My friends wedding was 4 months ago. They went all out-save the date cards, professional invitations, very well catered, exclusive venue, musicians, exotic honeymoon, full works, pre wedding photography etc. All paid for by the brides parents.
The only thing they haven't done is send thank you cards for the gifts. No email or text either. I think it's really rude of them.
AIBU?
To think you should say thank you for wedding gifts
Stripeystrip201 · 06/09/2022 07:57
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLoopsfellover · 06/09/2022 08:08
Yea I think it’s very rude not to say thank you for wedding gifts. However I’ve known thankyou cards to come quite a long time after weddings, so maybe they’re still in the pipeline.
Communionmom · 06/09/2022 08:09
Generally, especially a wedding like you describe, the bride and groom are waiting for the wedding photos to come back and then send out thank you cards with the photos on them.
As far as I remember, you can receive a thank you card up to 12 months after the wedding before it’s considered rude.
17to35 · 06/09/2022 08:24
One common mistake is the adherence to a spreadsheet so if a non-invitee gives a gift (usually a well meaning older person) they can whistle for their thank you.
Not on the spreadsheet- don't exist.
Ellmau · 06/09/2022 08:06
Yes, very rude.
Ask them if they received your gift as, not having heard, you're worried it had not reached them.
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StottyCakeandJam · 06/09/2022 08:10
It may be that they’re awaiting the official photos & that the photography package includes printed “thank you” photo cards. The last two weddings we’ve been to, this has been the case & the thank you cards have come about 4 months after the wedding. I agree that a thank you is polite.
Womencanlift · 06/09/2022 08:41
I agree with pp - waiting months just so you can send one with a photo means the moment has past.
A timely thank you is much more polite. You could get a box of plain thank you cards from Amazon and follow it up with fancy ones later if you so wish.
But waiting months to acknowledge a gift is just rude
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