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Woman trying to pull a fast one! Advice pls

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ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 12:48

I sold a shoe cabinet in face book market place. Very reduced. She picked it up yesterday and looked at it carefully and then decided to buy. I have her a further £5 off as she kept saying there’s a scratch.

my husband and her husband loaded it in the car and this morning I get a message from her saying can she have the other shelves as they are missing! I was confused as it was obviously there. There’s 4 shelves and she opened it infront of us and I saw too. I replied back that’s it’s impossible 3 of the 4 shelves have dissapeared. She keeps messaging me. Where do I stand? Husband not home and I’m home alone with my little kids. Say if she turns up?

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NannaKaren · 24/08/2022 22:39

She’s a scammer and pls block her and don’t worry any more xxx

ThisIsNotThePostYourLookingFor · 24/08/2022 22:44

Call her bluff and tell her to return it and get her money back

DadBodAlready · 25/08/2022 15:26

Its bought as seen. If she wanted additional shelves she should have asked before she handed over the money.

Lulusays · 25/08/2022 16:44

Not that it helps now (and I know it’s annoying to say something with hindsight), but for future reference that’s why I would never have someone come to my house. I sold stuff on eBay/gumtree and always met in a pub carpark so it was neutral ground. Too many peculiar/evil people around. Anyway, on this matter, it was sold as seen. She literally checked it over and you were there, she’s trying it on. Ignore, don’t reply, block and if she turns up call the police. Sometimes these people never intend to buy, they are casing houses to rob. Probably not in this case but just worth thinking about. Legally- you’re in the right, hold firm.

ThePumpkinPatch · 25/08/2022 16:54

ihatethefuckingmuffin · 23/08/2022 13:43

I sell a lot on fb.

After dealing with a couple of chancers who I would reply to with a breakdown of what happened. I now make them sign something. On the paper I also have the pictures of the item. Once the money has been given to me I take a picture of them with the item.

The chancers come up with a reason why they don’t want it.

before agreeing to let someone buy something I also search their name to see if others have had bad experiences with them.

Of she turns up put your chain on, explain that everything was there and close the door. If she carries on again with the chain on tell her if she doesn’t leave you alone you will be calling the police because of harassment.

I know how crippling anxiety can be. There are some amazing apps that are free that many people find very helpful.

Good idea but unless notarised, that isn't worth the paper it's written on legally. No legal worth or value whatsoever

ThePumpkinPatch · 25/08/2022 17:00

Missingpop · 24/08/2022 19:04

My daughter sells a lot of her work via Facebook & she has one golden rule sold as seen she makes sure people are happy with their purchase before they leave.
If she comes back don’t open the door, ignore her she got a fiver knocked off of it & is now trying to get more money back by pulling a fast one it’s a classic trick, but please don’t let this bullying woman trick you.
There are a lot of decent people out there who appreciate a bargain but sadly there are also some evil so & so’s who have no moral compass.
I hope your nerves settle down x

Then she's breaking the Law! 'Sold as seen' applies to used products and doesn't apply to business sellers!
Your daughter is bound by the CRA Act 2015 and cannot relinquish herself of this legal responsibility by repeating a phrase Hmm

MamaBearof4 · 25/08/2022 20:37

She's either a chancer trying to get her money back, or maybe her husband has taken the shelves out? Or they could ask be one on top the other at the bottom of the cabinet.
Either way, it's sold as seen - she checked it over pretty thoroughly by the sounds of it and her husband was the one who loaded it. If she paid cash, suggest she asks her husband, or checks the cabinet again, then block her. There is no comeback on sold as seen, especially if she paid cash. If she rocks up at your door, call the police.

withaspongeandarustyspanner · 25/08/2022 22:17

This is why I sell nothing on ebay anymore. I bought a beautiful vintage dress. It was handmade and from 50s/60s. It was tiny. I never fitted into it, so I listed it. Now bear in mind it was 60/70 years old, I listed it as vintage, I gave its approximate age, photographed it and sold it.

I received a message from the purchaser about the dress as there was a small pluck/hole in the front. It had always been there since I bought it and so I thought nothing of mentioning it. I figured she bought it and it did fit her either so decided to kick off and presumably wanted me to give her money off. Instead, I told her to return it and I gave her the money she initially paid. She was really annoyed that I didn't refund the postage she paid to return it, but I didn't budge.

I haven't sold a thing on ebay since.

toooldtocarewhoknows · 26/08/2022 10:14

ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 13:57

I’m giving what I can to charity now and just taking the rest to the tip. It’s too much stress. I sold a lawn mower this morning too and made sure the guy tested it out to show it works. Hopefully won’t hear from him later!

My friend always put things that can be reused outside outside her gate with a big notice.
'House clearance, please help yourself to this item , otherwise it is going to the tip'

Mark each item otherwise chances might help themselves to other things.

Her items disappear within an hour. Saves the hassle of going to the tip.

BR1967 · 26/08/2022 20:04

Hope you have a camera recording of her load up!

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