Friends a thief ...aibu to be disgusted?

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Friend rang me this morning all bright and cheerful.
Told me she placed a order with a online retailer (huge company )
They delivered her order late after paying for next day.
The box arrived all damaged but luckily everything was there.
She contacted customer services and said one item (£20 make up item ) was missing (it wasn't)
So they've refunded her
Aibu to be a bit disgusted ?
Her response was "I'm struggling with money at the minute "

I sell through amazon. Things are so bad at the moment that I'm not even earning minimum wage. People like you have no idea how much this theft costs us small businesses

YABU to be disgusted. I don't blame her because of the cost of things at the moment.

Make up is not essential like food. I would stop wanting to be with her. How long before she shop lifts? A thief is a thief. I would stop being friends with her.

There are so many more important things to worry about in life honestly, did you even stop and ask why your friend was in financial difficulties or if there was anyone you could do to help? The fact that she did that for £20 things must be bad, but all you can do is judge her a theif? I wouldn't want you as friend I think its a good idea you end the "friendship"

Did you read the two previous posts. Small business cutting their earnings and one student job gone, another earning below minimum wage and going to stop selling on Amazon . Both saying a direct results of thieving like this.
And we can multiple this by Thousands.
And as said, Amazon don't loose out on these thefts.
And when has it become acceptable to brag about being dishonest and being a thief.

I’ll also add if you steal 6 bottles of vodka and 6 bottles of whiskey from Tescos, they do not put the loss onto the price of spirits. They will put it on the price of essentials such as milk and bread. So we all end up paying!
Or they reduce staff costs so maybe they reduce hours. Either way innocent people end up paying.

Financial difficulty? I don't think so?

Greed, yes!

And people like this will also do similar against eBay sellers. I sold a Brownie uniform bundle once, posted by tracked delivery. Woman was going nuts saying it hadn’t been delivered, Royal Mail said it had been. She ended up with a refund, Royal Mail wouldn’t refund me. I not only lost my sale I was out of pocket as I’d paid postage!

Theft is theft whether from a large company or an individual. Would those of you condoning it feel the same if the friend had stolen £20 worth of cosmetics from the Op? Probably not. Also, don't complain about prices rises as they are often driven up as a direct response to losses incurred by theft. There is no such thing as a victimless crime. Your morals are on the floor!

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What nonsense.

The OP's friend is a liar and a thief. She is perfectly entitled not to want to condone her behaviour.

The fact that the Tories are vile individuals might be correct but it is also completely irrelevant. A corrupt government is not a licence for everyone to go around thieving.

This woman is not stealing because she does not have enough money for food but because she just fancied a free make-up kit....hardly a revolutionary fighting the good fight.

I understand i never said she was right but as a "friend" would you not stop to investigate why you're feels the need to steal £20 worth of goods? You as a seller have every right to be upset but me as a friend would be more concerned than judgmental.

If things are that ‘bad’ then she she didn’t need to be ordering £20 worth of makeup then did she?
she didn’t need to then steal it.
don’t try to paint over it, she’s a thief.

If she’s that broke, she didn’t need to order make up. I don’t know how people can live with themselves. I hate lying, it’s the small things like this which ultimately causes businesses to fold, us all to pay more.

She is a thief and I’d find it hard to be friends with her.

No wonder she's short of money if she is wasting it on make up

If you judge your friends for every misdemeanour, then you would have very few friends left...

Bit of context here... is she usually a chancer, or was this a one-off where she saw an opportunity and took it? Is she a close, reliable friend in general?

For the record, it's not something I would do, and I'd have told her that straight.

It doesn't matter what she took, the fact that a friend tells me she's having financial difficulties would overshadow the stupid makeup, I'd be more concerned about her wellbeing, im not in the habit of judging my friends. If we all had out fvck ups broadcasted on here I dont think anybody would come out squeaky clean.

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It was a £20 item of makeup.
That's not someone struggling to make ends meet, that's a grifter.

A relative works in a supermarket and they are going to be putting cameras in on the self scan that you cant see so i would advise them not to do it. You will be being watched all the time for sure.

Shops are well aware of whats going on.

It’s make up, not nappies or baby milk or anything else essential
Shes a thief and I would not be proud to call her my friend