To be embarrassed, so embarrassed ?

[DarkNights88]

Went on a work night out on Saturday. The whole team. It was at one of the colleagues homes.
Got very drunk. Very emotional and then had a headache and got tearful. My very motherly colleague sat in the other room with me stroking my hair while I cried and I then fell asleep while waiting for DH to come and collect me. Aibu to be so embarrassed and worried about work tomorrow?

I've done so much worse.

You're okay.

Depends! How old are you? How well do you know your colleagues? Is there a background story or did you just lose control?

That's the most embarrassing part. I'm in my late thirties, she's older, early fifties. I'm so annoyed at myself.
Was just feeling emotional. I don't drink much normally and not good at handling it.
We get on well at work but I'm so embarrassed that she spent ages stroking my hair and soothing me like I am a young woman or girl.

If you all are close enough to go round each other’s houses, then I suspect it will be fine.
You didn’t wet yourself, throw up in a plant or sit on anyone’s knee suggestively.
You’ll probably get ribbed- just laugh it off 😄

Is something going on, that is upsetting you?

Yes, do have some personal problems but nothing my colleagues are aware of.

If I've understood your OP correctly all you've really done is have a bit of a cry? It's not that bad, OP. If it makes you feel better i've seen people do much worse when drunk on work nights out including falling arse over tit down a flight of stairs, a wardrobe malfunction that meant we all saw far more of our colleague than we bargained for and a senior manager making a pass at a very junior (married) member of staff seemingly so drunk he forgot his wife was in the room! In your shoes I would probably send a nice text to the lovely colleague who looked after you, send an apologetic text to the host and laugh it off if anyone else at work mentions it.

Take her some flowers or chocs to say thank you- she probably has been there before herself! Pass the favour on when you are 50.

I think it was the fact she was being so physically affectionate with me which is embarrassing, that she was there for ages and seeing me like that. I have apologised and she's been lovely about it but still feels so horrible and awkward.

We get on well at work but I'm so embarrassed that she spent ages stroking my hair and soothing me like I am a young woman or girl.

However old we get, sometimes we just need someone to look after us and your colleague is wise enough to know that. She won't have minded, she's most likely been there herself.

At a work party once, one of my team mates had to be put to bed in our bosses bed (female manager about 60 lol she slept on the sofa ) because she was so drunk. We never let her live it down. Lol

"Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."
We all get upset sometimes and many of us get drunk and sometimes it's simultaneous  You didn't hurt anyone or do anything truly appalling. How lucky you are to have such lovely colleague.

*simulataneous

You are not the first to overdo it on a works night out and you won’t be the last.

I’ve done worse and witnessed very much worse.

Thank the colleague who helped you and you’ll be all good.

Its not that bad. Thank your lovely colleague for sitting with you and move on.

Just laugh it off, blame it on whatever you were drinking: 'ffs I always end up blubbing when i hit the voddy, I'm mortified ahaha' something like that.
I've done worse shit on a night out.

You could have done so much worse. You didn't break anything, vomit, soil yourself, or get aggressive or sexually inappropriate. Those are the things that would make me give you a swerve, in future. Being a bit teary would just make me want to keep a kind eye on you, especially if it was out of character.

@tortiecat your post is like a hair stroke in itself

Your colleague sounds lovely!

Maybe a wee bunch of flowers to say 'thank you for being so nice when I was a bit upset' would be nice?

Oh I've done and seen worse! You were drunk. These things happen when we’re drunk. You didn’t offend anyone, that’s the main thing. Head up and walk in tomorrow and move on.

I threw up on my boss's shoes once, if that makes you feel any better.

Haha. Just gotta laugh it off, could have been worse!

Please don’t worry. I have done much, much, much worse.

I performed a striptease for my work colleagues outside a kebab shop using a lampost for a pole. A car full of men drove past and threw a milkshake at me so I burst into tears. You'll be fine op.

Buy your colleague a bunch of flowers (or plant) as a thank you to thank her for being so kind and spending so much of her evening supporting you. Move on, but I would always remember her kindness!