Extremely rude doctor

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This is more of a vent than anything else.

In my GP practice you don't get a face to face, you get a phone call then a face to face if deemed necessary. That's fine, no issue with that.

You have to state what you are calling for to the receptionist so I stated stomach issues and period problems.

The doctor calls and asks how he can help.

I begin saying - I'm calling for Two things that may or may not be related.. one is a pain in my stomach, one is period pains.. he cuts me off right there and says .. I don't have time for a list of issues.

What's your stomach pain he asks - dull ache, coming and going, few centimeters to the right and below belly button, been going on few weeks. He says - it's just your bowels, it is very normal. I question that - I'm 36, never had this pain before.

Then I say - about my period - he goes - I don't have time to be talking about periods and all that, quickly give me the highlights. I could not believe the rudeness of him. Highlights - 12 days between a period, sometimes 7 weeks, extremely painful through to my back and bum - cannot physically move, blood clots, very heavy, would consider a hysterectomy it is that bad. (Took me about 30 seconds to give him that run down) Ok he says, i dont have time to deal with this today and you need to call back another day for a new appointment and request a female doctor.

I was gobsmacked at his rudeness. The phone call lasted under 5 mins. I understand they are under alot of pressure but his rudeness was terrible. I didn't realise you couldn't talk about 2 issues (that may be related) at the same appointment.

This sounds just like a doctor I had to make a formal complaint about one time. I was talking about my anxiety and he actually tutted, sighed and looked at his watch while I was crying. Make a complaint. And request to never see this doctor again.

YANBU
That's totally unacceptable attitude - report him😡

I have had a similar experience! I’d had stomach pains and was also bleeding when I went to the loo. I was really anxious about the appointment so I’d made a note of my symptoms on my phone so I didn’t miss anything out. I started to explain what had happened and then said, I’ve made a note in my phone so I remembered to tell you everything and she said I DONT HAVE TIME FOR A LIST OF PROBLEMS!! I was gobsmacked and said I’ll just leave it there then!! Whilst holding in rage tears!
when I checked my patient access later in the day she had made up blood pressure results, temperature and oxygen levels that she never took!!!

OP, I feel your annoyance regarding that GP. Report him!! I'm 46yrs old. Had a host of problems over the last few years and I'm sure they were ALL connected to my good old hormones 🙁 I've been told to lose weight (I'm not overweight) , change diet, you're too young to have...., we'd only investigate why you're missing periods if you wanted to get pregnant. I was told these things mainly by female Dr's, younger than myself. I only hope they have a shit perimenopausal time!!! It was a male GP that sorted out my headaches (blood pressure related). I moved to a different practice totally to get HRT.

A couple of days after my first child was born I phoned the number I was given on discharge because I was haemorrhaging and had an incredibly painful infection. I ended up accidentally reaching the delivery ward where a man answered, listened to me crying and asking for help as I explained how ill I felt, before telling me I had reached the wrong ward and hanging up on me. I was very young and had taken hours to pluck up the courage to ring for help. I ended up seriously ill for weeks because I was embarrassed to call back.

This sort of attitude endangers women, so sorry you experienced this and definitely make a complaint.

Why would you need to speak to a female doctor??!!

You need a face to face appointment for this, they need to feel your tummy 😞 receptionist should never have given you a telephone appointment. Defo call back for a female gp asap

Left side is bowels - right side could be possible grumbling appendix
hope upu get sorted, but he was a rude arsehole and should be reported to gmc.

This is disgraceful. I’m so angry on your behalf! X

That sounds bad. When I was having trouble during the menopause and had to return to the GP a few times, I found them very rude & dismissive. And it was female GPs.

Report the prick to the GMC (general medical council) for causing you distress and not listening to your concerns. He's a Dr, should be able to deal with female concerns. He sounds like a dick, don't let it go or he'll just do it to someone else.

Are you American? Because in the U.K it doesn’t work like that. You see your general practitioner for all issues and they then refer you to a
specialist if required.

Not surprising. That’s the problem with General Practitioners!

Why does it need to be a female GP can he only treat conditions he's physically experienced himself? What an absolute pratt.

But that's not the outcome OP got is it? He didn't identify a problem and refer on for further investigation/treatment. He might as well have said go away and go bother someone else with a vagina. And why does being pleasant have to be mutually exclusive to being professional, why can't you be "nice" AND establish relevant details for diagnosis?

You need to complain. This is disgusting behaviour and extremely rude. I’m sure it isn’t but how does he know it isn’t something more serious. You could have endometriosis and may need further intervention. I would make another appointment and request a female doctor so you can discuss your issues.

What's his gender got to do with it?! I would contact the Practice Manager and complain that he refused to discuss your problems and refused to deal with anything to do with things he thought needed a female Dr. I had a male midwife when I was born. He was amazing. Gender shouldn't affect medical care. Pain could be an ovarian cyst so don't delay in getting it checked out x

I’ve had that before, went for two things, the dr got visibly irritated when I stated that at the beginning

Disagree! Don’t not complain because you presume nothing will happen - that’s how these arses get away with this crap.
Get another doc and demand a scan, get your ovaries checked.

Put an official complaint in. The two conditions could easily be connected

Some of the stories on here are awful. Some really shocking treatment, or lack of treatment from doctors.

There really is some doctors and nurses who really just should not be in the job. I have a couple of stories of my own of medical negligence by both doctors and nurses (both involving brain conditions) but I'll save those stories for another day.

Update: I contacted the doctors today - no appointments left. I mentioned yesterday's behaviour, the receptionist says he is a locum and she has never heard of, nor understands why, he is requesting I get a female doctor and gave me the details in which to write a complaint. I'm not one for complaining but I do think this needs highlighted.

what a horrible person - report him.

You need to call and demand tests for ovarian cancer, don’t take no for an answer. Hope you are ok OP x

You 💯 need to put a complaint in through PALS. Link below

www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/hospitals/what-is-pals-patient-advice-and-liaison-service/

Also complain on NHS choices. Link below
www.nhs.uk/