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AIBU?

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To ask what’s a reasonable amount of time to pay someone for a ticket?

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youmademehatethiscity · 30/08/2022 11:16

I’ve bought 5 tickets (1 for myself) and we all agreed to go, we all agreed the price, they knew I was going to buy them. It’s a seated event so made sense.

What a reasonable amount of time to pay someone back?

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FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 30/08/2022 11:17

Once the tickets have been bought.
From my experience these things need to be set out clearly as too many people don't pay up.

ItsSnowJokes · 30/08/2022 11:19

Straight after they are purchased! A week max. I hate owing money though so I always pay straight away. Just tell them to pay up.

holidayhonesty · 30/08/2022 11:20

Immediately, unless you told them you'd paid on a credit card and wouldn't need the money until x date when the bill would be due.

SpringSparrow · 30/08/2022 11:20

Have you messaged and asked them to pay you? If you have and they haven’t paid, say that you need to pay the credit card by a certain date. When I’ve done things like this, we bank transfer the money once the tickets or item has been paid for, so pretty quickly. Recently a friend couldn’t use some tickets so I offered to bank transfer the money but she didn’t give me her details so I just gave her the money next time I saw her.

IncompleteSenten · 30/08/2022 11:21

Before the event and with enough time to sell their ticket at the very latest.

Never let them have the ticket and attend the event if they haven't paid or you've got bob hope of getting your money back.

LookItsMeAgain · 30/08/2022 11:21

Exactly what @FlipFlopShopInHawaii has said.

If you bought the tickets, and there is an email/chat chain, send an update and say "I'll expect your money by Revolut or bank transfer. If I need to pass along my bank details, please let me know. Otherwise please transfer the money by 5pm today. Anyone not going, please let me know so that I can return their ticket (if that is possible)"

Danikm151 · 30/08/2022 11:21

Generally straight away but with my friends we say by next payday which is usually a week or two

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youmademehatethiscity · 30/08/2022 11:25

So one of them paid me straight and I put my bank details in the group chat.

I’m down close to £100 at the minute. I won’t be doing this again. They’ve all read the messages.

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PonyTime · 30/08/2022 11:29

Straight away unless it's close to payday, in which case sometimes people wait until after being paid

Hesma · 30/08/2022 11:30

Within a week unless otherwise agreed before purchase

Namechanger355 · 30/08/2022 11:31

If they have read - just message again and say - you would appreciate it if everyone could pay you by the end of today/tomorrow and here are your account details.

ie being clear and unambiguous is best

I doibt they would take the tickets and not pay - that’s stealing…

RebeccaCloud9 · 30/08/2022 11:32

Straight away, but people forget, or are meaning to do it but don't remember at a time they can transfer. Just remind them.

IncompleteSenten · 30/08/2022 11:32

Message again.

If you still want to go, pay me by X or I'll put the ticket up for sale.

hedgehogger1 · 30/08/2022 11:34

"Hi folks. Got bills due. Can you all pay for your tickets by 1st sept" then you've let them get past pay day

toastofthetown · 30/08/2022 11:39

Straight away, or if that’s not possible for them, I’d expect them to let you know that they’ll pay you back after payday for example.

I’d give them a nudge at a time you think they won’t have anything else on. When I don’t pay on time, it’s almost always because the message came through when I was busy, the chat moved on and the payment message got buried. I’d appreciate a heads up in that situation.

Ponderingwindow · 30/08/2022 11:40

given online banking, within a few minutes of your confirmation the tickets have been purchased and having provided the total Including all fees. Could possibly be busy right when the message comes in, so 12-16 hours depending on when you send message and work shifts/sleep patterns.

Nekomata · 30/08/2022 11:44

i think you need to set out a deadline for payment, but it would have been smarter doing this before the tickets.

Brefugee · 30/08/2022 11:46

youmademehatethiscity · 30/08/2022 11:16

I’ve bought 5 tickets (1 for myself) and we all agreed to go, we all agreed the price, they knew I was going to buy them. It’s a seated event so made sense.

What a reasonable amount of time to pay someone back?

Immediately. Give them a short deadline with the warning that they will go on a reseller site and make sure you do it.

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youmademehatethiscity · 30/08/2022 11:52

Nekomata · 30/08/2022 11:44

i think you need to set out a deadline for payment, but it would have been smarter doing this before the tickets.

Yes lesson learned. I just automatically trusted which was naive.

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amusedbush · 30/08/2022 11:52

Either immediately or, if agreed beforehand, first thing in the morning of the next pay day.

Talia99 · 30/08/2022 11:55

I suspect a lot of people will be waiting for payday which is likely to be tomorrow if they are paid monthly. I’d give them to tomorrow afternoon.

TheOrigRights · 30/08/2022 12:05

Unless otherwise specified people should pay immediately.
It's up to the person paying if they want to set more generous terms e.g. "just pay me back on the day" or "if I can have your payment by the end of the week, that would be great", and up to the one paying to request extra time, which should be agreed prior to purchase e.g. "I'd love to come but won't be able to pay until 1st month, let me know if that's OK with you" (this only really works with good friends who have already built trust).

If it's someone who doesn't have online banking or has other reasons I'm aware of that might make paying right away an issue, I'd message them personally e.g. I know you're away with work at the moment, so pay me when you get back.

Basically, invoke life rule number 1 - Don't Be a Dick

blumes · 30/08/2022 12:08

When did you buy the tickets and when did you send the message?

If 48 hours has passed I would send another message in the group chat saying only one of you has paid me, please can the you transfer the money owed as I'm currently out over £100

If no one transfers after that I'd then message individually

ItsSnowJokes · 30/08/2022 12:10

People shouldn't wait till payday unless that is agreed prior. Yes I get they may need to, but them the original purchaser may also need the money back to pay their own bills. If you can't afford to pay straight away then you can't afford the ticket.

Lopar · 30/08/2022 12:10

IncompleteSenten · 30/08/2022 11:21

Before the event and with enough time to sell their ticket at the very latest.

Never let them have the ticket and attend the event if they haven't paid or you've got bob hope of getting your money back.

If you don't give them the tickets, surely they won't pay for them at all! Even if you're waiting until after the fact, surely it's better to get the money back, instead of wasting the tickets and being responsible for writing off the cost.

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