What's a fair amount of maintenance to expect in this situation?

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I've NC for this as don't want it linking to other threads for anonymity.

I'm leaving my partner soon (many reasons but abuse is one of them). I'm not at the point of moving out just yet - still looking for suitable places and working out finances etc. So none of this has been discussed directly with my STBEx partner just yet, so no idea what he will agree to. Nor do I know if he plans to have our DC overnight and how often etc. so these things will need to be ironed out. But just wanting an idea of what's a "fair" contribution to expect from him.

We have one DC aged 18 months, who attends nursery 3 days a week and on the other 2 days each of us has a day off work to care for our child. Childcare costs for this are in the region of £500-580 per month depending on how many weeks / days in the month. Average cost would be around £530.

He earns a net monthly income in the region of £2,200-2,900 per month, overtime depending.
He has 2 other DC who he pays £250 pm maintenance for.

Thank you.

With childcare if he ends up having any weeknights and so days that are his you can arrange childcare separately so you have a contract for your days and he has a separate contract for his day/s. Though this might need to be at a separate nursery so it doesn't get messy.

Honestly though I'd work from worst case scenario, which is highly likely based on his past behaviour. That would be £125 (Same he pays each of his other kids) and EOW plus that day he has off work with her. So you'd be responsible for all childcare and everything else.

I'd definitely be seeing if he'll agree to pay more to get the credit card cleared quicker, before splitting up. Maybe buy cheaper brands on the food shop then get cashback for the difference. Save what you can.

OP
he is an employee, give the CMS his employers name and address and your DPs details and they will
contact his employer and deduct at source. I'll assume his ex hasn't contacted CMS since he's been in this job hence why they haven't caught him out yet.

The ‘joint’ credit card debt is in your name only, so don’t expect any help with that. Why on earth did you let that happen?

The only thing you can do is go through CMS. Good luck…

In most situations, including yours, expect nothing so you won't be disappointed and plan for that. so anything you get is a 'bonus'.

What's right and wrong, even so-called 'legal rights', can get thrown out the window and often you have to fight for a lot of things that by 'right' you should get but still have to fight for.