To be embarrassed, so embarrassed ?

[DarkNights88]

Went on a work night out on Saturday. The whole team. It was at one of the colleagues homes.
Got very drunk. Very emotional and then had a headache and got tearful. My very motherly colleague sat in the other room with me stroking my hair while I cried and I then fell asleep while waiting for DH to come and collect me. Aibu to be so embarrassed and worried about work tomorrow?

Aww in that case OP don’t worry at all. People often love the chance to be kind to someone they like, or sometimes anyone at all, and vulnerability makes us all feel a little bit freer to be authentic ourselves. Don’t be embarrassed.

I thought it was going to be something daft.
Don't worry when they chat about it it be who vomited or got off with someone else, and when they mention what you did and your crime was you fell asleep and had a cry, people will go-is that it? It's not juicy gossip and if honest I'm a cry baby at work all the time, people expect it from me now lol
Trust me you are fine, laugh it off honestly.

TBh your colleague sounds like a lovely caring woman, she's probably more concerned about how you are.

My very first works night out at my very first job. wearing a dress with a circular skirt, and little thong knickers so no VPL.
Entered the room, which was a large hall with a staircase down to the bar and dance floor.
I slipped banana skin style on the top step, bounced down every step on my arse, and landed at the bottom on the dancefloor face down with my dress over my head. Right in front of my colleagues and the big boss.
Nothing like mooning everyone you work with on your first week for breaking the ice.

Aw OP, don’t worry.

first of all being in your 30s is young (I say this as someone in their late 40s!) and secondly work are sometimes are second family!

so many good suggestions on here, definitely style it out or I have two new suggestions (from my younger years where I regularly drank far too much with work colleagues):

• get in super early so that becomes the conversation or
• join the army or navy (a back up plan provided to me by a good friend! It never came to this though)

💐

Ah don’t worry op it’s ok. It’s not immature to be in need of kindness sometimes, it’s human.

I would feel the same OP - when I had colleagues, (I'm freelance now) to be seen as vulnerable would have been incredibly hard for me.

However. You did nothing wrong. This kind woman? She will almost certainly be happy that she could be there for you. You needed something, you were vulnerable, she comforted you.

I had to do that for a younger colleague when I was in my 30's, and she was in her early 20's. We were all drinking, but she was getting very upset and emotional, so I sobered up quickly, took care of her and got her home in a cab. I didn't give one thought about 'her behaviour' but just grateful that I was there, I was a safe place, and I could help her.

It's likely she feels something similar. Go easy on yourself.

That's nothing, I still wince at the thing I did forty years ago.

It gives me shudders.

All the best and positivity op

So laughing at the accidental stair-mooning and the milkshake striptease!
OP - don't worry.
Someone told me ages ago and I still remember it as being helpful , that after a big night out everyone wakes up going "omg what did I do?".
You have to remember that everyone else will be the same.
Someone is thinking " did I really tell Frank from accounts that he had gorgeous eyes? Kill me now"
Someone else will be thinking " I can't believe I farted in the lift - mortifying".
"Did I really do that stupid dance with the receptionist - geez was that even the receptionist or my boss?" etc etc
The only people who won't will be the one's who stayed sober and they are probably thinking "Bloody Veronica owes me for that Uber I had to roll her into". Guarantee nobody is thinking about you in a bad way. Nice comforting lady is probs going: "shit did I really pat that poor woman's hair for half an hour like a weirdo!"
All is good OP.

Lovely post marvellousmaple

I was about to tell the op my story to make her feel better.

I don't think she needs me now!

If it helps id have been there for you Monday morning. Mortified and relieved it wasn't me. But I'd be there!

I was about to tell the op my story to make her feel better.

I don't think she needs me now!

If it helps id have been there for you Monday morning. Mortified and relieved it wasn't me. But I'd be there!

It’s all good. And not odd that an older woman would do that at all, I often feel maternal towards younger colleagues even when not quite old enough to be their mother.
a quiet - thanks for looking after me - might be nice, and I’m sure she’s been on the reverse too.

If it makes you feel any better I went on a work night out, stayed sober but didn't feel very well. Ended up passing out several times, had an ambulance called & I shit myself in all the commotion. Showing my face the next day at work wow 😳

I'm in my 30s and happily accept that women in their 40s are very likely to be wiser than me.

Loads of colleagues are actual friends, by the way. It is allowed. Maybe this woman might enjoy giving emotional support? From all accounts she is exactly that kind of person.

That sounds very tame to me, it will be quickly forgotten, don’t worry about it.

Pretty sure it already is.

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