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On holiday with boyfriend - not going great due to family

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Hottimesahead · 05/09/2022 10:21

Boyfriend of 5 months and I are on holiday for 1 week. Visiting my parents for 3 days ( staying in a hotel) and 4 days elsewhere. First day was great as we had alone time. Next day we spent with my parents who are very intense. Basically we are happy wandering about stopping for coffee etc. said we didn’t want to do long car trips, just enjoy the villages and sun. Both been stressed at work so just wanted to chill and not have a timetable. Place we are at is very quiet and not much to do. I did warn him, but he said he was happy to be with me.

My parents idea is to spend every waking minute with us - timetabled out. They wanted to take us out for a short car ride for lunch, she said 30 mins max. Ended up being a 4 hr round trip in a car with a huffy mum as she thought we should of planned to do stuff. We were not happy as she lied to us in destination. Parents talked at us whole way there - exhausted at the end with no 2 way conversation.

Boyfriend is being polite, but I can tell is hating it. We plan to leave early tomorrow to next destination. I did warn him they are a lot before he booked and parents will take over. Had a quiet word with my mum and she has left us alone now, but is not happy.

boyfriend and me are now sitting in silence - he normally is very affectionate . Was Not the romantic break I imagined. I hope this is situational and not a turn for worse in our relationship. I hope next place with more to do with bring us alive again.

help with what to do. I feel my relationship is doomed

OP posts:
Louloudaisy2020 · 07/09/2022 07:51

Folklore9074 · 06/09/2022 19:38

This is all really odd.

On the one hand you imagined you were going to have a romantic break with your very new boyfriend... and you took him to stay with your parents. Hmmm.

On the other you take you boyfriend of only five months to see your 'intense' parents who it transpires you've not see in over five years.

Feels super obvious this was never going to work out in the way you intended.

Exactly this.

I'm sorry OP but YABU.

  1. You only see your parents once a year, spend that time with them, enjoy it while you can. Yes they sound super intense but they just want to spent quality time together.
  1. While I agree it sounds no fun, but you and your BF just need to be open and honest about it all and laugh it off rather than making or a big deal. Make a joke of the situation and don't sit there in silence with each other or one being grumpy about it. Sounds like your BF was up for trip anyway!

Lesson learned - never spend that much time with your parents so early on, don't expect it to be romantic and maybe do your romantic break 1st and see them 2nd

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