To be accidentally pregnant at 41 by my hot but totally unreliable 53 yo boyfriend

[Ridiculouswoman]

Yes, i know the answer is yes.

Really thought I was too old for this to happen.

No idea what to do so just living in denial for a bit.

Adulthood is a myth (in my house anyway).

Well at 41 you should be old enough to know how it happened, and if you didn't prevent pregnancy ...sounds like you have to finally be an adult sharpish!!

You know you have options... termination, single parenting or hoping that 'hot' 53 year old (really?!) steps up. Being in denial isn't really an option for very long!

In what way does the hotness of your boyfriend impact the situation?

Sounds like Bridget Jones wrote the OP

Hello

Why on earth did you think you were too old for this to happen?!

My neighbour is a hot 53 year old so I'm not sure why some people are surprised at that 🤷‍♀️

Oh please. For the sake of your unborn child, grow up fast. Terminate if you want to and for the love of god get some bloody birth control in place. 🙄

It is all about the drama.

For a 41 year old woman, you sound like a 14 year old

You're a delight, aren't you.

Honestly I think the worst bit of mothering (and the reason I've never been tempted to do it) is having to interact with other mothers who are people you'd generally cross the road to avoid.

It's certainly not statistically normal and obviously we tend to have some awareness of our own cyclical symptoms.

Are you talking about a contraception failure or lack of? Because if the latter, it doesn't sound like either of you should be surprised! Good luck!

Good, get on with it then.

Must have been a shock- hope you’re ok.

41 isn’t all that old to have a baby (nor is 53 too old to be hot). Any thoughts about what you want to do?

Nope that's definitely not the worst bit of mothering.

"be grown up like me ie a total angry misery who loses her shyt when the drinks are 'wrong' at the Christmas nibbles"

(This is actually very helpful on cohort avoidance incentivisation, thanks )

Christ, people are fucking harsh. Is there any need to caller her 'thick'?

Feels like there's a competition these days on every thread to see who can be the most cutting.

You will be great!! Don't panic, it's happened now- what a lovely surprise

It's nice to hear someone say their boyfriend is hot. Attraction helps the dynamic of relationships esp in parenting l! I still fancy my husband a LOT

We have three kids

I'm not an arse, you could get to be friends with someone like me!

You sound a bit off. Are you quite ok?

41 is fine to have a baby andnot odd in the least.

@Ridiculouswoman are you ok? Have you spoken to anyone about it? It must've been quite a shock.

Thanks, laundrybin. Guess i think i should try it out, do feel it is would be a productive thing to do. But. Maybe I'm not the kind of person who can do mothering.

The question to ask yourself is "do I want a baby?" If you were planning on being child free and the presence of the baby hasn't changed how you feel, then you probably don't want a baby. Add in the precarious partner situation and it doesn't seem ideal.

I really hate people asking about contraception when a woman is pregnant. What possible relevance does that have??

Do you want the baby, OP? How far along are you?

oh quite a shock. Can you go for some counselling? You don;t need to try it out if you don't want to.

This. WTF