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To trust a man who walked out in his wife

112 replies

flatflips · 03/09/2022 19:38

Of five years and his six month old daughter?
They fell out of love and were fighting continually.
He co parents relatively well with his exw.

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PinkButtercups · 04/09/2022 14:58

They fell out of love and were fighting continually.

So he says.

RealBecca · 04/09/2022 15:01

FFS anyone thinking of daying this man is desperate. He is (allegedly) going back to court after 3 years. Believe it when I see it. And even if he does who wants to be involved in the crossfire. Find someone who can offer fun and no complications.

ReneBumsWombats · 04/09/2022 15:03

I'm sure your love will change him.

RealBecca · 04/09/2022 15:04

Couldn't have been fighting for more than 18 months if he got her pregnant could he. No wonder she got involved with someone else for some support as kids are hard and he wasnt around. And still playing blame the ex. Princely.

girlmom21 · 04/09/2022 15:05

He hasn't sorted out contact in 3 years that suits them both. If he was going back to court he'd have done it already.

2bazookas · 04/09/2022 15:05

Course you can trust him. . You can absolutely rely on him to treat you the same way when you fail to please.

RealBecca · 04/09/2022 15:06

And of course he says they were fighting and fell out of love. what else is he supposed to say, he didnt like parenting a small child and the expectation that he step up and the relationship has changed? Doesnt paint him how he wants to be seen does it.

2bazookas · 04/09/2022 15:07

He co parents relatively well with his exw.

Who told you that? Have you asked her?

Vikinga · 04/09/2022 15:08

If they were fighting then I guess the best thing to do would be to split. Having said that I would have stayed unless abusive as would have wanted to see my child all the time when they are that young.

Also babies strain a lot of relationships so would have been better to have given it a chance given there is a child involved.

2bazookas · 04/09/2022 15:11

flatflips · 03/09/2022 20:52

He pays maintenance and supports his daughter very well financially.
His exw is playing silly beggars with access.
For example, if his daughter is due to go his house but it's a special occasion at her Mum's, she will say that daughter is too unwell to go with little notice ( regular occurrence) but if something
Comes up on his weekend where his daughter is due to be with her Mum , Mum has often rang to ask him
To take her overnight eg a party/ wedding etc. it's always last minute also which is frustrating and upsets the schedule.
From what I can see, Mum sees Dad as a glorified babysitter .
I believe that he is going back to court to sort it out .

What ever makes you think this litany of fights and conflict amounts to him
"co-parenting relatively well with exW"?

ReneBumsWombats · 04/09/2022 15:14

From what I can see, Mum sees Dad as a glorified babysitter .

He walked out on them. How does he see her?

mycatisannoying · 04/09/2022 15:16

The baby was only six months old??
Nah, fuck that.

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