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AIBU?

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Original poster

To ask what’s a reasonable amount of time to pay someone for a ticket?

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youmademehatethiscity · 30/08/2022 11:16

I’ve bought 5 tickets (1 for myself) and we all agreed to go, we all agreed the price, they knew I was going to buy them. It’s a seated event so made sense.

What a reasonable amount of time to pay someone back?

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SalviaOfficinalis · 30/08/2022 12:11

I’d pay straight away.

Although I would also assume that if someone volunteered to pay that they could afford to be out of pocket for a few days - so they may not realise it’s urgent.

I think it’s fine to send a reminder.

Rowen32 · 30/08/2022 12:19

It depends on how much - I've had it sorted on the day of the concert at times, it depends!

Selttan · 30/08/2022 12:21

Max a week. Any longer than that and I'd remind them. With online banking there's no excuse not to pay asap now.

I just bought tickets for 6 friends and they all paid me within 2 days.

MagnoliatheMagnificent · 30/08/2022 12:23

Maybe a week? I'm not very organised or good with online banking but hate owing money to people so would sort it quickly. I recently paid for tickets for 3 of us for a theatre trip, both my friends paid within half an hour of me giving my bank details!

SaggyBlinders · 30/08/2022 12:26

If someone else has ordered them, I pay immediately.

If I'm ordering them, I sometimes ask for the money before I buy them, depending on who it is. One of my friends took over 6 months to pay me back over a hundred quid last year, and it really fucked me off.

People who say "can I pay you back after payday?!" are cheeky fuckers.

Nekomata · 30/08/2022 12:32

I don't think it's about trustworthiness per se. I would pay straight away as I hate owing money but maybe others assumed you paid by credit card, so the bill isn't due until next month, so it's not so urgent.

Just send a message along the line of "It would really help me if you could all pay by the end of this week. Thanks so much. looking forward to it!"

Beyondshit · 30/08/2022 12:35

When did you buy them? This morning or a month ago?

Send a message if it was more than a few weeks ago - hi, still waiting on most of you to send me the money for the tickets. Please can you make sure you transfer by the end of tomorrow.

shazzybazzy34 · 30/08/2022 12:42

I think it is the rudest thing ever not to pay somebdy straight away for tickets. real CF thing to do.

Comefromaway · 30/08/2022 12:44

Before the tickets were purchased if you know the price.

I bought 6 tickets for a theatre show a few years ago. Because I didn;t know the exact price before the show went on sale I took a deposit from everyone that needed to be paid to me the day beforehand, then I put it on my credit card and said I needed the balance before the bill came in a month later.

KnowtheBand · 30/08/2022 12:50

IME people either pay same day or they've forgotten altogether.

Those who've forgotten with either be hugely apologetic and pay inesdiateky when prompted or will be a real pain and need chasing for weeks, by which time something will have come up which means they can't gone, but they're happy for you to sell the ticket to someone else....

TBH they're aren't many people I'd pay up front for these days. If it's not mone I can afford to lose, I get the money from them first

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youmademehatethiscity · 30/08/2022 12:52

Talia99 · 30/08/2022 11:55

I suspect a lot of people will be waiting for payday which is likely to be tomorrow if they are paid monthly. I’d give them to tomorrow afternoon.

We work together and so I know the pay day and it isn’t tomorrow. We got paid around a week ago.

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chillipenguin · 30/08/2022 12:52

24 hours unless they have agreed with you otherwise

chillipenguin · 30/08/2022 12:52

How long has it been?

Chocolatedip · 30/08/2022 13:01

Tag them in the chat and say you can see they have read the messages but haven’t paid for the tickets and can they do so in the next 48 hours.

SpiderinaWingMirror · 30/08/2022 13:01

I have a group of 5 friends that I have known 40 plus years, school friends. When we buy tickets we still put due by dates on our messages and speak up before purchase if anyone can't afford it, needs time to pay.

MarinoRoyale · 30/08/2022 13:05

As soon as possible but a week max is reasonable.

I made the mistake of not getting money in advance once and ended up adding on the cost of the interest on my credit card to what I asked the others to pay as they took so long. They weren’t happy but I’m not a bank and they were aware I was putting it on a card to get the extra protections of something went wrong.

Trying20 · 30/08/2022 13:13

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AnotherDelphinium · 30/08/2022 13:19

I always take money beforehand now, I’ve had this sort of thing previously.

However, I was once on the other side, where we’d been added into a group chat, someone was keen to go for an activity, I wasn’t very keen and said I’d need to check if I was off… next thing I’m being asked to pay up 🙄

NancyJoan · 30/08/2022 13:24

Have you sent a reminder? People forget, think ‘I’ll do it when I get home’, then other stuff happens. Annoying, but nothing to do with untrustworthiness.

LookItsMeAgain · 30/08/2022 13:44

Send a reminder.

"Folks - pay day was last week. One/Two/Three people haven't paid for their ticket. If the money isn't received by 5pm tonight, the tickets will be sold on/returned. Let me know if you need my bank details."

Then put the tickets up for sale or see if they can be returned.

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LookItsMeAgain · 30/08/2022 13:50

@Trying20 - they've had since last week, when they were paid. It's not harsh when you think they've had a whole week to do it. This is the reminder to pay up or miss out.

Winniethewheeze · 30/08/2022 13:53

LookItsMeAgain · 30/08/2022 13:50

@Trying20 - they've had since last week, when they were paid. It's not harsh when you think they've had a whole week to do it. This is the reminder to pay up or miss out.

But you can't just come out of the blue with a really arsey message like that. The OP didn't mention any kind of time frame to them before about payment, so she needs to give them a nudge first and if they still don't pay up, she can send something a bit more blunt.

Brefugee · 30/08/2022 13:54

I don't think it's reasonable to expect it "immediately" as some previous posters have suggested.

bollocks to that. If you want tickets and you're ordering them you have to pay when you order. If someone is kind enough to do that for you the least they should expect is to send a message saying "bought" and you pay the money that day.

I was caught out once like that a long time ago and now it's upfront if i don't know you, or on the day, and you are not getting your hands on the ticket until i have payment on my account. And i divide any booking fees and postage costs onto everyone'd portion.

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