Passed my driving test today, “d”h has ruined my confidence

[Blueysmum12]

I passed my driving test today second time with only 3 minors. I was so proud, especially as I’m 32 and thought I’d never drive.

Dh comes home (with no flowers 😒🙄😂) and puts me on his insurance finally. His car is much much bigger than what I have learnt in and has no handbrake so completely out my comfort zone.

iv just driven to Sainsburys with him and dd and all he did was moan, I’m not driving fast enough (I was I just wasn’t bombing to get through a light), i signal too early, I should have gone when there was a small space to turn into a road (bare in mind I hate driving his car and not used to clutch etc!)

iv came home and cried. He’s completely burst my bubble and now I don’t want to drive the car again.

I’m so pissed off.

Congratulations op! I.passed my test when I was 17. But didn't drive until I was 23 as I didn't have a car. Been with dh since I was 16. 30 now. He still criticises my driving. He's an awful back seat driver and I just ignore him now!

Congrats on passing your test. All cars feel a bit different and need getting used to. Take it out alone if you can so you haven't got someone else to think about. I much prefer taking an unfamiliar car out alone so I can stall it unobserved lol.

If it's a handbrake button, use it in same way as a normal handbrake, on hill starts it will hold the car for a few moments when you realise it so you can get your biting point. They do take getting used to.

Just read this thread.

Wanted to say that I was sad for you. A DH is meant to be encouraging to his DW. What kind of arse hasn’t for the spirit of generosity to congratulate you on this major success, but instead to discourage and criticise you?
Of all people, he should be rooting for you and building you up. I’m shocked. And if it’s not obvious to him that his behaviour was despicable, it makes me wonder about how he behaves and treats you the rest of the time.

Well done OP. Big achievement. You won’t instantly be an experienced and confident driver. It takes time and that’s fine. You do it at your pace and what you’re comfortable with. I’d avoid driving with him if possible and just build your confidence slowly. Well done again.

Well done and ignore him. I've been driving 40yrs and dh still back seat drives. You are actually probably technically better as he will have developed bad habits such as racing for a light. I found myself nearly saying this when DS passed, but stopped myself. Re the hand break I have a car I drive like that , and a normal one , I still have to think twice when swapping, so as newly qualified I bet its weird.

This poor OP is in a highly abusive relationship with a nasty vile prick.

The car and driving is the least of it.

God help and bless her.