Everywhere I go there are tons of ‘people watchers’ who sit on benches and have their eyes glued to people/families and have no shame in being caught looking. usually I ignore it and keep to myself but it happens so often that I’m starting to question what these people gain in being nosey. There’s nothing about me that would cause wandering eyes to focus on me, I’m just an average person minding my business!
Went for a nice day at the beach before dc go back to school on Monday, sitting on a wall eating lunch and happen to look up at a lone woman watching our every movement from the sand. Found it very uncomfortable so we moved. She then seemed to have moved on to watch another family as we walked past and looked over.
now don’t get me wrong I know there are people that will think ‘how lovely a family enjoying their day’ to watch children play with fond memories of their own, and watching the busy rush of a town/city without focusing on a specific person, but I’m talking about those who intentionally sit and stare for fun with no realisation it may make some feel uncomfortable as they don’t want to be watched by strangers.
i have a friend who purposely goes to a specific cafe every morning to watch people from the window. She puts on social media things like ‘people watching from x if anyone wants to join’. She can’t explain why she does it when I asked. She’s had people approach her to argue about it and some people telling her to look away, from inside the cafe. sometimes she brings her mum and they make a morning of it. Is it loneliness? Boredom? I couldn’t think of anything more pointless than watching a family sit together/eat/walk/talk.
is there anyone here who does it? If so can I ask why? Genuinely trying to understand why it’s so common and enjoyed by so many!
AIBU?
To not ‘get’ people watchers?
Desertdweller8 · 02/09/2022 18:08
Am I being unreasonable?
287 votes. Final results.
POLLapintortwo · 03/09/2022 08:58
I don't know how to not people watch. It just comes naturally to me.
I am discreet and wouldn't make anyone uncomfortable, though
Desertdweller8 · 02/09/2022 19:53
No not me I’m a new member so I haven’t read many threads or posted much here. I’m not that rude to suggest people read a book instead! Just curious why people love doing it so much and many have answered with their reasons now. I’m guessing it’s an escape from the individuals current life to look about at others lives and goings on which makes a lot of sense with the depressing way the world is now.
SallyWD · 03/09/2022 09:22
I don't get people who specifically go out to watch other people - not that I really notice it. I don't ever feel I'm being watched! However, I do understand the notion of just sitting in a park or somewhere and "watching the world go by". This seems quite appealing to me. It's not staring or focusing on particular people but just watching the scene around you, taking it all in. I think that can be quite a relaxing thing to do. A contrast to the usual rushing around we all do.
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