My friends wedding was 4 months ago. They went all out-save the date cards, professional invitations, very well catered, exclusive venue, musicians, exotic honeymoon, full works, pre wedding photography etc. All paid for by the brides parents.
The only thing they haven't done is send thank you cards for the gifts. No email or text either. I think it's really rude of them.
AIBU?
To think you should say thank you for wedding gifts
Stripeystrip201 · 06/09/2022 07:57
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLMarvellousmadness · 08/09/2022 08:28
I wouldnt be be so entitled to expect a thank you.
Why cant you just enjoy giving vs
The need to be applauded for it
Yabu.
They dont owe you nothing and they arent rude.
gogohmm · 08/09/2022 08:28
I've never received a thank you card. I have received an email or text though. Have you received anything at all?
Marvellousmadness · 08/09/2022 08:28
I wouldnt be be so entitled to expect a thank you.
Why cant you just enjoy giving vs
The need to be applauded for it
Yabu.
They dont owe you nothing and they arent rude.
Ooohyeah · 08/09/2022 08:08
I think it’s a generational thing, younger couples care a lot less about thank you cards than the older generations. If I’m giving a gift I don’t expect a hand written note gushing how perfect my gift was. Just say thank you and we’ll move on.
Ooohyeah · 07/09/2022 23:18
Oh dear we sent thank you cards 4 months after the wedding, I didn’t realise we were so rude! We wanted official photos on the thank you cards so had to wait a while. When I give a gift I’m not bothered about thank you cards anyway, I think they’re dated (just like Christmas cards). As long as I get a thank you when I hand the gift over I’m happy.
Ooohyeah · 07/09/2022 23:18
Oh dear we sent thank you cards 4 months after the wedding, I didn’t realise we were so rude! We wanted official photos on the thank you cards so had to wait a while. When I give a gift I’m not bothered about thank you cards anyway, I think they’re dated (just like Christmas cards). As long as I get a thank you when I hand the gift over I’m happy.
Stripeystrip201 · 06/09/2022 08:32
I just think a timely thankyou is more important than a fancy card.
LolaJ87 · 07/09/2022 09:54
I am one of those dreadful people you're talking about. I got married 6 months ago, and my thank you cards only went out this week. I got pregnant very shortly after our wedding, and by the time we got our professional photographs I was in a bad way.
I basically did nothing until the second trimester kicked in and I was up to it - went through the photographs, picked out some nice ones, had the cards printed up and have done stints of writing out proper personalised thank you messages over the past month (not quick work with carpal tunnel).
We had specifically asked for no gifts or money so were very surprised by how spoiled we were and wanted to take the time to thank people properly. Maybe that is rude, but the etiquette is that you have a year and most will know I've had a complicated pregnancy so hopefully will be a bit more understanding than many on this thread...
Ellmau · 06/09/2022 08:06
Yes, very rude.
Ask them if they received your gift as, not having heard, you're worried it had not reached them.
Ooohyeah · 07/09/2022 23:18
Oh dear we sent thank you cards 4 months after the wedding, I didn’t realise we were so rude! We wanted official photos on the thank you cards so had to wait a while. When I give a gift I’m not bothered about thank you cards anyway, I think they’re dated (just like Christmas cards). As long as I get a thank you when I hand the gift over I’m happy.
FangsForTheMemory · 07/09/2022 23:10
Preprinted cards are naff IMO. Someone bought you a gift, the least you can do is write a letter.
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