Everywhere I go there are tons of ‘people watchers’ who sit on benches and have their eyes glued to people/families and have no shame in being caught looking. usually I ignore it and keep to myself but it happens so often that I’m starting to question what these people gain in being nosey. There’s nothing about me that would cause wandering eyes to focus on me, I’m just an average person minding my business!
Went for a nice day at the beach before dc go back to school on Monday, sitting on a wall eating lunch and happen to look up at a lone woman watching our every movement from the sand. Found it very uncomfortable so we moved. She then seemed to have moved on to watch another family as we walked past and looked over.
now don’t get me wrong I know there are people that will think ‘how lovely a family enjoying their day’ to watch children play with fond memories of their own, and watching the busy rush of a town/city without focusing on a specific person, but I’m talking about those who intentionally sit and stare for fun with no realisation it may make some feel uncomfortable as they don’t want to be watched by strangers.
i have a friend who purposely goes to a specific cafe every morning to watch people from the window. She puts on social media things like ‘people watching from x if anyone wants to join’. She can’t explain why she does it when I asked. She’s had people approach her to argue about it and some people telling her to look away, from inside the cafe. sometimes she brings her mum and they make a morning of it. Is it loneliness? Boredom? I couldn’t think of anything more pointless than watching a family sit together/eat/walk/talk.
is there anyone here who does it? If so can I ask why? Genuinely trying to understand why it’s so common and enjoyed by so many!
AIBU?
To not ‘get’ people watchers?
Desertdweller8 · 02/09/2022 18:08
Am I being unreasonable?
287 votes. Final results.
POLLDillDanding · 02/09/2022 18:45
I love people watching.
We went on a couples hotel/pool/beach type holiday in Feb (not the sort of holiday we usually go on). We bloody loved watching other couples. It was fascinating. I also like watching people in restaurants, but I see people doing it to us, so I don’t feel bad (although I’m very discreet 😂).
After a few days of our holiday, we got chatting to 2 other couples. ‘Oh, we were all convinced you 2 were Italian’ they said to us. They’d clearly been watching too; it’s a thing.
CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/09/2022 18:34
OP, I take it you just looked at your feet or directly into the eyes of your children (who I assume were sitting with you), and nowhere else? Otherwise, YOU were people-watching too.
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Whatinthewonderingfuckisthat · 02/09/2022 19:28
I don’t get it- I really, really don’t. My husband will do this at the airport- I can’t understand how he doesn’t get bored and have questioned him before on how he gets any sort of enjoyment/doesn’t get bored doing it.
I need a book or to be looking round shops or something- 2 mins in my seat and I’m bored senseless!
I just think that we are all built differently and that the enjoyment I get out of a Series or book, others must get out of watching people!
wish I could do it though as it’s save me money!
PinkPencilCase · 02/09/2022 18:38
I don't think what you're describing is how I understand people watching. Surely it's more of a watching-the-world-go-by vibe than choosing your victims and staring intently.
You friend sounds like she is just having a morning doing nothing in a cafe, enjoying the atmosphere and hoping she might get some company?
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