To loathe back to school photos on social media?

[blueskyeve]

I'm clearly in the minority after scrolling through my Facebook feed today. Every single post on there is a photo of a child posing in their school uniform. Why? Please someone explain, I must be missing something.

There's no logical reason for it to bother you when you yourself have 400 randoms on sm.

I love them especially when they compare the difference, up against the same door or when they pop up on next years timeline. Just like the annual school photographer, naff photos but such memories.

If you only use Facebook for local groups and never post, whose photos are you seeing? @blueskyeve

it's nice for parents to mark the passing of time and milestones in their dcs lives I take a pic of my dc of their first day back but don't post on any social media as I don't get why anyone else would remotely be interested in seeing other people's kids first day!
I certainly am not interested in other people's kids. I'll send pics privately through WhatsApp etc to their grandmother or other relatives that may like a copy. I quite regret not taking pics of my eldest dc each year I only seemed to do it in nursery then missed a good few years just didn't think to do it back then and she's still only a teen so not that long ago!

We are often upset/angered/perturbed by things we feel we are not allowed to do. I get very annoyed when people park across my drive as I would never do that - it annoys me even though I usually do not use my drive and I worked out it is just because I couldn't do it as I think it is wrong.

Is there any chance you e.g. do not feel able to publicly express your pride in your children or something like that?

OP you DO realise this is forum called MUMSnet don’t you? As such will primarily be full of mums and parents in general. Here’s a tip if you have parents posting kids on your Facebook that you don’t give a shit about then unfriend the parents 🤷‍♀️

Oh I just read 400 FB friends, how do you do that without using it?

You can set your settings on Facebook to only show and display things to your friends, or even just a few named friends. I don't have anything on a public setting, and all my friends are my friends, relatives and a few work colleagues I get on well with, that's it.

I love the back to school photos though, indeed I like all photos of my friends kids, that's why I'm on FB! I have too many friends (old friends, school friends, current friends) and relatives (all around the world ) to start emailing them separately, so I like that little window into their lives.

I really love using it for Facebook groups. But I've accumulated 400 or so friends over the 15 years I've been using it. I don't post anything on my feed.

Yes I think I will

In a world where so many children grow up in neglectful and abusive households, where, at best, their parents can't be bothered with them and at worst they are deliberately cruel, I find it incredibly life affirming to see so many parents giving a shit. I love seeing their happy little faces and their neat, clean clothes. Someone loves them dearly.

Yabu.

I don't have 400 friends though, I have about 100 including large family across the world, my husband's friends and family, my own friends, some of the friends' children and so on. No-one I don't know at all. Hence, I'm happy to see their kids!

I'm on it and log on about 3-4 times a week.

My DD is severely disabled. This is a huge milestone for us and only have close family and friends on FB so of course I wanted to share such a special moment. It's a huge milestone for my Dd and my god I'm so proud of her.

I love it when they pop up on my Facebook memories. Brings joy every year.

If they knew that you loathed the photos of their children then I expect they will be thrilled to bits you’ve fucked off

miserable rotter

Fair point

Couple of days??? My grandson went in lovely and tidy in his first day, came out looking like he'd had a fight with a muddy tiger! And he's no better now, bless him.

And so you should be!

Every fucking year someone posts this. There should be an alert or something before you hit ‘post’ on mn - ‘this question has been posted before. Would you like to see the responses to previous posts before you post the same fucking thing as everyone else?’

And no I don’t put pictures of my kids in their school uniform for all to see but for those that what to, crack on.

People are proud of their kids and want to show them off

Yeah you're just a bit of a misery guts.

To loathe them is such a strange reaction.

I love seeing all the smiley faces all dressed in new uniform. There is so much nasty shit on social media it's nice to see something positive.

YABU and kind of missing the point of Facebook. All the marketplace and group stuff - that's more recent. It was set up for people to connect with each other. this is how we do it.
Every day fb gives me memories of photos I took 1 year, 5 years, 15 years ago etc. I love seeing these.
The people I'm friends with on fb are a mixture - mostly of people I know, or have known in the past. They aren't randoms.
I love seeing all the children that I've known since they were tiny, grow up. Not just my own. I marvel at how quickly its happened.

Loathing is a pretty weird thing to feel about a photo of a kid. Really?

Seek help

Are you ok OP?

<head tilt>

We've had days where we haven't even got to the point of taking a photo on the way to school before DS starts looking dishevelled!