too much to do over the phone " Friend - did you know you had covid when you met me ?"

How she answered would determine if we could be friends again.

MotherOfPuffling · 07/09/2022 18:25

Bubblegumpoppop · 07/09/2022 18:23

Would u be as bothered if she gave u a cold ????

That’s a bit different though. For CEV people, Covid is still really serious. It’s like asking, would it be ok if she gave you a potentially fatal disease? Or fed OP’s mother she knew would likely make her really really sick. It simply isn’t on.

Sunnydaysunny · 07/09/2022 18:25

That's not the behaviour of a friend, is it?

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