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Woman trying to pull a fast one! Advice pls

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ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 12:48

I sold a shoe cabinet in face book market place. Very reduced. She picked it up yesterday and looked at it carefully and then decided to buy. I have her a further £5 off as she kept saying there’s a scratch.

my husband and her husband loaded it in the car and this morning I get a message from her saying can she have the other shelves as they are missing! I was confused as it was obviously there. There’s 4 shelves and she opened it infront of us and I saw too. I replied back that’s it’s impossible 3 of the 4 shelves have dissapeared. She keeps messaging me. Where do I stand? Husband not home and I’m home alone with my little kids. Say if she turns up?

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Marvellousmadness · 23/08/2022 13:57

Anxiety sucks so i wouldn't have blocked her, but I would have set her straight in a final message and then just ignored her messages

She is Cray

RedHelenB · 23/08/2022 14:03

ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 13:25

I’ve just blocked her! I feel really shaky. I suffer from anxiety so this is worse for me. I’m worried she’s gonna turn up at my door!

In which case, for the sake of £30 you may be heater going to the tip or donating to charity. Forget about it now.

Maytodecember · 23/08/2022 14:10

Buyer beware.
Sold as seen.
She examined the object and handed over money, therefore she made a contract with you to take what she was offered.
Block her. If she turns up tell her the above.
she won’t.

GnomeDePlume · 23/08/2022 14:13

As a pp suggested, she is probably hoping you will give her most of her money back as she grudgingly decides she 'can try and do something with it'.

Her whole home is probably furnished with things she has essentially grifted.

Celticstranger · 23/08/2022 14:14

She is doing it because she has done it before and got away with it. Its a game, its not about the money.

IAmAWomanNotACis · 23/08/2022 14:20

I hope your anxiety eases. She hasn't got a legal leg to stand on (sold as seen/buyer beware, and in any case it's literally worth less than the fee for taking you to small claims court) and blocking her was the right thing to do.

Booklover3 · 23/08/2022 14:21

I doubt she’ll come back to your house. She’s just trying her arm. It takes far more courage to do that kind of thing in person. Lot easier via messaging.

Festoonlights · 23/08/2022 14:21

Block her.

Notjustabrunette · 23/08/2022 14:34

Sold as seen. End of discussion.

LookItsMeAgain · 23/08/2022 14:45

Peashoots · 23/08/2022 12:50

Block her. She’s trying to scam you into giving it her for free. Honestly tell her to fuck off and block. If she turns up ignore the door. If she doesn’t go away call the police.

All of this.

Selling anything privately, it is up to the buyer to ensure that they are happy with the product before they hand over their money. After that, it's Caveat Emptor (Buyer Beware). The onus is on the buyer not the seller.

Tell her that the shelves were there when the bookcase left your property and what happened to them after that is not your business. Tell her that if she continues to contact you about them, you will report her for harassment.

LookItsMeAgain · 23/08/2022 14:47

ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 13:57

I’m giving what I can to charity now and just taking the rest to the tip. It’s too much stress. I sold a lawn mower this morning too and made sure the guy tested it out to show it works. Hopefully won’t hear from him later!

Even if you do, the item worked when he bought it. What he does after that is not your concern.

If he comes back with some issue, block him too.

PinballWizard18 · 23/08/2022 14:48

ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 12:53

Legally where do I stand?

No legal recourse what so ever

She's a cf

madasawethen · 23/08/2022 15:21

I've had a few try things like this. I either block them if they are complaining online or if it's in person, I show them the door and just say, well I guess this isn't the one for you, good bye.

I find certain demographics are the worst. I don't even stress anymore with it. I just show them the door or block.

WisteriaLodge · 23/08/2022 15:26

Did she inspect it by the front door? Do you have a Ring camera? Stupid woman trying it on.

Branleuse · 23/08/2022 15:27

Tell her it was sold as seen, she inspected it in front of you and you graciously already gave her a discount, so you are afraid you cant do any more for her

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ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 15:29

Yeah she inspected it for a good 5 minutes and opened it. She managed to see a tiny scratch but missed 3 shelves missing! As i have anxiety i keep replaying it and I definitely saw the shelves in and when her husband lifted up I remember the shelves there and he took straight to the car on my driveway and nothing fell out.

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ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 15:34

There was something a little odd but I just thought it was eagerness at the time - she messaged me last week asking if she could have for half the price asked. I messaged her right back explaining someone is supposed to see but if they dont turn up I will let her have it as a reduced price. She was really eager and said she's on her way! I hadnt at this time given my address so i politely explained I will contact her if the other person doesnt show up. She messaged me everyday and I told her last night she can have it.

I dont know if its red flag or just eagnerness but I've not had this before. Most people just dont turn up. I've only listed for past 2 weeks not used. But i think I need to listen to my gut now

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eldora · 23/08/2022 15:37

Does that mean it was supposed to be £60 and she got it for £30?

It sounds like she’s decided she should have it for free and is whittling it down.

In her deluded she probably thinks she did you a favour taking it away so it should have been free.

Does she know you are moving?

Johnnysgirl · 23/08/2022 15:39

ChangeNane1 · 23/08/2022 15:34

There was something a little odd but I just thought it was eagerness at the time - she messaged me last week asking if she could have for half the price asked. I messaged her right back explaining someone is supposed to see but if they dont turn up I will let her have it as a reduced price. She was really eager and said she's on her way! I hadnt at this time given my address so i politely explained I will contact her if the other person doesnt show up. She messaged me everyday and I told her last night she can have it.

I dont know if its red flag or just eagnerness but I've not had this before. Most people just dont turn up. I've only listed for past 2 weeks not used. But i think I need to listen to my gut now

Just don't deal with anyone acting weirdly like that from the off. How was she "on her way" when she didn't even have your address at that point? Confused
Dealing with this nonsense can't be worth thirty quid.

Darkstar4855 · 23/08/2022 15:41

She’s just trying it on OP, block her and she’ll give up.

I sold a wardrobe online once for £100, buyer turned up and said sorry, I only have £80, is that ok? I said no, £100 or you don’t have it. She magically found another £20 in her pocket! It’s amazing how cheeky people will be if they think they can wring some extra cash out of you.

IAmAWomanNotACis · 23/08/2022 15:42

There was something a little odd but I just thought it was eagerness at the time - she messaged me last week asking if she could have for half the price asked. I messaged her right back explaining someone is supposed to see but if they dont turn up I will let her have it as a reduced price. She was really eager and said she's on her way! I hadn't at this time given my address so i politely explained I will contact her if the other person doesnt show up. She messaged me everyday and I told her last night she can have it.
I dont know if its red flag or just eagnerness but I've not had this before.

Yeah, definitely red flag territory. She is a "bargain hunter". Probably argues about 10p items at car boot sales.

All is done now, please try to put her out of your mind.

BangaloreLulu · 23/08/2022 15:59

Giving her the benefit of the doubt and just assuming she is a complete moron rather than driven by bargain-hunting frenzy, the shelves have probably tumbled off their pegs whilst in the car and are all now sitting neatly stacked on the floor of the cabinet, and just need sliding out and balancing back on their pegs again.

ThinkingaboutLangClegosaurus · 23/08/2022 16:21

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 23/08/2022 13:29

Sold as seen.

This is why I also don't like giving away items on Freecycle - last woman whinged a bit about a brand new work table (from my work) in a box. Yet I'd put pics etc of it up.

She complained about a brand new table you gave her free of charge? What did she want, you should pay her to take it away?

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/08/2022 16:32

Some people are determined that they should get anything they want for free or as near as possible.

Some of those people are just arseholes and some of them are running businesses reselling stock they've bullied, conned and tricked out of people, or have tried to.

There are groups/forums that share these tricks 'claim theres a scratch, claim somethings missing'... 'pretend you misheard the price and hand over a tenner less and if questioned say 'oh, im sure you said 30, not 40...' '

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 23/08/2022 16:49

Shocking to read this, next time if you ever sell anything take a photo so you have time / date when they arrived to pick it up and get them to sign a receipt that they have all the items as they sound mad. Why would you want to keep something that has no value to you. Good luck with the move as know is stressful.

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