To ask what’s a reasonable amount of time to pay someone for a ticket?

[youmademehatethiscity]

I’ve bought 5 tickets (1 for myself) and we all agreed to go, we all agreed the price, they knew I was going to buy them. It’s a seated event so made sense.

What a reasonable amount of time to pay someone back?

This. I'm in several WhatsApp groups, the signal to pay is as soon as the person posts a screen shot of the confirmation.

If they didn't pay up, I'd send one chaser on the group chat.

If they then didn't pay, I'd not offer to get tickets for them again. Real CF territory. Sorry

Did you ask her outright??

I bought some tickets earlier for something and I must have had the money from my friend in two minutes.

Minor update

End of the day when the 'paid' message is posted or first thing next morning. Some friends only look at messages once a day.

I dont think you've said how long you've actually been waiting.
In any case, if you can't afford to be without the money for even a short time then it is absolutely fine to ask for it before you buy the tickets. Much less stressful

Send a reminder out with the time it needs to be paid by and if not just resell/get a refund from the ones who haven't bothered.

I'd be annoyed if they hadn't even let me know that money was tight or whatever and they couldn't pay straight away but gave you a date of when they could. Especially if you had already been paid from work too.

Sounds like they're just trying to blag it and not have to pay if they're reading messages etc and not replying.

To suddenly give just over 3 hours to pay or lose your ticket is harsh - especially when there's been no warning. If OP had said last week that everyone needed to pay by 5pm today, that would be more fair.

meh. Fair is to pay as soon as OP said "here's the confirmation"

It wouldn't be a priority to me

Remind me never to volunteer to buy tickets for you. Doing the admin to buy tickets is doing a service, a favour.

It's really not right to be casual about paying back. A decent person would make a point of paying quickly and adding thanks.

@Trying20 I think maybe the OP just needed to be clearer about their expectations.

Fair enough. I prefer friends who are considerate and think beyond their own convenience.

As it happens, I have only ever offered to buy tickets for things that I really want to see and when I could afford to write off the cost in extremis.

I've been really pleased by everyone paying promptly with no expectation setting of follow up required.

It feels really, really unfair to have to set expectations and / or chase when you have done someone a favour.

Telling OP that they should have been clearer about when they wanted to receive the money feels a little victim blamey to me. I'd really not want to be in that position and would not willingly put someone in that position.

See that’s where we differ. You’re a grown adult and shouldn’t need reminding that someone has paid for something for you and you should reimburse that cost.

It’s an attitude that I will never understand.

i think we know who the CFs are in this thread

you should be treating things like this as if you personally were buying the tickets from the website/shop yourself and fork over the cash as soon as they are booked. OP: tell them you're charging interest.

@Trying20

Why not just pay people back when they first remind you? Then you can't forget and need reminding. Do you not have internet banking on your phone? It literally takes 2 minutes to transfer money to someone, being in the gym, or visiting family, or cooking a stew aren't really valid excuses.

Assuming that someone is happy to sub you money for weeks, and the onus is on them to remember and remind you, is pretty rude.

OP, take this as a lesson not to book things for this group without getting them to send the money first!

I hate owing people money so I'd have paid immediately and I'd expect friends to do the same.

An American friend was buying tickets for her and me (as a gift) today but the UK website kept rejecting her credit card. I said I'd pay and as long as she paid me before my cc bill was due it was fine. She PayPal-ed the money before I'd even finished the transaction.

How long ago did you buy these tickets?

Hey @youmademehatethiscity what’s the update?