Usually me and my husband get on very well. Since being pregnant with my 2nd he has more than pulled his weight with housework and sorting our 3 year old out. But this past week he has really pushed my buttons and I just can't drop it.
He's recently started gymming - already a contentious issue as he works 12 hour shifts so when he does this 3 times a week it means he's not around for any "evening time" until 10ish, which also fucks up dinner. A few weeks ago I found out my mum has terminal cancer and have obvs been struggling emotionally. Last week I had some temporary work on which had really long days and left me absolutely exhausted... I had warned him I needed him to pull his weight with dinners ect that week. So Mon/Tues he's off work, doesn't shop/meal prep ect. All week I ate noodles or ready meals. My son eats baked beans and the likes so hardly much graft for him. Then Friday night comes, off he goes to the gym, comes home and cooks himself a nutritious meal (2nd that week) and doesn't sit down until 10. I just lost it... In all the years I've dieted and exercised he's never got on board and now I'm pregnant dealing with the worst news of my life and he's prioritising the gym and his own nutrition. Doesn't bother to even make me an extra portion for the next day. I storm off... He makes no attempt to follow.
Yesterday I spent the day in bed crying. We had childcare for the first time in months but I just couldn't get past ot to enjoy quality time together. We had a huge row where he just argued with the small details... Couldn't see how his cumulative actions made me feel lonely and insignificant. And I'm double angry he ruined our date night. I also have some simmering anger about a childcare issue that popped up during the week too (as in he does nothing to arrange or ensure childcare is sorted... Apparently as a woman that's my job).
Tell me ... Am I being unreasonable? I just cannot soothe the rage I feel to forgive him and move on. I feel so depressed. Any advice?